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Mesh­ing is a term that I gleaned from Chinwe’s blog. It is the per­fect term because it real­ly does accu­rate­ly describe the way some kinky curly strands can eas­i­ly inter­twine and form a cob­web-like struc­ture. If you have hair that mesh­es eas­i­ly, you may often find your­self hav­ing dif­fi­cul­ty han­dling it such that it does not break or form knots. Here are some tips for pre­vent­ing kinky hair from mesh­ing.

1. Pro­tec­tive style for short­er times, Redo the perime­ter often
Hair that mesh­es eas­i­ly will also often shrink tight­ly and tan­gle when exposed to water even when in a pro­tec­tive style and espe­cial­ly at the perime­ter. There­fore, the longer you keep a pro­tec­tive style and wash/condition your hair in the style, the more like­ly you are to get meshed hair. You should exper­i­ment and learn the lim­it that your hair should be kept in a pro­tec­tive style. In all cas­es, do con­sid­er not ever keep­ing own hair twists or braids for longer than a month with­out at least redo­ing the perime­ter every 1–2 weeks.

2. Detan­gle more
In gen­er­al, detan­gling is often the time when hair breaks the most. This can lead many nat­u­rals to detan­gle in less fre­quent peri­ods and espe­cial­ly when hair is not in a pro­tec­tive style. If you have your hair free for a week and you can eas­i­ly track its shrink­age over this time, you may actu­al­ly save your­self a lot of time and effort if you chose to do a mid-week detan­gling, stretch and restyle rather than wait for the week to end. Allow­ing the hair to con­tin­u­al­ly shrink with­out try­ing to stretch it gen­tly will pro­mote mesh­ing.

3. Stretch your hair before part­ing
Part­ing is the dev­il for hair that mesh­es eas­i­ly. This is espe­cial­ly true if you choose a con­ser­v­a­tive stretch­ing method (e.g braid­ing or twist­ing) or attempt to part on semi dry or dry unstretched hair. Hair that mesh­es eas­i­ly does so because of mul­ti­ple kinks and tight curls. Stretch­ing hair allows you to retain tex­ture but at the same time smooths out kinks and curls to reduce mesh­ing of the strands. Curl­form­ers and African thread­ing are two heat­less meth­ods to get real­ly stretched out hair with­out plac­ing too much strain on the hair.

4. Avoid water, avoid glyc­erin, avoid water based mois­tur­iz­er.
This tip is for hair which is being kept free, open and stretched. This hair should be treat­ed as you would a heat-treat­ed style. You need to avoid water and water based ingre­di­ents as well as humec­tants if you want to keep the style stretched and mesh free. You can cer­tain­ly apply a water based mois­tur­iz­er pri­or to stretch­ing although glyc­erin would still remain a no -no as it has the abil­i­ty to attract water to it lat­er on. Tuck­ing your ends into a large flat twist, updo or bun will help to main­tain the mois­ture while you avoid water.

Ladies, how do you keep your hair from mesh­ing and tan­gling?

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46 Comments on "4 Ways to Prevent Kinky Hair from Meshing Together"

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Notey

Thanks for this arti­cle. I’ve seri­ous­ly thought about going back to relaxed hair and it’s because of mesh­ing. I should def­i­nite­ly try hen­na and maybe flashed gel. Plus I real­ize I use a LOT of water so I will cut back and observe the sit­u­a­tion

Berrywrap

Can any­one tell me where u get these nat­ur­al oils? Are they the same as you can get in the mar­ket?

Imani S

I get my Olive Oil at the super­mar­ket, and that’s the exact same. Most of the oth­er oils I buy like, Apri­cot or Cas­tor Oil I get online. Ama­zon has a good oil selec­tion. Make sure the oil you buy is pure and usu­al­ly “food grade.” You can also get Jamaican Black Cas­tor Oil at your local beau­ty sup­ply store.

Epic Naps

My hair mesh­es like crazy. The best rem­e­dy for me has been Flaxseed Gel. It helps keep my fine coily strands seper­at­ed.

dani

Month­ly hen­na treat­ments have “loos­ened” my curl pat­tern some. I can’t real­ly explain it. Curlynikki.com has a great arti­cle about it. I have type 4 a/b/c/ mix. My curls are not as tight­ly coiled since I start­ed hen­na

M2

Ok so now I hv a ques­tion, ive read that if u dont use water to mois­tur­ize ur hair that u real­ly aren’t doing any­thing. ie just oil won’t do it. Do what do u use to add mois­ture, what r some non-wet mois­tur­iz­ers?

nappy headed black girl

Keep­ing my hair in larg­er twists used to help me. I pre­ferred the look of small­er ones but they were mur­der to take out. I also agree that lim­it­ing water on my head helped a lot. I always tried to mois­tur­ized prop­er­ly so that I didn’t have to spritz dai­ly.

maralondon

This is my daughter’s hair. I have learnt very quick­ly that spritz­ing her hair with water is not the same as spritz­ing my own hair. I have opt­ed for aloe vera gel instead. A cou­ple of days ago i had the hard task of wash­ing her hair. It took me 7 and a half hours from start to fin­ish because it had meshed so much. This was the worst case ever. And yes the redo­ing of twists helps a lot which is some­thing i didn’t do this time around.

