Soft, pli­able strands aren’t just a hall­mark of healthy hair, they also increase ease of styling and han­dling. But what if soft hair is elu­sive? Here are 10 rea­sons why your hair might not be as soft as you like

1. Product Buildup

Because nat­u­ral hair needs to be mois­tur­ized and sealed, it can be very easy to pile pro­duct on and go over­board. A dirty, itchy scalp, and strands that that are greasy, waxy, heavy and dull are tell­tale signs of buildup.

Clar­i­fy­ing rins­es and mud wash­es are a great way to remove buildup from your strands and scalp. Try a rin­se with apple cider vine­gar, dilut­ed bak­ing soda or Ter­ressen­tials Pure Earth Hair Wash.

2. You’re not Moisturizing Regularly

Whether it’s dai­ly or every few days nat­u­ral hair needs to be mois­tur­ized reg­u­lar­ly — espe­cial­ly if it’s being worn loose (in twistouts, braid outs, fros or puffs). Keep a soft­en­ing spritz handy, a glyc­er­in
and water mix (which can be made cheap­ly and eas­i­ly at home), is a great and effec­tive sub­sti­tute to store-bought spritzes.

3. Your Products are Too Harsh

Be cau­tious when deal­ing with sul­fate sham­poos and bak­ing soda. If your hair feels ‘squeaky clean’ after using them, it’s a sign that you’ve stripped the cuti­cle of nat­u­ral oils, remov­ing lubri­ca­tion and leav­ing it sus­cep­ti­ble to dry­ness and break­age. If your cleansers are too harsh, try dilut­ing them in water. And be sure to fol­low every cleans­ing with a thor­ough con­di­tion­ing to restore your hair’s mois­ture bal­ance.

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Bonita Puls

I have 18 years and am endur­ing hair loss. What can i do to avoid it friends? I have read that smok­ing is a cause of hair loss.I am a smok­er and i addi­tion­al­ly use gel in my hairs. Will my hairs regrow?


I received a sam­ple of this won­der­ful pro­duct called the Shielo Hydrate Mois­tur­iz­ing Sham­poo and expe­ri­enced sig­nif­i­cant improve­ment in my hair with just one use. I decid­ed to buy a bot­tle on line and my hair is now much soft­er and the smell is also great. I rec­om­mend this sham­poo all the time. For me, it’s well worth the price.

Michelle Morris-Pulliam

I have been so off my nat­u­ral hair game. I have to find a good solid and sta­ble con­di­tion­er. Some­thing I can do a co-wash with and then one to deep con­di­ton with. I tried using some of the more main­stream items, but you guessed it.…DRY.…

So, I fig­ure I will do some research and see whats going to be best for my hair type, which i have no clue what that is. After read­ing about it, I am more con­fused as ever.

Tonie Huddelston

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I am so glad that I had to dig this post and share with you. I final­ly, final­ly, found THE pro­duct. Aubrey’s hon­ey­suck­le rose con­di­tion­er. I’ve been nat­u­ral for 4 or 5 years now and have noth­ing to show for it. My hair bare­ly reach­es my neck, and that’s just at the back of my head. Now, I knew my hair was grow­ing but it got so tan­gled at the ends, extreme­ly dry, it would break off like crazy. Water, leave-ins, oils, no heat, apple cider vine­gar, no-poo, you name it, I did it all. So I decid­ed to hunt… Read more »
AX Woman
Hair soft­ness is not just the state of con­di­tion, it’s also a trait. All hair­types have a pro­por­tion of peo­ple whose hair is coarse and will nev­er have that soft feel or look. I do not have soft hair. That’s just not the kind of stuff that grows out of my head, and I have come to embrace my extreme­ly coarse hair shafts for what they are. In com­par­ison they look like tree trunks com­pare to every­one else’s flow­er stems. Sim­plic­i­ty works best for me: Keep it clean, stim­u­late my scalp, spritz hair often (I keep it hid­den in braids), and… Read more »
I’m feel­ing you sis­ta. lol at “super-thick” cuti­cle. Although pro­teins make my hair stiff.… i still do it every 6–8 wks or so because the hair needs it (just beca­sue my 4yr doesn’t like his veg­eta­bles doesn’t mean i won’t still give him. its the same way i treat my hair..the pro­tein is good for it every once in a while) i just don’t do it evry week nor do i leave it on for more than 20 mins.  1. Please tell me more about this cat­nip tea rin­se you talk about. 2. you say mois­tur­iz­ers are good for your hair..what do… Read more »
Father dis­pensed with a hoim­ly per se for the sec­ond week in a row in order to pre­pare us for the upcom­ing changes to the Eng­lish trans­la­tion of the missal. He empha­sized that the changes are not real­ly changes at all, but are rather an attempt to be more faith­ful to the Lat­in text. He went on to explain how many of the reforms to the Mass that we auto­mat­i­cal­ly asso­ciate with the Sec­ond Vat­i­can Coun­cil, such as the entire mass being in the ver­nac­u­lar, the priest fac­ing the peo­ple, etc., were not man­dat­ed by the Coun­cil at all. He… Read more »

