Jada Pinkett has spoken openly about her parenting style, which includes allowing her children to express themselves in how they dress and style their hair. While son Jaden recently cut his hair and rocks a simple short cut, daughter Willow is constantly experimenting with color and texture. And of course, people have a lot to say about it, with Willow’s styles often popping up on gossip blogs. Apparently Jada is fed up with the commentary, and took to Facebook to set people straight. Click below to read the note and see some of Willow’s styles.

A letter to a friend…

This subject is old but I have never answered it in its entirety. And even with this post it will remain incomplete.

The question why I would LET Willow cut her hair. First the LET must be challenged. This is a world where women,girls are constantly reminded that they don’t belong to themselves; that their bodies are not their own, nor their power or self determination. I made a promise to endow my little girl with the power to always know that her body, spirit and her mind are HER domain. Willow cut her hair because her beauty, her value, her worth is not measured by the length of her hair. It’s also a statement that claims that even little girls have the RIGHT to own themselves and should not be a slave to even their mother’s deepest insecurities, hopes and desires. Even little girls should not be a slave to the preconceived ideas of what a culture believes a little girl should be.

More to come. Another day.


Ladies, what are your thoughts?

All photos courtesy of Zimbio.com

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187 Comments on "Jada Pinkett Smith: “Willow’s Beauty Isn’t Measured By The Length of Her Hair.”"

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Jacqueline Lewis

I’m a pretty conservative person and mother, and I think it’s fine if she cuts and colors her hair. Children need some sort of freedom of themselves, she doesn’t have a tatoo, she isn’t talking about the many boyfriends she has, she’s doing her music, hopefully her parents are reminding her of who God is, and she’s being a kid. It’s so many influences in this world, and specifically in her world, give her a little break. There’ so many other things that aren’t healthy she could be involved in.


I’m inclined to agree with you. But I also think that Jada, Willow, and other people in the public eye are better off tuning out all the stuff about them on the internet, in the tabloids, etc.

The truth of the matter is that there will always be people who say vicious/ ignorant things. And the internet only magnifies those voices. It seems a bad idea to legitimize those voices by acknowledging what they say and responding to them.

chris chris

as India Arie said “I am not my hair”

Michelle@Radiant Brown Beauty

I honestly don’t care if her hair is short or long. Even color is OK. I think (and this may not necessarily be her case), when kids begin to “experiment” with certain looks, there could be other things going on.

As for Willow, she’s a beautiful girl. I just find here to be a little Tom Boyish, which she may or may not grow out of.


Why would she grow out if it? Why should she be “conscious” of being “Tom Boyish”? You missed the point of Jada’s words all together. She has given her child the FREEDOM to be who she wants to be without any regard to how others may or may not perceive her. And a part of that is NOT worrying about gender roles or what may or may not be deemed “boyish”.

“when kids begin to “experiment” with certain looks, there could be other things going on.” WTH?? Please read this ENTIRE post again because the point was missed.


Is there anything wrong with being ‘tom boyish’? Not every little girl has to be’sugar and spice and all things nice’. I think that is the point her mother is trying to make – (Even little girls should not be a slave to the preconceived ideas of what a culture believes a little girl should be)


I’ve been saying this all along. As long as this little girl is well behaved, and is doing well in school why shouldn’t she be able to wear her hair how she wants?? It doesn’t hurt herself or anyone else. And it’s funny people are against her cutting or dying her hair but will slap a perm on a four year olds hair in a heartbeat. We are so backwards. I think she looks lovely btw


Agreed! And other people need to stop giving unsolicited advice on said, well- behaved child. Many kids gave bigger issues than the way they are dressed


@Venus *In my Eddie Murphy Voice as I stomp my feet twice* Yesss!!!!! *Drops mic and walks off* That girl is right *cheesin*


*cues praise music*




I love this comment. Totally agree.


Ain’t that the truth?! I couldn’t agree with you more.


I’m pretty sure the length of her hair is the LEAST of peoples worries or criticism of Willow. Will and Jada clearly have exposed her to the limelight WAY to early and haven’t allowed her to be a child and feel some NORMALCY. Mark my words this child is gonna have issues as she gets older just like 97% of the child stars that come up.


yep,totally agree.the rabbit hole goes deeper, as a natural who cut my hair off many times over my life i love short hair as much as long, however it concerns me that many of these “celebrity” kids are being programmed, behind the scenes in “hollyweird” and shaving of the head is part of the whole monarch/mkultra satanic thing.I know most of you won’t believe that, but whatever. I’m sorry to say i won’t be surprised in 5 years if this girl starts “freaking out” and acting “insane” js…


Because children outside of the limelight are so “normal.”
Your argument is invalid.


No, there is no such thing as ‘normal’, children in the limelight are exposed to more pressures and live different lives to regular kids, for one thing, most of them are home-schooled. Too much exposure can be difficult to handle for anyone…


@Lynn totally agree!!

There are tons of child actors that grew up to be well-adjusted adults. People like to think of kids like Lindsey Lohan before they remember Hilary Duff who is married with a kid and living her life well. I think a bigger influence is family issues and parental control amongst other things. I think the girl will be fine. From hearing her speak, I really think she has a good head on her shoulders. I wish her the best…there’s no point in waiting for the worst when she doesn’t come from a messed up family or seems to be a… Read more »

i meant child actors and musicians…


@ Lynn As if real children don’t have issues huh? Children who grow up without media and public scrutiny have issues too. The most important thing is that these parents have a real relationship with their children. People are quick to criticize other people’s children when they don’t even know what their own children are doing.

Why people are so offended or obsessed with the length of her hair is absolutely beyond me. If I could sport a shaved head, I would do it. Unfortunately for my face/head shape, it just wouldn’t look that good. The girl looks fantastic and is clearly going to be down right beautiful when she gets older, and I can only hope that she keeps her hair that long because we really need more women who are willing to step outside of the boundaries of what our society thinks is beautiful to allow those who do not conform or fit into… Read more »

I thought the same thing about shaving my head and starting over. I like my shorty hair. The first thing I see is my face, not hair. I feel free. lol I love to just wash moisturize and go. Young children I know who saw me could not believe I cut my hair. I echoed the phrase by India Arie, “I am not my hair.” Any gal should be able to rock any stylr she chooses and feel good about herself.


I feel u on this Kiki. Right now I’d like to big chop. My hair is BSL now, very thick, n I miss short hair! Most people I tell say “Why do u wanna cut all that long pretty hair?!” They just don’t know…I absolutely think Jada is right, beauty comes from within….her hair will grow back, n most times i think she looks adorable!


Can’t wait for the comments on this one


I know right! The minute I saw the post I had to run an get some snacks…::munch munch munch::. Waiting for the shinanigans…


hahahahahahahahaha!! I just saw this comment…..dang I knew I wasn’t the only one that gets a kick out of reading these comments.


so laughing out loud right now


HAHAHA! Laughing out loud at your comment!