How would you describe your tex­ture?
I have high­ly tex­tured, kinky hair. My hair is very dense, has low poros­i­ty, with medi­um to thick strands, and has about 75% shrink­age. My tex­tured tress­es can be a chal­lenge at times, but I wouldn’t have it any oth­er way.

Describe your styling reg­i­men over the course of the month.
Because, I have an 11 month old and I’m preg­nant again I don’t have the time to spend count­less hours on my hair. I gen­er­al­ly do a Ben­tonite/ACV treat­ment every two weeks; I pre-poo with coconut oil and deep con­di­tion. In between wash­es , I ACV rinse my scalp and/or co-wash, or cleans­ing co-wash based upon my hair needs. (I real­ly need to buy a clay wash for when I’m too lazy to mix and let the ben­tonite sit.) I do pro­tein treat­ments every 4–6 weeks, as need­ed. I tend to vary my styles, most­ly due to sheer bore­dom. I rotate rod sets, wet twist/braid outs/ dry twist/braid outs, twists, and straight styles.

What does wash day look like for you?
Before I switched to a clay rou­tine, I pre-pooed with Coconut oil and water, washed, and con­di­tioned. I now do ben­tonite/ACV treat­ments to wash my hair since I only use clay to clean my hair. ( I plan on pur­chas­ing Ter­re­sen­tials for my lazy wash days.) I first co-wash my hair with VO5 Con­di­tion­er. Then I mix up Ben­tonite Clay and ACV to a yogurt con­sis­ten­cy using plas­tic uten­sils. I leave on the Ben­tonite treat­ment for about 25 min­utes. (Make sure that it does not hard­en on your hair!) I then deep con­di­tion with or with­out a dry­er for 20–30 min­utes with a con­di­tion­er like Yes to Cucum­bers.

Before I wash all the con­di­tion­er out of my hair, I detan­gle my hair in sec­tions under run­ning water. If I need more slip, I use V05 con­di­tion­er. I rinse with cold water to seal and add a leave-in like Gio­van­ni Direct leave-in and pro­ceed to styling. When I co-wash I often use V05 Con­di­tion­er or Aussie Moist. For a cleans­ing con­di­tion­er, I use Shea Mois­ture Purifi­ca­tion Masque. To add some cleans­ing pow­er and to help with detan­gling, I do an ACV rinse (1 part ACV, three parts water) pri­or to my wash rou­tine.

Describe your favorite go-to hair­style for days when you don’t have a lot of time to style?
When I don’t have enough time to style my hair, I do a wash ‘n go puff or updo. I just co-wash, leave some V05 con­di­tion­er and and oil like avo­ca­do oil, style and go. I also do a “mod­i­fied” wash ‘n go, where I will spritz my hair to damp­en and add a leave-in like Shea Mois­ture Replen­ish­ing Con­di­tion­er and add an oil. (I’ve tried dif­fer­ent con­di­tion­ers and leave-ins, and cer­tain con­di­tion­ers work bet­ter depend­ing on how I am styling my hair.) You just have to be care­ful with wash ‘n gos, because they result in more sin­gle strand knots.

How do you com­bat shrink­age?
The best thing I’ve done to com­bat shrink­age, is switch­ing to a clay rou­tine. Since the begin­ning of my jour­ney, I’ve done ben­tonite/ACV treat­ments once a month. The oth­er weeks, I used a sul­fate-free sham­poo. But as my hair grew, the shrink­age became more of a prob­lem. I tried every trick, includ­ing wash­ing in braids. ( I hat­ed it because, I felt like I was manip­u­lat­ing my hair too much and my hair would always unrav­el while wash­ing.) One week I was wash­ing with sul­fate-free sham­poo, and remem­bered how much of a breeze my wash­ing rou­tine was with ben­tonite. That was the last time I used sul­fate-free sham­poo. I haven’t looked back since. Have I men­tioned that curls are pop­ping, less tan­gles, and more stretch?

