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By Lurie Daniel Favors of Afro State of Mind

Some­times, despite our inten­tions, our hair plans simply…fail. We get a great idea and may­be we jump in head first with­out real­ly think­ing about how to make that idea actu­al­ly work.

That can hap­pen when you make the ini­tial deci­sion to go nat­u­ral too. A lot of wom­en think that they can just grow their hair out and voila—a beau­ti­ful head of nat­u­ral hair, twist outs and fierce Afros will fol­low. Lit­tle do the­se unsus­pect­ing sis­ters know that tran­si­tion­ing from chem­i­cal­ly straight­ened hair to nat­u­ral hair is indeed a process.

This seems to be the road that one wom­an went down when she tried to go natural—and sim­ply couldn’t make the tran­si­tion. As report­ed over at Clutch Mag­a­zine, this sis­ter want­ed to go nat­u­ral and began grow­ing out her roots, but due to a vari­ety of mis­steps, she was ulti­mate­ly unsuc­cess­ful. She con­fessed:

I got the bright idea to go nat­u­ral so I could run, prac­tice yoga and take swim­ming lessons with­out scram­bling to restyle my hair after­ward. I grew obsessed with the wild, coiled, spiky look. Nev­er mind I hadn’t sham­pooed, rolled or flat ironed my own hair in over 12 years or I only had a mere two inch­es of new growth attached to inch­es of bone straight­ness. I could still achieve a full ‘fro with the right pro­duct, Nikki Walton’s “Bet­ter Than Good Hair” and step-by-step instruc­tions on a few YouTube videos, right? Wrong.

I was naïve about tran­si­tion­ing. Hav­ing been depen­dent on relax­ers for near­ly 25 years, I knew noth­ing about my nat­u­ral hair oth­er than it was coarse, itchy and lacked body when it was time for a touch-up. And despite the line of demar­ca­tion warn­ings, I still thought all that grease and water would pre­vent my thick strands from snap­ping.

Now when the arti­cle first post­ed the author took a lot of heat and some folks were super crit­i­cal of her inabil­i­ty to tran­si­tion. But I for one real­ly appre­ci­at­ed her hon­esty.  Espe­cial­ly since as I describe here, after I Big Chopped, I too gave into my own inse­cu­ri­ties and slapped a tex­tur­iz­er on my head. Le sigh…

Lis­ten, for those of us who start­ed comb­ing our hair after our moth­ers let us get perms, there is sim­ply no rea­son to think we will know what the heck we are doing with­out some seri­ous help.

Don’t Fail to Plan

If you’re think­ing about going nat­u­ral I strong­ly encour­age you to do your home­work first. Don’t just get addict­ed to hair porn and watch youtube videos of wom­en who have a cer­tain “type” of nat­u­ral. When you’re just start­ing out you may have no idea what kind of tex­ture you have so you need to be open to a vari­ety of pos­si­bil­i­ties.

You have to be will­ing to get to know your hair. Are your coils kinky? Are they a loose curl? What is your curl pat­tern? What are the unique­ly awe­some things that your hair can do? For wom­en who have a his­to­ry of com­plete­ly turn­ing their hair care over to some­one else, this can be a scary process. But get­ting famil­iar with your own head of hair real­ly is part of the “going nat­u­ral” process.

That said, you should also locate a pro­fes­sion­al nat­u­ral hair stylist—someone who is famil­iar with help­ing wom­en tran­si­tion from one type of hair to anoth­er. This is espe­cial­ly true if you are some­one, like the wom­an in that arti­cle, who typ­i­cal­ly out­sources your hair care.

If man­ag­ing your chem­i­cal­ly straight­ened hair was not some­thing you took care of on your own, it can be a major shift to jump in and care for your hair through the tran­si­tion process. There are a num­ber of styles that are use­ful when you have two dif­fer­ent types of hair on your head (i.e. nat­u­ral roots and straight ends) and you need to know how to achieve looks that will let you be com­fort­able with your process. A pro­fes­sion­al can help you nav­i­gate this tran­si­tion.

What is Your Natural Hair Motivation?

Final­ly, try to fig­ure out why it is you want to go nat­u­ral in the first place. Every­one doesn’t have a “going back to the Moth­er­land” expe­ri­ence when they cut out their perm. But by choos­ing to embrace the hair that grows out of your head in this soci­ety you may find that you need to unlearn some of the val­ues that you had while wear­ing straight hair.

