By Jc of The Natural Haven

I know this one is controversial because many of us love our braids with added hair, weaves and wigs. Yes, I really am saying stop using them (eek don’t stone me!).

When are extensions ok? 

Let me contradict myself for a moment and say that using extensions as a temporary style to ‘save’ your hair/mind from damage is perfectly fine. The possible scenarios

1. You are transitioning, one day you become convinced that you have to chop your hair which you do only to panic because you are not comfortable with how you look – slap on that wig, put in some extensions, don’t drive yourself crazy over it. Work on the mental transition first before the physical.

2. You have been battling your hair for a few weeks, you are not sure what techniques work for you and the only thing growing is frustration. Sure cover your hair up for a short time (1-2 months)

When do Extensions Become a Problem?

In priniciple extensions are fine if used for a short period of time or for temporary styling. If they become part of a daily routine, they can seriously hinder your progress towards great hair. Why do I say this?

1. When hair is in extensions, you forget about it. You don’t need to worry too much about handling it or keeping its moisture balance………..the key skills necessary for natural hair. 

If it is your intention at one point to simply wear your own hair and nothing else then the best way to gain experience in this is to actually start doing it. I know that some people will say,

‘Oh but I moisturise my hair even when it is under a wig’ or ‘I still wash and condition my hair in braids’.

My response is that of course you do but you don’t have to deal with fuzz or shrinkage or even handling your hair when wet. Get the full natural experience, learn what your hair likes and dislikes….deal with your hair

The Ultimate Benefit of Abandoning Extensions 

2. The top benefit of wearing your natural hair 100% of the time is beyond the physical experience but rather a mental one. You have to love the person in the mirror and you have to see her as beautiful (failure is not an option if you want to be happy with your self image).

It is a life altering experience to know that your beauty does not rely on what others tell you but rather what you see. This has been my experience and I can confidently say that yes I am cute all day, every day 🙂

Ladies, what are your thoughts??

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141 Comments on "2 Reasons To Abandon Hair Extensions"

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I so totally agree with this well-articulated post. I believe this article, if taken the right way, will encourage ladies to embrace their natural hair instead of always hiding it.

I somewhat agree and disagree. I have to say I will never fully abandon extensions. I like them. I wore them when I was younger. I began to feel irritated with my hair being in braided extensions a few years ago. That is when I started to wear my hair out. I still didn’t know what I was doing with my hair, so I put in some more braided extensions to help me out. I finally realized what I was doing wrong and remedied the problem by just wearing my own hair in twists. I am currently in an academic… Read more »

ITA with everything u wrote in this article. I had to learn this the hard way, but am SO glad to have gotten to know my own hair & how to care for it. the only way is to JUST DO IT everyday. explore UR hair & what it likes & makes it thrive. it’s hard to do that when u dont have access to it.


Black women are too focused on what the next black woman does with her hair. Do what you want to your own hair. Everyone doesn’t go natural for the same reasons and this is the main reason why some people who are natural are always wearing wigs or weaves because everyone doesn’t go natural for the same reason. So to the author, if they don’t want to deal with their hair maybe it’s because they never intended to. I’m so sick of this political hair talk, open your mind.


I say do what you please with your hair. What maybe good you may not be good for some. Different strokes people lol. In my opinion I don’t many naturals use extensions to “hide” their hair. After all they did go natural and that is the first step to embracing natural hair. Hair is nothing more an accessory. It’s apart of you it doesn’t make you.


Wow, I must say that I truly am thankful for this website, and I know now that I am FINALLY confident enough to face my hair on 100%. I have been natural for almost 10 years and just recently I am finally learning what works for my hair and what doesn’t. This post caught my eye as I was thinking about getting a “protective” style w weave added. I’m good. Accepting my hair for what it is. Thank you. Peace and much love.

I agree that sometimes when I have met women who are recently natural, they’re still not comfortable with their real hair due to the texture or the length of their shrunken hair, big chop etc. Its easy to keep wearing wigs and weaves, but how will you ever feel comfortable with your natural hair if you never wear it outside of your bathroom? When I went natural in 2004 I wore my hair everyday because I had worn braids all through middle school and high school and wanted something new. That first year allowed me to become comfortable with my… Read more »

Agreed. 🙂

I agree, too. Lots of ladies are hiding behind wigs as “protective styles.” The only way to embrace your natural beauty is to see it. All the time. Normalize it. And then you’ll see it free from social context and realize that it’s beautiful. I know black ladies love their wigs/weaves, etc… but, honestly, that ish looks really crazy, and kind of sad. You know how people laugh at white guys with toupees and plugs? You think your wig is any less obvious or funny? It isn’t. I’m a black woman and I do my share of snickering. It ain’t… Read more »

Naw, that wasn’t harsh, that was hard core truth. I know VERY FEW women rocking a weave that looks like real hair. My sisters always have some neighborhood beauty supply hair sewn or glued on their heads and they look absolutely ridiculous. It reminds of the hair on those Barbie Dollheads we used to get when we were little back in the day. It does not look real (or good)!


“I know black ladies love their wigs/weaves, etc… but, honestly, that ish looks really crazy, and kind of sad. You know how people laugh at white guys with toupees and plugs? You think your wig is any less obvious or funny?”

I really agree, though this statement is mad harsh. I hate seeing us walk around with shiny plastic on our heads. Eekk.

I know, it does sound harsh. But I guess my position is that sometimes the truth hurts. We’re all going around chasing some false ideal of beauty, and not seeing what’s actually true – that it looks ridiculous. The truth is that black women are BEAUTIFUL just the way God made us. And denying that is silly. It looks silly. And sometimes it’s kinda funny. Forgive my callousness. But, shoooot! Sometimes this stuff needs to be said. If others don’t agree, that’s cool. But I hope people take my little comments as an invitation to look at themselves with fresh,… Read more »

I agree with you comment.Truth ain’t meant to be feel good!

Kinky hair will never be shiny it has a low refelction of light called SHEEN so if weaves are used then the more realistic the better. My take on it is that the hair under the wevae should be thriving and longer than you thought it was. LOL

Rukiyat G.


Many ladies are wearing weaves/ braids/ extensions as a “protective style” but they stay in an eternal state of cover-up and rarely show their own hair. Healthy hair is important, but a healthy self image is even more important. I think the key component of a healthy hair journey is gaining comfort and happiness this what we are working with naturally and improving upon that. Not knocking anyone wiggin’ or weavin’ it up (hey, I do it too), but a lifestyle of that is not celebrating what we were born with.


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its very detailed and informative 🙂