My oth­er means to com­bat shrink­age include: mini-pineap­ples, band­ing, cul­form­ers, braid­outs, and blowdry­ing my hair. (I know…heat.. gasp. My hair has no issues with heat and curls back with a drop of water.)

What are some of your prob­lem areas (if any) that require extra care and atten­tion?
The top of my hair is fin­er than the rest of my hair and has a much loos­er curl pat­tern. So I have to be care­ful when manip­u­lat­ing or plac­ing heat in that area.

What are 2 do’s for your tex­ture?
1. Do lim­it unnec­es­sary manip­u­la­tion of the hair. I don’t per­son­al­ly do a lot of pro­tec­tive styles, but even with­out pro­tec­tive styling I lim­it manip­u­la­tion of my hair.

2. Do try to keep your hair stretched. Because I’m preg­nant and have an 11 month old, I’ll admit that I’ve been pret­ty lazy with my hair. Ide­al­ly, I should stretch my hair with curl­form­ers, blow dry on low or cool, or do braid­outs, but I do wash ‘n go puffs. But even when I do that, I try to keep my hair stretched while dry­ing via mini-pineap­ples or band­ing. I’ve also mas­tered detan­gling fol­low­ing the wash ‘n go. Despite that, I rec­og­nize that I will get more sin­gle strand knots and will have to clip my ends more fre­quent­ly.

What are 2 don’ts for your tex­ture?
1. Don’t blind­ly fol­low band­wag­ons. Take the time to do your research. You should also base your deci­sions upon what has and hasn’t worked on your hair.

2. Don’t detan­gle your hair if you don’t feel like it or are in a rush. (Unless you want tons of break­age.) If I don’t feel like doing my hair, I don’t. I usu­al­ly do a quick fix and tack­le the beast when I am in the mood. Also, from tri­al and error, I’ve learned what is best for detan­gling. ACV rins­es (3 parts water, one part apple cider vine­gar) make a major dif­fer­ence in detan­gling. I also detan­gle in sec­tions under run­ning water. Since I don’t wash my hair in braids, I’ve adopt­ed a wash method that lim­its shrink­age. I stick to clay wash­es. I used to do ben­tonite treat­ments once a month and it was a breeze. Then I noticed that when I washed with sul­fate-free sham­poo, it was a night­mare. So I stopped wash­ing with reg­u­lar sham­poo and haven’t looked back since.

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This is absolute­ly per­fect for me. I’m new­ly nat­ur­al & I have all the prod­ucts that you use. I want to start a good regime ear­ly in the game so my hair can grow in health­i­er. =D


I have dry hair and after tree braids it began tan­gled (hor­ri­ble hand fulls of hair shed and tan­gled). I water and oil at least 5 times a week. 

Ques­tion do you think the clay is too dry­ing? Do you know the PH of clay mix­ture? I real­ly need length­en and detan­gle sounds like this is the best of both worlds. 

Prob­lem — washed hair to ear plat to should stretched too bra length. Sug­ges­tions. Thanks


OMG I just used the ben­tonite clay hair mask and I am very sat­is­fied with my results… Like I my curls were pop­ping and shrink­age was reduced. Ben­tonite is my new best friend…never going back. Thanks for the inspi­ra­tion.


Your hair looks so good; I too have SUPER thick hair that is very loose and wavy at the crown area. I am very inter­est­ed in this clay wash, can you tell me how exact­ly you use the clay (just with water?). Also i am not sure if any­one else has this prob­lem, but my hair is NOT retain­ing any mois­ture and is con­stant­ly dry. I am not sure if any­one has any sug­ges­tions for a new nat­ur­al???