For example—finding the beau­ty in nat­u­ral hair can be a chal­lenge when you’ve spent two or three decades lust­ing after long, flow­ing, straight hair. Learn­ing how to appre­ci­ate the unique awe­some­ness of kinky hair can be a bit dif­fi­cult when you were raised to avoid nap­pi­ness like the plague. Unless you chal­lenge those beliefs, chances are you may find tran­si­tion­ing to be a much hard­er process to get through.

The good news is that if you pre­pare prop­er­ly, tap into a sup­port group (whether online or in real life), and most impor­tant­ly, edu­cateyour­self, you great­ly increase your chances of a suc­cess­ful tran­si­tion.

Either way—it is impor­tant to remem­ber that lov­ing your­self is one of the first keys to suc­cess. How about you? What was your tran­si­tion­ing process like? Were there tips that worked for you or advice that was a waste of time? Sound off in the com­ments.

For more of Lurie’s writ­ing, check out her book “Afro State of Mind: Mem­o­ries of a Nap­py Head­ed Black Girl. You can also find her on Twit­ter, Face­book and YouTube.

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Domonique Williams

Great arti­cle! Plan­ning is key.…

Amber Simpson-Lizarraga
Amber Simpson-Lizarraga
Grow­ing up, wor­ry­ing about my hair was not impor­tant. Ever since I was 4 years old my Mom used perms on my head and I was used to eas­i­ly pulling my hair back in a neat pony­tail or a bun or if I felt like it, wear­ing it down with a lit­tle curl. I am at an age now that I want my hair to look nice but now that I have my son and my hus­band, I don’t have time to do a lot to it & it is still not a huge pri­or­i­ty. I have been perm-free for… Read more »
NHCN

Indeed, one’s nat­u­ral hair jour­ney can be a bumpy road. There are a lot of chal­lenges but like we always say, weath­er the storm and the pay­off will be huge. We’ve seen, heard, and read a lot of of feel-good sto­ries about jour­ney­ing nat­u­ral­is­tas (http://www.naturalhaircarenews.com/category/readers-spotlight/) and most of them shared that the tough­est of chal­lenges are most­ly met at the start. So for those who are about to embark on the jour­ney, be patient for we are sure the pay­off will be amaz­ing.

lightskinblackgirl
For me what worked was I nev­er did the big chop. I know, I know how can I be a nat­u­ral if I nev­er did it? To be hon­est, one day I think may­be my senior year in high school I said, “I don’t need anoth­er perm” my mom and sis­ter have been say­ing for years that I did need one, but what’s good for the goose is good for the gan­der, or so I thought. My mom put one in her hair, my sister’s hair and I didn’t want to be left out. But I’m neglect­ing the fact that… Read more »
jovie nian
Hon­est­ly I think the best thing (for me and may­be oth­ers who are tran­si­tion­ing) is to do a slow tran­si­tion with out a such BIG chop. Two rea­sons, one is because if you are used to long hair that you can do all the bun styles you are used to… And two, you lit­er­al­ly start to HATE your per­med ends. When you start to feel your thick, healthy, soft­er, nat­u­ral hair (and this may take like a year or so in tran­si­tion­ing) you start to curse your per­med ends and get to the point where the thought of you going… Read more »
Simone

Nerver grows,natural yes stays,same lenght i hate it

Simone

My hair been short for years pret­ty but nerver grows there­fore its ugly 3inch in lenght no mat­ter what i do

Enez Laurendine
This is my 3rd time attempt­ing to tran­si­tion and I can admit it’s a hell of a process! The first 2 times I gave in because I’ve nev­er came in con­tact with the “real me” and hon­est­ly it just made me so uncom­fort­able I went and bought a relax­er. And that was the issue the rea­son I decid­ed that my last perm was my last perm. I lossed so much hair due to relax­ers I could cry. My hair was thin and life­less & made me feel so ugly! But I noticed that once the relax­er began to fade I… Read more »
Ashy
Okay so your say­ing they dont know their nat­u­ral hair but at the begin­ning they had it for years or did they perm it when they were 1? And i straight­ened my hair only i know my hair and yeah its not easy 2 han­dle but you can do it and my hair was 2 my hips before i cut it (because of the annoy­ing brush­ing trough sto­ry) now its shoul­der length in curly and i like it and yeah you should­nt sham­poo it that much and you cant brush it you should comb it blabla but why why should… Read more »
Lizzy

Try­ing to be white by relax­ing their hair may have been true in the past. Now, it’s about style and lifestyle. Many don’t have the phys­i­cal abil­i­ty to work with hair of a cer­tain tex­ture. You can’t com­pare the work required with 4a hair to 4c hair. 

