*Pre­pared for BGLH by Meosha Tall of 1Me­Nat­u­ral­ly


Intro­duce your­self!
Hi! My name is Melis­sa, but every­one calls me Mimi. I was born in Brook­lyn, NY and raised in Miami, FL where I cur­rent­ly live.

Why did you make the deci­sion to go nat­u­ral?
I nev­er knew what my nat­u­ral hair looked or felt like. I can’t even remem­ber when I first got a perm. But I do know that I got tired of perms burn­ing my scalp and my hair break­ing and becom­ing thin. I want­ed vol­ume and health for my hair. But what pushed my deci­sion to become nat­u­ral is hear­ing my daugh­ter say she want­ed straight hair like mine when she has such beau­ti­ful, curly, spongy nat­u­ral hair. I want­ed to be a role mod­el for her and show her that nat­u­ral hair is beau­ti­ful, but I couldn’t show her that with per­med hair. So I took a giant leap into the nat­u­ral world and I love it! I’ve been nat­u­ral since June 27, 2010.

How would you describe your tex­ture?
I’m not exact­ly sure what my hair type is. If I had to choose I would say the major­i­ty of my hair is 4b. My hair is thick, but soft and man­age­able. The back of my hair has a tighter curl pat­tern and shriv­els up more than the rest of my hair (almost like a 4c, but not quite) and the front mid­dle sec­tion of my hair has a looser curl pat­tern that’s a bit more straight (more like a 4a). The rest of my hair is 4b.

Describe your styling reg­i­men over the course of the mon­th.
I usu­al­ly wear twist-outs. I 2-strand (and some­times 3-strand) twist on dry hair using Carol’s Daugh­ter Loc But­ter only. I spray very lit­tle water on my hair and apply the but­ter to each twist and leave the twists in for 1–2 days. I do about may­be 30 twists all over my head. I unrav­el them and sep­a­rate them to my lik­ing. To keep them look­ing fresh through­out the week, I twist my hair in big­ger chunks (about six twists) every night and put on a sat­in bon­net.


What does wash day look like for you?
I try to make my wash days as sim­ple as pos­si­ble, but I have to ded­i­cate a COMPLETE DAY to wash it. I wash my hair every 2 to 4 weeks (depend­ing on how lazy I feel). I wash with Ter­ressen­tials Pure Earth Hair Wash Laven­der Gar­den. It’s like a mud mask for your hair. The wash cleans your hair of dirt, but keeps the mois­ture so I don’t have to use a fol­low-up con­di­tion­er. Once my hair is clean I mois­tur­ize with Can­tu Shea But­ter Leave In Con­di­tion­er and an oil mix­ture of Jojoba oil, Avo­cado oil, Olive oil, Cas­tor oil, Sweet Almond oil and Vit­a­m­in E while my hair is still wet.

Describe your favorite go-to hair­style for days when you don’t have a lot of time to style.
Gen­er­al­ly my hair is always out in a twist out so I let it flow. But for those days when my hair just doesn’t want to coop­er­ate, I throw it up in a pony puff or bun.

How do you com­bat shrink­age?
My hair is usu­al­ly stretched and some­times blow-dried, so once shrink­age sneaks up on me I either ban­tu knot it, do a twist out, or pull it all up in one. Some­times I’ll even wet my whole head with a spray bot­tle and let the shrink­age take over.

What are some of your prob­lem areas (if any) that require spe­cial care and atten­tion?
I always make sure to take extra spe­cial care of my edges and my ends. My edges don’t always lay flat and I don’t use gel often at all. I usu­al­ly spray my edges with water, apply a lit­tle oil (and on occa­sion some Eco Styler Olive Oil Gel), brush it down and wrap a sat­in scarf tight­ly around my head for a quick 5 min­utes or so. When I remove the scarf my edges lay flat and last through­out the day. As for my ends, I always man­age to spray a lit­tle water on them and run some oil on them to keep them mois­tur­ized. I only clip my ends prob­a­bly once a year.

What are 2 do’s for your tex­ture?
Oil and water. They say the two don’t mix, but they work won­ders for my hair. I keep the pro­duct lev­el on my hair very low. Also wear­ing a silk or sat­in bon­net helps my tex­ture keep the mois­ture.

What are 2 don’ts for your tex­ture?
Combs and chem­i­cals. I lose more hair with combs than I do with fin­ger detan­gling. No mat­ter how gen­tle I am with a comb, rak­ing from ends to roots, I always end up los­ing more hair than with my own fin­gers. And I absolute­ly, pos­i­tive­ly keep chem­i­cals out of my hair. I have nev­er dyed or col­or treat­ed my hair (relaxed or nat­u­ral) and I don’t apply tex­tur­iz­ers. I’m so pro­tec­tive of my hair, so I’m very care­ful of the things I put in it.

Is there a blog/webpage where we can find you?
You can find me on Insta­gram: @ShyFlyQTPie


Just anoth­er lover of nat­u­ral hair and expres­sion.
— Style Icon Coor­di­na­tor for BGLH

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Amazing…that’s all I can say! She breathes such life into her styles, and it’s very inspir­ing. Her mes­sage seems to say, “Do what works for you, and your hair will han­dle the rest!” This is real­ly great! What a great icon!!!


Thank you so much Miss JoeyK! ^_^




Thank you Jack­ie!


Lov­ing every pic­ture! Her hair is just so exquis­ite and healthy… I’m awe-struck! :D


Lol “Awe-struck” I like that. Thank you so much Aliyah! ^_^


You are my hair twin!! I have been look­ing for my hair twin for years! YEARS! Im so hap­py. How do you do your ban­tu knots? Is there a youtube video you use and like that you can rec­om­mend? or do you do your own youtube videos? I have a ton of ques­tions for my hair twin smh

Aww I’m glad to have a hair twin final­ly too lol. And ask as many as you need. I don’t have any YouTube videos unfor­tu­nate­ly (but I’m think­ing about mak­ing some), but the way I do my ban­tu knots are sim­ple. I do mine on dry hair. I take medi­um sec­tions of my hair and spray it with a lit­tle water. Not too much where its drip­ping but like one to two sprits is good enough. I put mois­tur­iz­er in my hair (I use either Can­tu Shea But­ter Leave in Con­di­tion­er, or Carol’s Daugh­ter Loc But­ter). I do two-strand twist… Read more »