*Pre­pared for BGLH by Meosha Tall of 1Me­Nat­u­ral­ly


Intro­duce your­self!
Hi! My name is Melis­sa, but every­one calls me Mimi. I was born in Brook­lyn, NY and raised in Mia­mi, FL where I cur­rent­ly live.

Why did you make the deci­sion to go nat­ur­al?
I nev­er knew what my nat­ur­al hair looked or felt like. I can’t even remem­ber when I first got a perm. But I do know that I got tired of perms burn­ing my scalp and my hair break­ing and becom­ing thin. I want­ed vol­ume and health for my hair. But what pushed my deci­sion to become nat­ur­al is hear­ing my daugh­ter say she want­ed straight hair like mine when she has such beau­ti­ful, curly, spongy nat­ur­al hair. I want­ed to be a role mod­el for her and show her that nat­ur­al hair is beau­ti­ful, but I couldn’t show her that with permed hair. So I took a giant leap into the nat­ur­al world and I love it! I’ve been nat­ur­al since June 27, 2010.

How would you describe your tex­ture?
I’m not exact­ly sure what my hair type is. If I had to choose I would say the major­i­ty of my hair is 4b. My hair is thick, but soft and man­age­able. The back of my hair has a tighter curl pat­tern and shriv­els up more than the rest of my hair (almost like a 4c, but not quite) and the front mid­dle sec­tion of my hair has a loos­er curl pat­tern that’s a bit more straight (more like a 4a). The rest of my hair is 4b.

Describe your styling reg­i­men over the course of the month.
I usu­al­ly wear twist-outs. I 2-strand (and some­times 3-strand) twist on dry hair using Carol’s Daugh­ter Loc But­ter only. I spray very lit­tle water on my hair and apply the but­ter to each twist and leave the twists in for 1–2 days. I do about maybe 30 twists all over my head. I unrav­el them and sep­a­rate them to my lik­ing. To keep them look­ing fresh through­out the week, I twist my hair in big­ger chunks (about six twists) every night and put on a satin bon­net.


What does wash day look like for you?
I try to make my wash days as sim­ple as pos­si­ble, but I have to ded­i­cate a COMPLETE DAY to wash it. I wash my hair every 2 to 4 weeks (depend­ing on how lazy I feel). I wash with Ter­ressen­tials Pure Earth Hair Wash Laven­der Gar­den. It’s like a mud mask for your hair. The wash cleans your hair of dirt, but keeps the mois­ture so I don’t have to use a fol­low-up con­di­tion­er. Once my hair is clean I mois­tur­ize with Can­tu Shea But­ter Leave In Con­di­tion­er and an oil mix­ture of Jojo­ba oil, Avo­ca­do oil, Olive oil, Cas­tor oil, Sweet Almond oil and Vit­a­min E while my hair is still wet.

Describe your favorite go-to hair­style for days when you don’t have a lot of time to style.
Gen­er­al­ly my hair is always out in a twist out so I let it flow. But for those days when my hair just doesn’t want to coop­er­ate, I throw it up in a pony puff or bun.

How do you com­bat shrink­age?
My hair is usu­al­ly stretched and some­times blow-dried, so once shrink­age sneaks up on me I either ban­tu knot it, do a twist out, or pull it all up in one. Some­times I’ll even wet my whole head with a spray bot­tle and let the shrink­age take over.

What are some of your prob­lem areas (if any) that require spe­cial care and atten­tion?
I always make sure to take extra spe­cial care of my edges and my ends. My edges don’t always lay flat and I don’t use gel often at all. I usu­al­ly spray my edges with water, apply a lit­tle oil (and on occa­sion some Eco Styler Olive Oil Gel), brush it down and wrap a satin scarf tight­ly around my head for a quick 5 min­utes or so. When I remove the scarf my edges lay flat and last through­out the day. As for my ends, I always man­age to spray a lit­tle water on them and run some oil on them to keep them mois­tur­ized. I only clip my ends prob­a­bly once a year.

What are 2 do’s for your tex­ture?
Oil and water. They say the two don’t mix, but they work won­ders for my hair. I keep the prod­uct lev­el on my hair very low. Also wear­ing a silk or satin bon­net helps my tex­ture keep the mois­ture.

What are 2 don’ts for your tex­ture?
Combs and chem­i­cals. I lose more hair with combs than I do with fin­ger detan­gling. No mat­ter how gen­tle I am with a comb, rak­ing from ends to roots, I always end up los­ing more hair than with my own fin­gers. And I absolute­ly, pos­i­tive­ly keep chem­i­cals out of my hair. I have nev­er dyed or col­or treat­ed my hair (relaxed or nat­ur­al) and I don’t apply tex­tur­iz­ers. I’m so pro­tec­tive of my hair, so I’m very care­ful of the things I put in it.

Is there a blog/webpage where we can find you?
You can find me on Insta­gram: @ShyFlyQTPie


Just anoth­er lover of nat­ur­al hair and expres­sion.
— Style Icon Coor­di­na­tor for BGLH

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You are my hair twin!! I have been look­ing for my hair twin for years! YEARS! Im so hap­py. How do you do your ban­tu knots? Is there a youtube video you use and like that you can rec­om­mend? or do you do your own youtube videos? I have a ton of ques­tions for my hair twin smh

Aww I’m glad to have a hair twin final­ly too lol. And ask as many as you need. I don’t have any YouTube videos unfor­tu­nate­ly (but I’m think­ing about mak­ing some), but the way I do my ban­tu knots are sim­ple. I do mine on dry hair. I take medi­um sec­tions of my hair and spray it with a lit­tle water. Not too much where its drip­ping but like one to two sprits is good enough. I put mois­tur­iz­er in my hair (I use either Can­tu Shea But­ter Leave in Con­di­tion­er, or Carol’s Daugh­ter Loc But­ter). I do two-strand twist… Read more »

Lov­ing every pic­ture! Her hair is just so exquis­ite and healthy… I’m awe-struck! :D


Lol “Awe-struck” I like that. Thank you so much Aliyah! ^_^




Thank you Jack­ie!