As far as white and straight hair–many whites have curly hair, some sim­i­lar to ours. Why not say try­ing to be Asian. They have straight hair too.

Mykel
I could not agree with this arti­cle more. I decid­ed to go nat­u­ral after get­ting a relax­er on a short cut and it fell out! The only hair I had left was new growth, so the tran­si­tion was easy for me. How­ev­er, learn­ing about my own hair vs. try­ing to make mine look like everyone’s on youtube took about 2 years. Once I learned what my hair could do and embrac­ing the beau­ty of kinky hair, it’s been smooth sail­ing after that. I think one huge part of hav­ing nat­u­ral hair is that you can’t be lazy. Lazi­ness has tripped… Read more »
Myisha

hel­lo I’m real­ly think­ing about going nat­u­ral but Im scared I have shoul­der length thick hair even with a perm I actu­al­ly dont perm my hair too often because I burn (I have real­ly itchy scalp) but I dont want to do the big chop I love my long hair I hate to even get my ends trimmed only because the Domini­cans cut more then they should..I just real­ly would like to know the best way I can try and tran­si­tion with­out doing a BC also I like hav­ing straight hair what about flat irons?

Chel

Roller­sets? No heat but time con­sum­ing

lizzy

Lots of peo­ple doing the slow tran­si­tion with­out a Bc. Go to curlynikki.com for tips. Check out the forum.

Lizzy
I’m one of the wom­en who didn’t plan. And I end­ed up with a hot mess on my head. I had break­age at the line of demar­ca­tion. I had straight ends in some parts, and no ends in the other(new hair grew after I stopped relax­ing). Turned out I had two dif­fer­ent hair tex­tures: 4a and 4c. Those two tex­tures pre­vent­ed me from get­ting a decent hair­style. I like the kinky-coily look of 4c. I like the wavy, curly look of 4a. My hair need­ed to pick one of them and stick to it. But that’s impos­si­ble, isn’t it? So… Read more »
Billoc
We’re in a very dif­fer­ent sseaon than most indi­vid­u­als our age (42 and soon to be 40). We joined our fam­i­ly of five with my par­ents due to my daddy’s health in 2005. In 06, his health declined so much that I stepped down from the staff posi­tion I had at anoth­er min­istry in order to be his pri­ma­ry care­giver. Hub­by was the night care­giver. He passed on in Nov 06 and in March of 07 — my moth­er decid­ed to start dat­ing. She’s 65. She has a steady boyfriend who is also a part of our church. I’m on… Read more »
CheriD
Thank you for this arti­cle. I start­ed to tran­si­tion from relaxed hair to nat­u­ral hair and last­ed about eight months. At that point I decid­ed to tex­tur­ize my hair. I made the deci­sion because my hair was break­ing off and the time that it took to take care of my hair was not work­ing for me. Since I tex­tur­ized, my hair is healthy, not break­ing as before and I’m lov­ing it. I did learn a lot about hair dur­ing my tran­si­tion and I’m so hap­py I did it. I learned that mois­tur­iz­ing, con­di­tion­ing, pro­tein and pro­tec­tive styling is impor­tant and… Read more »
liza
Love this arti­cle! I did the big chop on mid July 2010. Every­thing was going swell until i’d became pre­go with my sec­ond daugh­ter. I was almost 2 yrs in and being preg­nant while tak­ing care of my 2 1/2 yrs old was a chal­lenge! Not to men­tion the crazy hor­mones lol. So…, I’ve went back hp the creamy crack, but this time, instead of per­ming bone straight, i ‘d texlaxed. It left me with lots of tex­ture but chem­i­cal is still chem­i­cal! The dam­age was already done. Now I am tran­si­tion­ing and I am deter­mined to see it thru.… Read more »
liza

Thanks for this arti­cle. M

Sonya
Great arti­cle! Patience, patience, patience. At least, that’s what I keep telling myself as I look at my nat­u­ral coif each morn­ing. I have been “nat­u­ral” for almost two years. Nat­u­ral par­en­thet­i­cal­ly because I was a clos­et nat­u­ral-hid­ing under­neath weaves, braids, wigs. Last week, I final­ly took out my weave, youtubed videos on twist outs, pinged a few friends for tips. The fin­ished pro­duct-awful! My hair was hard, tan­gled. It was quite frus­trat­ing. Need­less to say, I made an appt with my styl­ist and am now rock­ing a blowout. This week­end, I will try the twist out again. Patience, patience,… Read more »
Miss Kaylah

