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Meshing is a term that I gleaned from Chinwe’s blog. It is the perfect term because it really does accurately describe the way some kinky curly strands can easily intertwine and form a cobweb-like structure. If you have hair that meshes easily, you may often find yourself having difficulty handling it such that it does not break or form knots. Here are some tips for preventing kinky hair from meshing.

1. Protective style for shorter times, Redo the perimeter often
Hair that meshes easily will also often shrink tightly and tangle when exposed to water even when in a protective style and especially at the perimeter. Therefore, the longer you keep a protective style and wash/condition your hair in the style, the more likely you are to get meshed hair. You should experiment and learn the limit that your hair should be kept in a protective style. In all cases, do consider not ever keeping own hair twists or braids for longer than a month without at least redoing the perimeter every 1-2 weeks.

2. Detangle more
In general, detangling is often the time when hair breaks the most. This can lead many naturals to detangle in less frequent periods and especially when hair is not in a protective style. If you have your hair free for a week and you can easily track its shrinkage over this time, you may actually save yourself a lot of time and effort if you chose to do a mid-week detangling, stretch and restyle rather than wait for the week to end. Allowing the hair to continually shrink without trying to stretch it gently will promote meshing.

3. Stretch your hair before parting
Parting is the devil for hair that meshes easily. This is especially true if you choose a conservative stretching method (e.g braiding or twisting) or attempt to part on semi dry or dry unstretched hair. Hair that meshes easily does so because of multiple kinks and tight curls. Stretching hair allows you to retain texture but at the same time smooths out kinks and curls to reduce meshing of the strands. Curlformers and African threading are two heatless methods to get really stretched out hair without placing too much strain on the hair.

4. Avoid water, avoid glycerin, avoid water based moisturizer.
This tip is for hair which is being kept free, open and stretched. This hair should be treated as you would a heat-treated style. You need to avoid water and water based ingredients as well as humectants if you want to keep the style stretched and mesh free. You can certainly apply a water based moisturizer prior to stretching although glycerin would still remain a no -no as it has the ability to attract water to it later on. Tucking your ends into a large flat twist, updo or bun will help to maintain the moisture while you avoid water.

Ladies, how do you keep your hair from meshing and tangling?

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46 Comments on "4 Ways to Prevent Kinky Hair from Meshing Together"

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Notey

Thanks for this article. I’ve seriously thought about going back to relaxed hair and it’s because of meshing. I should definitely try henna and maybe flashed gel. Plus I realize I use a LOT of water so I will cut back and observe the situation

Berrywrap

Can anyone tell me where u get these natural oils? Are they the same as you can get in the market?

Imani S

I get my Olive Oil at the supermarket, and that’s the exact same. Most of the other oils I buy like, Apricot or Castor Oil I get online. Amazon has a good oil selection. Make sure the oil you buy is pure and usually “food grade.” You can also get Jamaican Black Castor Oil at your local beauty supply store.

Epic Naps

My hair meshes like crazy. The best remedy for me has been Flaxseed Gel. It helps keep my fine coily strands seperated.

dani

Monthly henna treatments have “loosened” my curl pattern some. I can’t really explain it. Curlynikki.com has a great article about it. I have type 4 a/b/c/ mix. My curls are not as tightly coiled since I started henna

M2

Ok so now I hv a question, ive read that if u dont use water to moisturize ur hair that u really aren’t doing anything. ie just oil won’t do it. Do what do u use to add moisture, what r some non-wet moisturizers?

nappy headed black girl

Keeping my hair in larger twists used to help me. I preferred the look of smaller ones but they were murder to take out. I also agree that limiting water on my head helped a lot. I always tried to moisturized properly so that I didn’t have to spritz daily.

maralondon

This is my daughter’s hair. I have learnt very quickly that spritzing her hair with water is not the same as spritzing my own hair. I have opted for aloe vera gel instead. A couple of days ago i had the hard task of washing her hair. It took me 7 and a half hours from start to finish because it had meshed so much. This was the worst case ever. And yes the redoing of twists helps a lot which is something i didn’t do this time around.

