By Jc of The Nat­u­ral Haven

I know this one is con­tro­ver­sial because many of us love our braids with added hair, weaves and wigs. Yes, I real­ly am say­ing stop using them (eek don’t stone me!).

When are exten­sions ok? 

Let me con­tra­dict myself for a moment and say that using exten­sions as a tem­po­rary style to ‘save’ your hair/mind from dam­age is per­fect­ly fine. The pos­si­ble sce­nar­ios

1. You are tran­si­tion­ing, one day you become con­vinced that you have to chop your hair which you do only to pan­ic because you are not com­fort­able with how you look — slap on that wig, put in some exten­sions, don’t dri­ve your­self crazy over it. Work on the men­tal tran­si­tion first before the phys­i­cal.

2. You have been bat­tling your hair for a few weeks, you are not sure what tech­niques work for you and the only thing grow­ing is frus­tra­tion. Sure cov­er your hair up for a short time (1–2 months)

When do Exten­sions Become a Prob­lem?

In prinici­ple exten­sions are fine if used for a short peri­od of time or for tem­po­rary styling. If they become part of a dai­ly rou­tine, they can seri­ous­ly hin­der your pro­gress towards great hair. Why do I say this?

1. When hair is in exten­sions, you for­get about it. You don’t need to wor­ry too much about han­dling it or keep­ing its mois­ture balance.….……the key skills nec­es­sary for nat­u­ral hair. 

If it is your inten­tion at one point to sim­ply wear your own hair and noth­ing else then the best way to gain expe­ri­ence in this is to actu­al­ly start doing it. I know that some peo­ple will say,

‘Oh but I mois­turise my hair even when it is under a wig’ or ‘I still wash and con­di­tion my hair in braids’.

My respon­se is that of course you do but you don’t have to deal with fuzz or shrink­age or even han­dling your hair when wet. Get the full nat­u­ral expe­ri­ence, learn what your hair likes and dislikes.…deal with your hair

The Ulti­mate Ben­e­fit of Aban­don­ing Exten­sions 

2. The top ben­e­fit of wear­ing your nat­u­ral hair 100% of the time is beyond the phys­i­cal expe­ri­ence but rather a men­tal one. You have to love the per­son in the mir­ror and you have to see her as beau­ti­ful (fail­ure is not an option if you want to be hap­py with your self image).

It is a life alter­ing expe­ri­ence to know that your beau­ty does not rely on what oth­ers tell you but rather what you see. This has been my expe­ri­ence and I can con­fi­dent­ly say that yes I am cute all day, every day :)

Ladies, what are your thoughts??

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I so total­ly agree with this well-artic­u­lat­ed post. I believe this arti­cle, if tak­en the right way, will encour­age ladies to embrace their nat­u­ral hair instead of always hid­ing it.

I some­what agree and dis­agree. I have to say I will nev­er ful­ly aban­don exten­sions. I like them. I wore them when I was younger.  I began to feel irri­tat­ed with my hair being in braid­ed exten­sions a few years ago. That is when I start­ed to wear my hair out. I still didn’t know what I was doing with my hair, so I put in some more braid­ed exten­sions to help me out. I final­ly real­ized what I was doing wrong and reme­died the prob­lem by just wear­ing my own hair in twists. I am cur­rent­ly in an aca­d­e­mic… Read more »

ITA with every­thing u wrote in this arti­cle. I had to learn this the hard way, but am SO glad to have got­ten to know my own hair & how to care for it. the only way is to JUST DO IT every­day. explore UR hair & what it likes & makes it thrive. it’s hard to do that when u dont have access to it.


Black wom­en are too focused on what the next black wom­an does with her hair. Do what you want to your own hair. Every­one doesn’t go nat­u­ral for the same rea­sons and this is the main rea­son why some peo­ple who are nat­u­ral are always wear­ing wigs or weaves because every­one doesn’t go nat­u­ral for the same rea­son. So to the author, if they don’t want to deal with their hair may­be it’s because they nev­er intend­ed to. I’m so sick of this polit­i­cal hair talk, open your mind.