i think it means con­di­tion­er


pls ladies has any­one tried this kynx hair care prod­ucts? what do u think am about to invest. thanks for any info i can get.


The word “coarse” is one of the words that I refuse to use for describ­ing hair since it implys rough but could used to mean thick­ness, tex­ture, and some­times it used to describe all eth­nic hair.

It is one of the most ambigu­ous hair terms.


I have a ques­tion and I hope you ladies can help me out. I’m a new­bie with main­tain nat­u­ral hair. This is how I mois­tur­ize my hair. I have this mix­ture which con­sist of Silk Ele­ment con­di­tion­er, almond oil, cas­tor oil, laven­dar oil and water. I fill a spray bot­tle with this mix­ture and spray my hair every morn­ing. If I spray at night I will use a lit­tle coconut oil on the ends after I spray. Would this be con­sid­ered mois­tur­iz­ing my hair? HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!

lillian mae


Sounds like you are mois­tur­iz­ing. I would add to the list the tech­nique used when you apply your sealant (in your case coconut oil). When you apply it, smoothe it on from the root of the strands down­ward, to close your cuti­cles and seal in the mois­ture. Your hair will be mois­tur­ized much longer this way. Adopt­ing this method has made dai­ly mois­tur­iz­ing unnec­es­say.

Here is how I mois­tur­ize my hair:


My hair has been nat­u­ral for 8 months. Every morn­ing I spray water on my hair then i put coconut oil on it. My hair is thick & soft & feels mois­tur­ized nev­er dry or “hard” Some­times i put styling gel or Can­tu shea but­ter leave-in con­di­tion­ing repair cream on my hair. My hair is coily/curly & i think water is the best dai­ly mois­tur­iz­er 4 nat­u­ral hair.


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Water,water, and more water…like every­day. In the show­er I don’t wear a cap often and I drink about 5bot­tles of water a day if not more!!..also I use olive oil( cream) and amp pro­tein gel and for styling I tie my hair up with a silk scarf!


I’m def­i­nite­ly going to try some Roux Poros­i­ty Con­trol prod­ucts. Num­ber 7 is my MAIN issue.


I’m a new nat­u­ral and i was won­der­ing do seal the ends of a braid-out/twist-out every oth­er night when you re-twist at night? I live in a cold cli­mate and i wear a braid­out and every night i re -twist with about 10 braids.


This video shows how the Main­stream Media manip­u­lates the minds of veotrs in this Coun­try. Most politi­cians are bought and post-free for by the cor­po­ra­tions. Like is shown here with Mitt Rom­ney. They didn’t want to show you his thoughts on Uni­ver­sial Health­care because they want you to either vote for him or Rick Per­ry. Rick Per­ry also wrote a encour­ag­ing mes­sage about Hillary Clin­tons Uni­ver­sial Health­care Work out. Dont believe every­thing you hear about the­se Top Lev­el Canidates.


Num­ber 8 was my cul­pit! I could not under­stand why after a day of my wash­ing and con­di­tion­ing rou­tine my hair felt so darn dry, but I got it right last week and the dif­fer­ence is 180 degrees from what nor­mal­ly hap­pens. I tell ya, you real­ly do learn some­thing new every day!


Hi great arti­cle. I think my prob­lem is high­ly porous hair but the link you pro­vid­ed to learn how to deal with porous hair is not work­ing. If pos­si­ble can you please rec­ti­fy Thanks


For poros­i­ty, I would sug­gest a pro­tein treat­ment. Just mix mayo and hon­ey with a lit­tle EVOO, leave on hair for 10 mins and fol­low up with a CD, should help tremen­dous­ly. I would do pro­tein twice a mon­th.


CD? what is it? thanks


She prob­a­bly meant to write DC, which stand for “Deep Con­di­tion­er.” ;)