I big chopped last Tues­day because my tran­si­tion phase was a dis­as­ter after 7 months I couldn’t do it any­more! My hair start­ed to tan­gle and I was just stressed… So now I’m sit­ting with this head of hair that idk what to do with… I have this coily hair that from look­ing and research­ing seems to be 4a hair but idk how to define my curls or retain mois­ture or any­thing it’s just sooo frus­trat­ing… Does any­body have any advice?!

kat

Get a nice spray bot­tle that mists your hair in a way youre com­fort­able with
Research çold water apple cider vinea­gar rin­se (I add Laven­der essen­tial oil)
Add small amounts of glyc­er­in to what­ev­er you mois­tur­ize your hair with
Drink at least 1.5 liters of water over rhe course of a day
Leave your hair open whilst show­er­ing
Those were. Game chang­ers for me

Miss Elisa K.
It took me three years of research­ing and tryig to go nat­u­ral three times before I actu­al­ly did it. I start­ed doing my own relaxed hair in mid­dle school so I was use to car­ing for my hair. But I didn’t know how to care for nat­u­ral hair. Pony tails, roller sets, and doo­bie wraps just weren’t work­ing and every­thing else con­sid­ered nat­u­ral or tran­si­si­tion­ing styles were major fails lol. So I tran­si­tioned with pressed hair. My aunt could press some nat­u­ral hair so straight, that I would rock it for two or three weeks, no heat in between. So… Read more »
The Mane Captain

I agree with every­thing you men­tioned in your writ­ing Lurie. Many peo­ple just jump on the band­wag­on with­out doing their researh, oth­ers do it for the fad. it’s impor­tant to edu­cate one­self about nat­u­ral hair before mak­ing up your mind and jump­ing in.
This is why I advo­cate for wom­en to be in con­torl of their hair on my blog. only you can dedice the course your hair takes.
themanecaptain.blogspot.ca

Lurie

Thank you!

Ashley
I nev­er real­ly liked straight hair. Actu­al­ly I got a relax­er by acci­dent and just stuck with it (but that’s anoth­er sto­ry). I was always chang­ing-and dam­ag­ing-my hair to find some­thing crazy and unique that match­es my style and personality.Since I was always told that nap­py hair was unac­cept­able going nat­u­ral was always out of the ques­tion. After all the hair­cuts and hair dyes I got to keep my indi­vid­u­al­i­ty (this was when every­one was get­ting the Rihan­na cut…and for the record I GOT THAT HAIRCUT BEFORE SHE DID) I decid­ed to shave it all off and get a texturizer..I… Read more »
D_Roc

Great arti­cle.
I first tran­si­tion to nat­u­ral from 2006–2007. But after a ill­ness, not real­ly know­ing what I was doing (this was before the inter­net explod­ed with info) and hav­ing to go back to work. I did not have the patience. I hat­ed that I did that but in fall 2009 I final­ly did my home­work as much as pos­si­ble before had and sucess­ful­ly tran­si­tion by Big Chop in spring 2010 (8 months).
So I would advise to research a lot before you start the tran­si­tion. Nowa­days there is plen­ty of infor­ma­tion to help you under­stand the process.

Doz
I liked this arti­cle. Tried to go nat­u­ral in 2010 that last­ed for 9 months and I got a relax­er in 2011 and regret­ted it before I even left the salon. Then I tried tran­si­tion­ing again and got talked into text­lax­ing last year again regret­ted. My prob­lem is find­ing a “nat­u­ral” styl­ist. Most beau­ti­cians where I live just don’t want to do nat­u­ral hair and will talk u out of it. And I have gone african Amer­i­can Caribbean and Domini­can all are the same. They don’t seem to under­stand so I alter­nate between braids, wigs and half-wigs. If any­one knows… Read more »
Lurie
I’m not sure about Nas­sau coun­ty but I swear by my styl­ist in Brook­lyn. One thing to remem­ber is that many styl­ists who are of African descent are still trained to achieve a straight hair look. And one of the things I dis­cuss in my book is my expe­ri­ences w/ nat­u­ral hair while liv­ing in the Domini­can Repub­lic. Gen­er­al­ly speak­ing, a Domini­can styl­ist (unless she/he is break­ing from the mold) is not going to be able to help you go nat­u­ral. Cul­tur­al­ly speak­ing the train­ing they receive is much like the train­ing many tra­di­tion­al Black Amer­i­can styl­ists receive, i.e. “STRAIGHT… Read more »
Doz

Hmmm the “Nat­u­ral Hair Whis­per­er” sounds intrigu­ing. LOL Thank you for shar­ing. Most wom­en don’t like to share ;-). Yeeesssss I guess Im gonna have to go to BKLYN

Doz

OMG!!! Miss Lurie !!! I don’t know why I didn’t click on your links at the bot­tom of the arti­cle. I’ve seen your videos on youtube before. You were one of the few wom­en that I fol­lowed in the beginning.….DUH!!! I guess Ima goin to Brook­lyn!!!!! LOL!!!!