ttemfash

Oill rinsing has been the best solution I’ve found for my meshing hair, even since I started oil rinses my matting has been non -existent and my hair stays moisturised for longer. Its a win win situation really.

shiva

how can i get to know the progress of your news about hair care

the mane captain

my hair is all meshed up as i type now. I only do rough parting so I don’t break the ends while trying to create a perfect part. I sometime hop in the shower without wearing a shower cap so I can get a light mist, though I know this shrinks my hair more and creates meshing. I often keep my hair bounded i.e in a roll,tuck n pin style or wrap it up, so it doesn’t bother me much
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JENNID
Keeping oil on my strands help with the meshing for me. They give me enough slip so that if I do get tangles and meshing the oil helps it kinda slide out.Also one and two are biggies for me. Doing twist bigger and keeping them in for a short time also helps keep meshing low. I have mixed feelings about the water statement cause it depends. Say you are on day 4 of a twist out but its dry, I would say misting it lightly and maybe repurposing the hair style into an up do or a bun would be… Read more »
khanyi

No. 4 are you serious???????? So basically you are saying the water is your number one friend does not apply to us meshed naturals. So in this case what do we do cause trying to style dry hair is another nightmare, everyday these hair care advices get more complicated!!!

Jesse

Hey Khanyi. I definitely agree with you about number 4. The breakage that some people get from dry hair is really not worth forgoing water. If a little water makes it easier to detangle your hair, I say DO IT!

pbotts

I am definitely one of those who have scaled back on daily water moisturizing. I am no long bothered with frizz and tangles as before a. And my h has improved.

The Natural Haven
Khanyi, if you did not understand what I wrote, then please read Cho10’s clarification as it is exactly what I meant. I do think the idea of ‘watering’ your hair everyday is actually very unsuitable for some hairtypes. There are many people with the ‘classic 4c’ hair with high shrinkage and high meshing who eventually realise this does not work for them as it aggravates both shrinkage and meshing especially when hair is kept free and open. This leads to tangles and knots upon knots. This does not mean you cannot use water, it just means that you need to… Read more »
Kelly
I’ve seen so many naturals spritz their hair with water on YouTube and I did it for years, then would wonder why my hair is so tangled and dry. I stopped spritzing with water a long time ago. Doing so makes my hair frizzy and it makes it shrink. Plus, I view hair as a fiber – like clothes. If you wash clothes over and over, the color fades, the fabric gets worn down. I think the same thing could happen to more fragile hair types. Watering the ends of my fragile hair seems to weather and dry it out.… Read more »
Gilda

I had to learn that the LOC or LCO methods were not for me. Though of the two the LCO topped the list. #10 about is so true for me. Using water based moisturizers is just like spritzing my hair with water or another liquid. I rubbed a moisturizer lightly through my hair this morning and wow. The meshing (learned this term tonight reading this article) is a bit much.

Gilda

…meant #4 above. Since my initial reading and posting a reply, I’ve done mid – week detangling. I either spritzed lightly with Alice vera juice or a mixture of water and conditioner reactivating the product already in my hair though I did add a bit more oil and leave in conditioner. And retwist my hair with larger twist. Though my hair was easier to handle when it came time to cleanse; the curl/wave pattern was not as define as when it’s freshly cleansed and with smaller twist.

cho10

i think she meant in a very specific circumstance. she said for hair that is open and stretched hair should be treated as if it is heat styled which makes sense. straightening is just stretching your hair to its ultimate length so any stretched style will revert (and cause tangles if you have tangle prone hair) if you get it wet.

xyzebra

My hair craves glycerine spray for moisture. When I use my homemade one (distilled H2O and glycerine w/a touch of oil), I get frizzies but when I use S-Curl, I don’t. I think the S-Curl contains not-so-natural smoothing agents which is probably not ideal but my hair does very well with it.

Dee

Hello 🙂 My hair loves to frizz (I think that’s just it’s nature), but I’d
still like to tame it. I’ve been thinking about trying S-Curl but during this time of year the climate in which I live is very cold and dry. Do you live in a similar climate?