I say do what you please with your hair. What may­be good you may not be good for some. Dif­fer­ent strokes peo­ple lol. In my opin­ion I don’t many nat­u­rals use exten­sions to “hide” their hair. After all they did go nat­u­ral and that is the first step to embrac­ing nat­u­ral hair. Hair is noth­ing more an acces­so­ry. It’s apart of you it doesn’t make you.


Wow, I must say that I tru­ly am thank­ful for this web­site, and I know now that I am FINALLY con­fi­dent enough to face my hair on 100%. I have been nat­u­ral for almost 10 years and just recent­ly I am final­ly learn­ing what works for my hair and what doesn’t. This post caught my eye as I was think­ing about get­ting a “pro­tec­tive” style w weave added. I’m good. Accept­ing my hair for what it is. Thank you. Peace and much love.

I agree that some­times when I have met wom­en who are recent­ly nat­u­ral, they’re still not com­fort­able with their real hair due to the tex­ture or the length of their shrunk­en hair, big chop etc. Its easy to keep wear­ing wigs and weaves, but how will you ever feel com­fort­able with your nat­u­ral hair if you nev­er wear it out­side of your bath­room? When I went nat­u­ral in 2004 I wore my hair every­day because I had worn braids all through mid­dle school and high school and want­ed some­thing new. That first year allowed me to become com­fort­able with my… Read more »

Agreed. :)

I agree, too. Lots of ladies are hid­ing behind wigs as “pro­tec­tive styles.” The only way to embrace your nat­u­ral beau­ty is to see it. All the time. Nor­mal­ize it. And then you’ll see it free from social con­text and real­ize that it’s beau­ti­ful. I know black ladies love their wigs/weaves, etc… but, hon­est­ly, that ish looks real­ly crazy, and kind of sad. You know how peo­ple laugh at white guys with toupees and plugs? You think your wig is any less obvi­ous or fun­ny? It isn’t. I’m a black wom­an and I do my share of snick­er­ing. It ain’t… Read more »

Naw, that wasn’t harsh, that was hard core truth. I know VERY FEW wom­en rock­ing a weave that looks like real hair. My sis­ters always have some neigh­bor­hood beau­ty sup­ply hair sewn or glued on their heads and they look absolute­ly ridicu­lous. It reminds of the hair on those Bar­bie Doll­heads we used to get when we were lit­tle back in the day. It does not look real (or good)!


“I know black ladies love their wigs/weaves, etc… but, hon­est­ly, that ish looks real­ly crazy, and kind of sad. You know how peo­ple laugh at white guys with toupees and plugs? You think your wig is any less obvi­ous or fun­ny?”

I real­ly agree, though this state­ment is mad harsh. I hate see­ing us walk around with shiny plas­tic on our heads. Eekk.

I know, it does sound harsh. But I guess my posi­tion is that some­times the truth hurts. We’re all going around chas­ing some false ide­al of beau­ty, and not see­ing what’s actu­al­ly true — that it looks ridicu­lous. The truth is that black wom­en are BEAUTIFUL just the way God made us. And deny­ing that is sil­ly. It looks sil­ly. And some­times it’s kin­da fun­ny. For­give my cal­lous­ness. But, shoooot! Some­times this stuff needs to be said. If oth­ers don’t agree, that’s cool. But I hope peo­ple take my lit­tle com­ments as an invi­ta­tion to look at them­selves with fresh,… Read more »

I agree with you comment.Truth ain’t meant to be feel good! 

Kinky hair will nev­er be shiny it has a low refelction of light called SHEEN so if weaves are used then the more real­is­tic the bet­ter. My take on it is that the hair under the wevae should be thriv­ing and longer than you thought it was. LOL

Rukiyat G.


Many ladies are wear­ing weaves/ braids/ exten­sions as a “pro­tec­tive style” but they stay in an eter­nal state of cov­er-up and rarely show their own hair. Healthy hair is impor­tant, but a healthy self image is even more impor­tant. I think the key com­po­nent of a healthy hair jour­ney is gain­ing com­fort and hap­pi­ness this what we are work­ing with nat­u­ral­ly and improv­ing upon that. Not knock­ing any­one wig­gin’ or weav­in’ it up (hey, I do it too), but a lifestyle of that is not cel­e­brat­ing what we were born with.


check out my video post on dry detan­gling on my site:
its very detailed and infor­ma­tive :)