Some thought-provoking comments have been left on some recent posts. They suggest that natural hair is only for the beautiful.
Comment #1
some of these same women who cannot let go of their hair have been called monkeys and too black and have seen their sisters and mothers run from the sun.
like i said before, i just feel that these women who have not yet freed themselves should be criticized because of it and to answer your question, no i don’t see many bald head dark skin women walking around just as they are not on tv or in magazines but i do see many dark skin women with blonde weaves and perms
beauty is superfical but it is the first thing that ppl will see and judge you on and you can’t deny that.
Comment #2
I really hate when ppl say that it is just hair, its not. never has been for black women and never will be.
also long hair is a preference to most black men so that is also an important aspect when it comes to dating with black women who wish to marry a black man. …
take me for example, i get many looks and compliments from ppl when my hair is out-long and relaxed but when i wear braids, i am hardly noticed.
for women who are not as extraordinarily gorgeous as zara is, it is not just hair.
and anything that god himself took the time, thought and consideration to bless us with can nver be JUST ANYTHING!
Comment #3
it is always someone who is beautiful who wants to talk about how beauty is not such a big deal…if you only knew.
I can understand the insecurity that leads many black women to pursue weaves/relaxers/extensions but I think that accepting natural hair has less to do with what’s beautiful/hot/attractive to others, and more to do with adjusting our view of what’s normal. Natural hair is just that — natural. It’s how our hair grows out of our head. Ultimately we have to come to terms with that, no matter what others think. That’s just my take.
What are your thoughts?
@12:45pm, jenteel says: by request from leila, i will post my thoughts originally posted as a comment on the matter:
i haven’t commented on a few of the recent posts because i could already see where the conversation was going…like foxy not-so brown stated on her very own feature, i too am really tired with the color complex “blame game”. like leila stated, the deeper issue is that black people lack unity.
look at black women. take a good hard look. the insecurities are plastered on front street. even these “celebrity” black women that are “worshiped” are not even secure enough in themselves to be themselves. yet i see women “envy” them and fall all over themselves in attempts to copy them. look at the numerous celebrities who get plastic surgery. the majority of black female celebrities have undergone rhinoplasty. i don’t know what it will take for women (and not just black women) to get it. THE INSECURITY NEVER STOPS, NO MATTER THE LEVEL. as previously stated, you have to fortify yourself with your own happy force field so that no one can touch you!
as a woman especially, you cannot rely on others to build up your self-esteem. even if you are seen as “beautiful” by the majority, you will still get criticized or judged. look at all the women taking the opportunity to cut down celebrities any chance they get on these gossip blogs; projecting their own insecurities trying to feel better about themselves.
i so respect this comment by shandra e because it is the pure honest truth: “i’m just SCARY without a cause & i’ll use any excuse to justify/maintain my fear!! =/lol.”
but i can’t stomach some of the others….i view some of the other comments as cross contamination of personal insecurity projected towards other women. i am not judging you, but your personal opinions do not reflect the purpose of this blog. there are too many beautiful black women showcased here. too many. you wanted “proof”, we give you proof. everyday. now maybe YOU don’t think these women are beautiful. this may be because of what your own opinions of beauty are, especially since most black women have been brainwashed since day one, usually by their own family members that they are not good enough.
but at BGLH, a wide range of beauty is profiled, so that women can “get it”. even if it may not be projected in your personal sphere, these pictures are supposed to serve as encouragement to counter the pressures and/or difficulties that may be encountered on the journey to go natural that is very much tied into acceptance of self.
once you make the decision to go natural there are no more excuses. you agree to accept your hair “as is”. if after going natural, you feel it’s not for you that’s fine too. we are given this life to make choices that suit our individual lifestyles.
i know where the insecurity is stemming from. we all know. there’s nothing wrong with experimentation but, point blank: if your security is chained together with a box of relaxer or weave or to what you think a man likes, those are issues that you and only you can confront.
we are all here to support one another on the unique natural journey, no matter what form that takes. but please stop making excuses and confront these personal insecurities. take action: surround yourself with positive/forward thinking people. limit your interactions with negative/toxic people. the process doesn’t happen over night, but at least try! then we can at least work together (instead of against each other) past them. similar to what monique stated: stop letting people tell you who and what you are. define for yourself who and what you are.
~j~