Also, whether using your homemade spray or S-Curl, do you seal?

xyzebra
Hello Dee. Yes, I do my regular LOC after cleansing and conditioning, with the glycerine spray on top as a finishing mist. Then every 3-5 days I do a mist of glycerine spray. The spray can get sticky so I go light on it. If I don’t want to load it on, I may steam to “activate” the product that is already there (with shower steam or q-redew) and pop on a plastic cap for 30 min or so. For deeper moisturizing I’ll do glycerine spray plus 10 min under heat cap. If I tie up my twists after, they… Read more »
Dee

Hey xyzebra! Thanks for responding and explaining 🙂 I’m glad glycerin works for you, as I’m a lil nervous about using it. I think I have a bottle in my stash, so if I try it I’ll give your regimen a shot.

Thanks again!

xyzebra

I also forgot to mention, when my hair is dry and un-coated, it tangles much more. Hence, the spray.

sheila j

I’m having this problem right now. I just took my twists down. I have multiple areas where there are just lots of tangles and knots. I don’t know what I’m going to do but I need to do it quickly.

Latoya

I recently used the Qredew steamer. I was very skeptical at first, but it is the best! Think… moisturized blow out.

Jesse
I also bought the Qredew steamer about a month ago. I am still learning how to use it as well. I think it’s great to revive dry curly hair that has been compressed in some way (sleeping, pony tails, twist outs, etc…) So far I like to use it on my stretched hair that has been smashed somehow over night. Have you ever tried fluffing out a twist out that you didn’t retwist at night? What about fluffing out an afro that you slept on over night? You will definitely get the “meshed hair” that this article refers too. I… Read more »
mangomadness

Do you ever use the Qredew steamer for detangling? I detangle my 4b/c hair before shampooing and I think it might help ease along the process.

Gilda

I’m using the Qredew to help with detangling. I apply Qhemet Biologics Detangling Ghee, finger detangle before using a wide tooth comb, or my new favorite, Denman brush with several rows remove and then use the Qredew. I’m finding that my hair is easier to handle before and after cleansing using these steps.

mangomadness

Thanks for the info! I may have to look into getting one.

Gilda

I too recently purchased the Qredew. I’ve used it twice now and I’m not sure I quite understand what it’s suppose to do. I’m using it again in the morning; all definition will be gone but, I’m experimenting. What do you like about it?

Tyler

Anything that requires you to avoid water for too long is a no-go.

Tabatha

I also wrap my hair when I go to sleep. I do put a little wetness son my hair, but not every day. literally I sprints the air and let it fall down on my head then I oil and then I add a cream. So far so good.

cacey
i’m glad to see an article about this, as i have hair that meshes like crazy, particularly in my crown. it makes detangling my hair in that area a total pain, because it’s all mesh! and yes, it catches like crazy, and is why i’ve always had trouble growing my crown out past 7 or 8 inches or so while the rest of my hair would glide on by in length with no problems. meshing is a pain. the way naturals talk about shrinkage they should really reserve for meshing, which gets like zero spotlight. my hair doesn’t shrink so… Read more »
Sabrina Antoinnette < link to instagram profile

PREACH. My crown alone adds an extra 20 minutes of detangling if I don’t keep my hair stretched. I keep my hair very stretched just to easily manage my meshing in fact.

Dotty

How about hair that does both? Welcome to my 4c world.

Catherine

Amen to that.

True2U

*Cries on your shoulder* Sometimes I want to grab a scissors and cut like crazy, but I’ve come too far. T^T

Caray

The last tip wont work for me ’cause I will never give up spritzing my hair daily with hair, its my moisturizer and has allowed my to grow my hair the longest its ever been!

Nappy4C Rocks

good points

JazzWife

Aloe vera juice has been the best way for me to keep my ends mesh and tangle free. It works like magic.

M2

Acv works well for our detangle as well. The linker the hair the more acv per water I use. My hair like acv in my detangler and 50 each water acv rinse after con ditoning

Gilda

Aloe Vera juice works like magic for me as well.

Ceena

Never thought of using aloe vera I may try this ASAP

Ellipsis

My hair can’t do protective styles too long….anything longer than a week and it begins to dread (even when i dont wet my hair during the time my hair is protective styled) then take down is not worth it

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