When did you and your hus­band meet?
We met in Nige­ria at an engage­ment din­ner dur­ing the Christ­mas hol­i­day sea­son 2008, though he lived in Lon­don and I in the States. I actu­al­ly had a ter­ri­ble stom­ach bug and was not going to attend… I also wasn’t *TECHNICALLY* orig­i­nal­ly invit­ed since it was a more small inti­mate set­ting (con­trary to most oth­er Nige­ri­an wed­ding-relat­ed events) but my cous­in (a close friend of the bride) was able to pull some strings. And I had pre­vi­ous­ly met the bride a few times before this event through my cous­in so I wasn’t a com­plete stranger. So that’s my dis­claimer say­ing that I don’t nec­es­sar­i­ly endorse “crash­ing” engage­ment din­ners to meet a man… it just hap­pened that way! :)

When did you get mar­ried?
Hus­band and I had our “white wed­ding” cer­e­mony in a sub­urb of Chicago in May. I say that because we also had our tra­di­tion­al wed­ding cer­e­mony in Nige­ria 6 months pri­or (which involves native attire, not the white– or in my case ivory- wed­ding dress).

How was your big day?
Umm­mm… it was KINDA AMAZING!! It def­i­nite­ly had “yep knew some­thing would go wrong” moments, includ­ing being in the wrong bridal suite and my brides­maids get­ting into a near argu­ment with an uncom­pro­mis­ing moth­er [of anoth­er bride’s wed­ding bring held in the base­ment lev­el recep­tion hall of the coun­try club] *rolls eyes*. Also, our wed­ding was meant to be out­doors at this beau­ti­ful gaze­bo by a pond with a foun­tain and all that piz­zazz only to have had sud­den rain­fall and a sev­ere tem­per­a­ture drop just 30 MINUTES before the ceremony…so had to move every­thing inside. The Windy City stays true to its rep­u­ta­tion– AND it was SO gor­geous at the rehearsal the day before! Go fig­ure. *rolls eyes again*. We still end­ed up tak­ing pic­tures out­side after the cer­e­mony though. No regrets though, because in the end I mar­ried the most amaz­ing man!!

How did you wear your hair?
I wore my hair in a Janelle Mon­ae-like updo. I had gone through sev­er­al debates in my head dur­ing the months lead­ing up to the big day and con­sult­ed my sis­ter, cous­in and friends. Inter­est­ing­ly enough, my hus­band was TOTALLY averse to me hav­ing weave. So that option end­ed up fly­ing out the win­dow… though I real­ly am not a weave per­son at all. Even the con­sid­er­a­tion of it had me panicked–to the point of almost going again­st his wish­es. He was actu­al­ly okay with me hav­ing a fro, but I knew I was up again­st moth­ers and aun­ties that would have staunch­ly opposed such things– at least for the wed­ding.

Also, I knew I didn’t want to get micro-braids and I DEFINITELY wasn’t creamy-crack­ing my hair. I was then referred to Aeleise of HairLoveArt (http://www.hairloveart.com/) by my friend Ren­isha of Renewed­Fit­ness (http://www.renewedfitness.org/) and QUICKLY sched­uled a con­sul­ta­tion and appoint­ment with her for when I flew back to Chicago. I had also scoured the inter­net for nat­u­ral hair styles that I might have been able to pull off and found a SWEET nat­u­ral bridal style thanks to anoth­er friend of mine. Thus with Aeleise’s incred­i­ble expertise/finesse and inspi­ra­tion from the pic­ture, she was able to cre­ate a new, improved and FABULOUS ver­sion of the hair­style.

How did your family/husband/guests receive your hair at the wed­ding?
Haha­ha­ha­ha­ha! My fam­i­ly– well parents/in-laws/some old­er relatives–were most­ly in shock… at first. I had to debut the ‘do the night before actu­al­ly, since I had got­ten the style done a cou­ple days before the wed­ding. But once they saw the entire wed­ding look, they all def­i­nite­ly received it well! And oth­er fam­i­ly that were our age-mates, friends and guests loved it. Most impor­tant­ly, hub­by REALLY loved it. :)

Is there a blog/webpage where we can find you?
I’m just a Tweet­er of my ran­dom thoughts so https://twitter.com/#!/Ayodeli. But feel free to check out blog.alakija.com which is my husband’s blog :)

Also thanks SO much to Marc Climie for his amaz­ing pho­tog­ra­phy for our wed­ding (most of the pho­tos shown here are his), and to Enimien Etomi Inegbe­dion, Ade Oke­lar­in, Abi Yeni Rotimi (their image[s] also here) and the oth­er awe­some pho­tog­ra­pher friends/guests who attend­ed and took images! ”

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Wanda Renee

Beau­ti­ful! Con­grats!


Con­grats on the beau­ti­ful wed­ding and your hair looked Gor­geous. The pho­tog­ra­pher did a ter­ri­fic job on the pho­tos.


Ayo­dele You Look Absolute­ly Stun­ning. Beau­ti­ful Pic­tures. Your Day Looked So Much Fun and I Loved The Nige­ri­an Head-Wraps I Saw In Up In There. Con­grat­u­la­tions x

Annie L.

Okay…that dress is just, extraordinary..my Ga!

Beau­ti­ful hair and hus­band and pho­tos, just an entire amaz­ing pack­age, much hap­pi­ness to the two of you!


Absolute­ly beau­ti­ful cou­ple, the two of you should be in some wed­ding mag­a­zine or some­thing! Gor­geous


Just beau­ti­ful! Con­grats and many bless­ings to you both!


Thank you every­one! :) :) :)




Hel­lo Ayo,

This is so nice and fan­tas­tic.
I love it and will like to know more about the hair­style and ask some ques­tions.
Can you send me your email please?


is to write high qual­i­ty con­tent. this…

will entice read­ers to sub­scribe to your blog if your infor­ma­tion is good, and it’s a great way to get peo­ple to vis­it your blog more often for the good email tips that they are look­ing for.plus, when you write rel­e­vant…


Beau­ti­ful, Beau­ti­ful!!!