I will def­i­nite­ly start try­ing the clays and co-wash meth­ods. After more than 2 years, my hair has not grown to lengths or main­tained health as I’d hoped going nat­ur­al would have made it. I’m not sure that I know how to co-wash prop­er­ly and the thought of ACV leav­ing my hair smelling acidic scares me. But if this works, giv­en myself and LaToya seem to have the same hair tex­ture, I may become a believ­er.


hi joy =)
The ACV smell will fade when it dries. My favorite ACV rinse: 2oz of Apple Cider Vine­gar, 8oz of water (boiled then cooled), 6 drops each of Rose­mary and Laven­der essen­tial oil. I often put this mix in the fridge a day before I engage in my hair rit­u­als. Seals cuti­cles, adds shine and sheen, and makes for easy detan­gling even before I add my pH bal­anced leave-in.


I have also just switched to clay wash­es. My hair is shinier and retains mois­ture longer. Curls are also pop­ping! I don’t think I will ever go back to sham­poo…




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My twin! I’ve been want­i­ng to try clay, but I don’t know where to find it. Any sug­ges­tions besides online? I like to hold things in my hand before online buy­ing.


You can find it at vit­a­min shoppe and any nat­ur­al food store


Whole­foods sells Aztec Secret Indi­an Heal­ing Clay


Love­ly and refresh­ing! And what a beau­ti­ful baby!

Hmmm…looks like I have to try Ben­tonite Clay now…lol


Need an advice girls.…I love my coils and nev­er want to loose them from my hair since that is what makes the hair looks live­ly. How­ev­er it means that I am unable to comb my hair oth­er­wise then I will los­es the coils. I do not know how long I can keep up with not comb­ing the hair.….cos I am sure the longer it grows will require some comb­ing


Toya is Co-Founder of the Delaware Nat­u­ral­is­tas… see more about her jour­ney at


Thanks Stephanie for the shout out! Please check us out. Now that our expo is over, we will resume reg­u­lar post­ing :-)


Beau­ti­full woman/hair/family


Her hair looks great! Love the pic­tures! Cute fam­i­ly.


We have the same name:))) Love your hair!


I think I found my hair twin!


So does any­one know how to make a ben­tonite clay wash? The last time I used ben­tonite on my hair I applied it like a relax­er and washed it out. Is there anoth­er way to apply? I’m on a mis­sion to use less prod­ucts.


Beau­ti­ful fam­i­ly and hair! :-)

I love Ben­tonite clay wash­es and I use ACV rins­es after sham­poos or sham­poo bars. My hair def­i­nite­ly loves these prac­tices. This whole post was real­ly help­ful.


Thank you! I’m glad you found it help­ful. Clay wash­es made such a notice­able dif­fer­ence in my hair rou­tine. Love them :-)


Got­ta learn more about those clay wash­es.



What are the most affec­tive and effi­cient ways you stretch and keep your hair stretch?


To keep your hair stretched, you can pineap­ple, retwist or rebraid, or band your hair.

Her issues sound sim­il­iar to mine and her tex­ture seems sim­i­lar as mine as well, now I am seri­ous­ly curi­ous about ben­tonite clay as a hair wash. I agree with her about the ACV, since I start­ed doing them I have nev­er looked back. Pre­poo­ing showed no improve­ment after wash­ing so I just don’t do it. But my ques­tion to the “DON’T” sug­ges­tion num­ber 2. “Don’t detan­gle your hair if you don’t feel like it or are in a rush.”  ***What quick fix­es do you have?*** I been try­ing to make a list of quick fix­es that doesn’t require a lot of detan­gling and… Read more »
My quick fix all depends on the sit­u­a­tion. If my scalp needs a quick cleans­ing and I don’t feel like wash­ing, I’ll put ACV/water in a dye appli­ca­tor bot­tle. If I have an old twist out, I’ll light­ly spritz for pli­a­bil­i­ty and do an updo. Anoth­er option is to spritz with enough water to bring out your curl pat­tern and add mois­ture, but not enough to make your hair shrink. Or… I may co-wash and not detan­gle or fin­ger detan­gle to get the major tan­gles out. It is a bit of tri­al and error to fig­ure out what works for… Read more »

The hair reg­i­men is so sim­ple which is real­ly moti­vat­ing.


co-sign on the clay wash­es and masks.

and her hair is pret­ty.