Lurie

Ha! Glad to make the con­nec­tion Doz!

Essence

You may have to try to go the city to find a styl­ist. There are tons of nat­u­ral salons in BK. I usu­al­ly trek there from the BX when I want to get my hair pro­fes­sion­al­ly styled.

Doz

Yes I know some of the best nat­u­ral styl­ist are in brook­lyn. I was hop­ing that there would be some in my area or at least in Queens which is still close to me, but if I have to go to BK then I might just do that. I would nev­er go to a styl­ist in Man­hat­tan because Im not going to give one of my kid­neys just to get my hair done. Its sad that one has to go to such great lengths.

Liz
I love this arti­cle. The sto­ry quot­ed inside this arti­cle sounds just like me. I “out­sourced” my hair care (hot comb by my mom flat ironed reg­u­lar­ly at the salon) for 23 years. Recent­ly though I HAD to go nat­u­ral and unfor­tu­nate­ly I had a lot of break­age where the new growth and flat ironed ends met — that made me cry more than you know. Final­ly, after cut­ting my hair twice (the straight ends) and after eight months or so I love my nat­u­ral hair because I just recent­ly learned how to keep it mois­tur­ized and also learned what… Read more »
Lurie

Liz,
I’m so glad you liked this piece! It makes my lit­tle blog­ger heart feel good, LOL.

JENNID
Tori, Ill glad­ly dis­cuss as tran­si­tioned from pressed hair. Um I think the biggest issue here is that your hair may­be heat dam­aged. Just because your hair reverts back after wash­ing doesn’t mean that its all good. My hair always revert­ed with no prob­lems. No straight pieces or any­thing BUT it was dam­aged none the less. For exam­ple if I tried to press my hair n roll it, it wouldn’t hold a curl. If I combed my hair I would get mas­sive shed­ding and break­age. Also it was chron­i­cal­ly dry. Noth­ing worked. Like you I tried to in the begin­ning… Read more »
Tori
I appre­ci­ate this piece quite a lot. But, I notice when there’s dis­cus­sion of going nat­u­ral, it always begins with hair that is relaxed chem­i­cal­ly. I wear my hair straight, but I press.  Despite the fact I stopped per­ming four years ago, I am still not capa­ble of just wash­ing my hair, let­ting it air dry or apply­ing prod­ucts for curly hair to get the desired results. It seems like nobody real­ly dis­cuss­es what to do with hair that is accus­tomed to ther­mal styling.  It would be real­ly nice to have a piece sim­i­lar to this one from some­one who’s shared… Read more »
Christina Patrice

Hi Tori!

I total­ly under­stand where you are com­ing from, and it is the dri­ving force behind my blog The Mane Objec­tive. I hadn’t had a perm since I was about 6 years old, but I did sub­stan­tial dam­age to my hair via flat irons. Check out my blog, http://www.maneobjective.com and Insta­gram @maneobjective. I post tips and infor­ma­tion reg­u­lar­ly for those tran­si­tion­ing specif­i­cal­ly from heat dam­aged hair.Hope you find some info that helps:)

Regina
I haven’t had a relax­er in over a year. I have only been ful­ly nat­u­ral since Decem­ber of last year. After about five months of tran­si­tion­ing I had had enough. I had watched a ton of YouTube videos so I just knew I could do my own big chop. I was wrong. When I was done my hair was so uneven. I had to go to a bar­ber the next day to get my twa shaped. I also did not know for sure what my hair type was until after my big chop. I have type 4 hair…a,b, and c.… Read more »
Candice
I think the biggest prob­lem that wom­en can have in going nat­u­ral is want­i­ng some­one else’s hair. If you are over­buy­ing hair prod­ucts, over­ma­nip­u­lat­ing, and try­ing every­thing to make your curls look dif­fer­ent than they are, you will be frus­trat­ed and prob­a­bly dam­ag­ing your hair. Nat­u­ral is about accep­tance of your­self as you are. What comes out of your head, as it comes out of your head, is what you should be learn­ing to take care of. I think too many nat­u­rals fell in love with the idea of 3C curls and end­ed up being 4B when they big chopped… Read more »
Lurie

Can­dice, this com­ment right here nails it for me: “Nat­u­ral is about accep­tance of your­self as you are. What comes out of your head, as it comes out of your head, is what you should be learn­ing to take care of. I think too many nat­u­rals fell in love with the idea of 3C curls and end­ed up being 4B when they big chopped and are still chas­ing that look they fell in love with.”