ttemfash

Oill rins­ing has been the best solu­tion I’ve found for my mesh­ing hair, even since I start­ed oil rins­es my mat­ting has been non -exis­tent and my hair stays mois­turised for longer. Its a win win sit­u­a­tion real­ly.

shiva

how can i get to know the progress of your news about hair care

the mane captain

my hair is all meshed up as i type now. I only do rough part­ing so I don’t break the ends while try­ing to cre­ate a per­fect part. I some­time hop in the show­er with­out wear­ing a show­er cap so I can get a light mist, though I know this shrinks my hair more and cre­ates mesh­ing. I often keep my hair bound­ed i.e in a roll,tuck n pin style or wrap it up, so it doesn’t both­er me much
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JENNID
Keep­ing oil on my strands help with the mesh­ing for me. They give me enough slip so that if I do get tan­gles and mesh­ing the oil helps it kin­da slide out.Also one and two are big­gies for me. Doing twist big­ger and keep­ing them in for a short time also helps keep mesh­ing low. I have mixed feel­ings about the water state­ment cause it depends. Say you are on day 4 of a twist out but its dry, I would say mist­ing it light­ly and maybe repur­pos­ing the hair style into an up do or a bun would be… Read more »
khanyi

No. 4 are you seri­ous???????? So basi­cal­ly you are say­ing the water is your num­ber one friend does not apply to us meshed nat­u­rals. So in this case what do we do cause try­ing to style dry hair is anoth­er night­mare, every­day these hair care advices get more com­pli­cat­ed!!!

Jesse

Hey Khanyi. I def­i­nite­ly agree with you about num­ber 4. The break­age that some peo­ple get from dry hair is real­ly not worth for­go­ing water. If a lit­tle water makes it eas­i­er to detan­gle your hair, I say DO IT!

pbotts

I am def­i­nite­ly one of those who have scaled back on dai­ly water mois­tur­iz­ing. I am no long both­ered with frizz and tan­gles as before a. And my h has improved.

The Natural Haven
Khanyi, if you did not under­stand what I wrote, then please read Cho10’s clar­i­fi­ca­tion as it is exact­ly what I meant.  I do think the idea of ‘water­ing’ your hair every­day is actu­al­ly very unsuit­able for some hair­types. There are many peo­ple with the ‘clas­sic 4c’ hair with high shrink­age and high mesh­ing who even­tu­al­ly realise this does not work for them as it aggra­vates both shrink­age and mesh­ing espe­cial­ly when hair is kept free and open. This leads to tan­gles and knots upon knots.  This does not mean you can­not use water, it just means that you need to con­trol the… Read more »
Kelly
I’ve seen so many nat­u­rals spritz their hair with water on YouTube and I did it for years, then would won­der why my hair is so tan­gled and dry. I stopped spritz­ing with water a long time ago. Doing so makes my hair frizzy and it makes it shrink. Plus, I view hair as a fiber — like clothes. If you wash clothes over and over, the col­or fades, the fab­ric gets worn down. I think the same thing could hap­pen to more frag­ile hair types. Water­ing the ends of my frag­ile hair seems to weath­er and dry it out.… Read more »
Gilda

I had to learn that the LOC or LCO meth­ods were not for me. Though of the two the LCO topped the list. #10 about is so true for me. Using water based mois­tur­iz­ers is just like spritz­ing my hair with water or anoth­er liq­uid. I rubbed a mois­tur­iz­er light­ly through my hair this morn­ing and wow. The mesh­ing (learned this term tonight read­ing this arti­cle) is a bit much.

Gilda

…meant #4 above. Since my ini­tial read­ing and post­ing a reply, I’ve done mid — week detan­gling. I either spritzed light­ly with Alice vera juice or a mix­ture of water and con­di­tion­er reac­ti­vat­ing the prod­uct already in my hair though I did add a bit more oil and leave in con­di­tion­er. And retwist my hair with larg­er twist. Though my hair was eas­i­er to han­dle when it came time to cleanse; the curl/wave pat­tern was not as define as when it’s fresh­ly cleansed and with small­er twist.

cho10

i think she meant in a very spe­cif­ic cir­cum­stance. she said for hair that is open and stretched hair should be treat­ed as if it is heat styled which makes sense. straight­en­ing is just stretch­ing your hair to its ulti­mate length so any stretched style will revert (and cause tan­gles if you have tan­gle prone hair) if you get it wet.

xyzebra

My hair craves glyc­er­ine spray for mois­ture. When I use my home­made one (dis­tilled H2O and glyc­er­ine w/a touch of oil), I get frizzies but when I use S-Curl, I don’t. I think the S-Curl con­tains not-so-nat­ur­al smooth­ing agents which is prob­a­bly not ide­al but my hair does very well with it.

Dee

Hel­lo :) My hair loves to frizz (I think that’s just it’s nature), but I’d
still like to tame it. I’ve been think­ing about try­ing S-Curl but dur­ing this time of year the cli­mate in which I live is very cold and dry. Do you live in a sim­i­lar cli­mate?