Amazing…that’s all I can say! She breathes such life into her styles, and it’s very inspir­ing. Her mes­sage seems to say, “Do what works for you, and your hair will han­dle the rest!” This is real­ly great! What a great icon!!!


Thank you so much Miss JoeyK! ^_^

Mrs. Martin

Ok…the luciousi­ty( is that even a word?)level of your hair is off the scale. I love, love, love it! Sim­ply Beau­ti­ful.


Lol thank you Mrs. Mar­tin :-)


Are you wash do put the can­tu in and then the oil?


Yes. After wash­ing I put the Can­tu in first then the oil. I tried it the oth­er way around before but my hair didn’t seem too thrilled about it. I know the LOC sys­tem is Liq­uid, Oil then Cream but it felt like the oil was block­ing the cream from pen­e­trat­ing my hair. It works dif­fer­ent for everyone’s hair though.


Wow gor­geous! I love your hair and you’re very pret­ty.


Aww thanks so much jen­ni ^_^


Love, LOVE your hair! It looks so healthy and full. I’m a big fan of Carol’s Daugh­ter Loc But­ter too!


Thanks caramel­curls. My hair didn’t know what it was miss­ing with­out that loc but­ter. That’s my twist out secret!


Hair is beau­ti­ful so lush with so much sheen!


Thank you kara­jw :-)


I saw the first pic­ture and thought — oh, she’s like 17, 18…then read “daughter”…huh??!?!… hon­ey, don’t know how old you are but you look great!!!


Lol thanks sweet­ie. I’m 30.


Final­ly my hair twin! I use all the same prod­ucts except for eco styler gel and I am hav­ing trou­ble with my edges but I am begin­ning to put cas­tor oil on them dai­ly. Love this! def­i­nite­ly finna go fol­low this girl!


Thanks hun! And I see you fol­lowed me too lol :-)


had too! lol


Very well put! Nice


Thanks twa4NOW! :-)


gor­geous woman and hair! love your pics espe­cial­ly the one with the white shoul­der one!


Aww thanks so much Keisha! :-)


Beau­ti­ful hair!!


Thanks Aki­lah! :-)


Hi!! I was raised in Mia­mi too ( yea Mia­mi Nor­land!) Any­way, do you have any tips to help me through our super humid spring and sum­mer time or do I just have to give in to the poof :). Your hair is beau­ti­ful!!


Thanks Antrelise! Well last spring/summer I wore my hair in 2-strand mini twists a lot. Maybe you can try that out too. It was too hot to wear my hair out and too humid for my puffs and buns to stay in tact. This year i’ll be doing the same thing but i’ll try styling it up a bit. Maybe curl my twists or do a ban­tu knot out with them and style them up or some­thing. The rain can be so unfor­giv­ing down here for us nat­u­rals lol.


Gosh, it’s so thick and shiny and long and beau­ti­ful; you go girl! Absolute­ly love it.


Thanks so much D.K. :-)


Awe­some-tas­tic! (that’s a lot of awe­some with a mix of fan­tas­tic!). My hair wants to be like hers when it grows up ;-)


Thanks Rukiy­atG. And with the right hair care it will. Maybe even turn out bet­ter than mine!


hey dear wat kind of cream shld i use can u pls send me de name cos it soo many cream i reail love to make my hair nat­ur­al? i wnt to go en buy some so send it for me yea.email likaberry@live.com


This is one of the pret­ti­est heads of hair I’ve seen on here. Thanks for shar­ing.


Aww! Thanks so much Lotus ^_^


Nice, thick, lush lol I could go on beau­ti­ful hair!!


Thank you Cleo! :-)


Great inter­view! Great style and beau­ti­ful hair!


Thank you! :-)


GREAT HAIR STYLES..simply beau­ti­ful!


Thanks G! :-)


Your hair looks so healthy idk y but I feel like my hair nev­er looks fluffy and soft it’s frizzy and the ends suf­fer. I cut off half of my length and its still act­ing cray all I use is tresseme nat­u­rals and olive oil and once a month wash it with a sul­phate free sham­poo
Maybe it’s my diet and deep con­di­tion­ing with pro­tein that I need to add


@ Ton­isha It could be a com­bo of things…re check how you are han­dling your hair. Do you use cool/cold water for final rins­es, over-han­dling hair dai­ly (pro­tec­tive sytling may help) vic HIH (hands in hair?) At night, do you have a silk or satin bonnet/pillow case? Do you need to change your prod­ucts or make your own? Drink tons of water! Check youtube for good advice just to choosey and oth­er hair blogs and vlog­gs. The book, The Sci­ence of Black Hair is sup­pose to be good too. All the best to you! <3


Maybe the prod­ucts you’re using aren’t the thing for your hair. Have you tried switch­ing prod­ucts to see what it does for your hair? I tried a whole lot of things before I found my sta­ple prod­ucts. Not to men­tion hav­ing a reg­i­men to fol­low helps a whole lot too.


What a beau­ty?! Her hair gives me lyfe!!!! Keep it up sis.


Thanks so much sis!