Nuff said!

Erin
I love this arti­cle! I wish that all wom­en had a chance to read this before mak­ing the deci­sion to rock their nat­u­ral locks! My 15 yr old is tran­si­tion­ing now and at first all she did was whine and give excuse after excuse. I told her that once she got a job and could afford her own hair regime ( sew ins and perms) then she could do what she want­ed but until then, and as long as my dimes are spent, she was going to learn to appre­ci­ate and main­tain what grew out of her scalp. Ulti­mate­ly it… Read more »
Lurie

Erin, So glad you liked my arti­cle! Now that I am expect­ing a lit­tle girl I will be sure to remem­ber your com­ment. I’m hop­ing my daugh­ter will be able to by-pass some of the hair issues so many of us have — but if not then I’ll do my best to fol­low in your foot­steps and help her see the beau­ty in what God gave her.

Mudd
If I was straight­ened and read this arti­cle I would be so intim­i­dat­ed. haha  I tran­si­tioned with braids. Grow and snip straight ends as you go. Might take a 6 months to year. Sim­ple. Or just BC and rock a short hair­cut for a while. Pret­ty much every­thing I know about my hair I learned on Youtube and Blogs.  My #1 advice is don’t expect your hair to look like a nat­u­ral hair guru’s! They make amaz­ing styles look effort­less and easy but it might not turn out that way for you.  When this hap­pens you will be tempt­ed to sob on the floor… Read more »
Shi
When I decid­ed to go nat­u­ral, I went straight to braids (exten­sions). I did my own exten­sions for almost 2 years. After the first year, I did an assess­ment of my hair and I cut of all the straight­ened hair, but I wasn’t com­fort­able with my hair then so I put it back in braids. I did this for the next year or so until I couldn’t stand wear­ing exten­sions any­more. I start­ed doing alot of research on prod­ucts and would test some of them on a small patch of hair to the back of my head by the nape.… Read more »
annnsow

Great arti­cle and great point :
“For example—finding the beau­ty in nat­u­ral hair can be a chal­lenge when you’ve spent two or three decades lust­ing after long, flow­ing, straight hair. Learn­ing how to appre­ci­ate the unique awe­some­ness of kinky hair can be a bit dif­fi­cult when you were raised to avoid nap­pi­ness like the plague. ”

To me that’s the most dif­fi­cult.

But real­ly, once you fol­lowed all of those advices… I think you can final­ly have a great jour­ney. Not a flaw­less one but a good one with­out any doubt.

Lurie
Annnsow — glad you liked the arti­cle! Tru­ly I agree that this is one of the most dif­fi­cult parts: learn­ing to replace the val­ues we had when we had straight hair and replac­ing them w/ a new val­ue sys­tem that can appre­ci­ate kinky/coily/nappy hair. Espe­cial­ly when the world we live in makes lov­ing nat­u­ral hair an odd­i­ty instead of the norm. But I believe that as more of us who go down this road we are chang­ing that stan­dard and mak­ing it eas­ier for those who come after us. Think of us as part of the pio­neers who cre­ate a… Read more »
Dabney

This is an excel­lent Caveat! Read, Research, and Ask ques­tion!!! For­tu­nate­ly, we have soooo much more infor­ma­tion on tran­si­tion­ing , and liv­ing the nat­u­ral hair lifestyle. I wish I had know about the L.O.C. Method when I first start­ed my jour­ney! The frus­tra­tion I endured from count­less big chop resets. I had no idea about PH bal­ance, mois­ture pro­tein bal­ance and the dan­gers of HEAT and Dyes! So Every­one who is about to take this jour­ney, Read , research and learn about how to do your hair.

Lurie

Thank you Dab­ney! I couldn’t agree more — there’s a rea­son why they say “Knowl­edge is pow­er” after all! Glad you liked the arti­cle. :-)

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