Also, whether using your home­made spray or S-Curl, do you seal?

xyzebra
Hel­lo Dee. Yes, I do my reg­u­lar LOC after cleans­ing and con­di­tion­ing, with the glyc­er­ine spray on top as a fin­ish­ing mist. Then every 3–5 days I do a mist of glyc­er­ine spray. The spray can get sticky so I go light on it. If I don’t want to load it on, I may steam to “acti­vate” the prod­uct that is already there (with show­er steam or q-redew) and pop on a plas­tic cap for 30 min or so. For deep­er mois­tur­iz­ing I’ll do glyc­er­ine spray plus 10 min under heat cap. If I tie up my twists after, they… Read more »
Dee

Hey xyze­bra! Thanks for respond­ing and explain­ing :) I’m glad glyc­erin works for you, as I’m a lil ner­vous about using it. I think I have a bot­tle in my stash, so if I try it I’ll give your reg­i­men a shot.

Thanks again!

xyzebra

I also for­got to men­tion, when my hair is dry and un-coat­ed, it tan­gles much more. Hence, the spray.

sheila j

I’m hav­ing this prob­lem right now. I just took my twists down. I have mul­ti­ple areas where there are just lots of tan­gles and knots. I don’t know what I’m going to do but I need to do it quick­ly.

Latoya

I recent­ly used the Qre­dew steam­er. I was very skep­ti­cal at first, but it is the best! Think… mois­tur­ized blow out.

Jesse
I also bought the Qre­dew steam­er about a month ago. I am still learn­ing how to use it as well. I think it’s great to revive dry curly hair that has been com­pressed in some way (sleep­ing, pony tails, twist outs, etc…) So far I like to use it on my stretched hair that has been smashed some­how over night. Have you ever tried fluff­ing out a twist out that you didn’t retwist at night? What about fluff­ing out an afro that you slept on over night? You will def­i­nite­ly get the “meshed hair” that this arti­cle refers too. I… Read more »
mangomadness

Do you ever use the Qre­dew steam­er for detan­gling? I detan­gle my 4b/c hair before sham­poo­ing and I think it might help ease along the process.

Gilda

I’m using the Qre­dew to help with detan­gling. I apply Qhemet Bio­log­ics Detan­gling Ghee, fin­ger detan­gle before using a wide tooth comb, or my new favorite, Den­man brush with sev­er­al rows remove and then use the Qre­dew. I’m find­ing that my hair is eas­i­er to han­dle before and after cleans­ing using these steps.

mangomadness

Thanks for the info! I may have to look into get­ting one.

Gilda

I too recent­ly pur­chased the Qre­dew. I’ve used it twice now and I’m not sure I quite under­stand what it’s sup­pose to do. I’m using it again in the morn­ing; all def­i­n­i­tion will be gone but, I’m exper­i­ment­ing. What do you like about it?

Tyler

Any­thing that requires you to avoid water for too long is a no-go.

Tabatha

I also wrap my hair when I go to sleep. I do put a lit­tle wet­ness son my hair, but not every day. lit­er­al­ly I sprints the air and let it fall down on my head then I oil and then I add a cream. So far so good.

cacey
i’m glad to see an arti­cle about this, as i have hair that mesh­es like crazy, par­tic­u­lar­ly in my crown. it makes detan­gling my hair in that area a total pain, because it’s all mesh! and yes, it catch­es like crazy, and is why i’ve always had trou­ble grow­ing my crown out past 7 or 8 inch­es or so while the rest of my hair would glide on by in length with no prob­lems. mesh­ing is a pain. the way nat­u­rals talk about shrink­age they should real­ly reserve for mesh­ing, which gets like zero spot­light. my hair doesn’t shrink so… Read more »
Sabrina Antoinnette < link to instagram profile

PREACH. My crown alone adds an extra 20 min­utes of detan­gling if I don’t keep my hair stretched. I keep my hair very stretched just to eas­i­ly man­age my mesh­ing in fact.

Dotty

How about hair that does both? Wel­come to my 4c world.

Catherine

Amen to that.

True2U

*Cries on your shoul­der* Some­times I want to grab a scis­sors and cut like crazy, but I’ve come too far. T^T

Caray

The last tip wont work for me ’cause I will nev­er give up spritz­ing my hair dai­ly with hair, its my mois­tur­iz­er and has allowed my to grow my hair the longest its ever been!

Nappy4C Rocks

good points

JazzWife

Aloe vera juice has been the best way for me to keep my ends mesh and tan­gle free. It works like mag­ic.

M2

Acv works well for our detan­gle as well. The link­er the hair the more acv per water I use. My hair like acv in my detan­gler and 50 each water acv rinse after con diton­ing

Gilda

Aloe Vera juice works like mag­ic for me as well.

Ceena

Nev­er thought of using aloe vera I may try this ASAP

Ellipsis

My hair can’t do pro­tec­tive styles too long.…anything longer than a week and it begins to dread (even when i dont wet my hair dur­ing the time my hair is pro­tec­tive styled) then take down is not worth it

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