We’re back with anoth­er com­pi­la­tion piece! Last week four BGLH writ­ers shared how they went from TWA to back length. Now we’re talk­ing about oils and but­ters! Over the next two weeks our writ­ers will share how they incor­po­rate oils and but­ters into their reg­i­men. Be sure to read our first post from Geniece, sec­ond post from Chin­we, third post from Tori , fourth post from Ijeo­ma and fifth post from Por­tia. Next up is Elle.


I’m usu­al­ly a fan of for­mu­lat­ed prod­ucts, because, let’s be hon­est, any amount of book or Google research isn’t going to supercede a chem­istry degree or exten­sive back­ground in hair research. That’s why I main­ly leave it to the pros. When I wrote my piece about not lik­ing cas­tor oil, a few peo­ple scoffed at me and sug­gest­ed mix­es with that oil, but no, I was talk­ing about the purest form. Some­times, that just doesn’t work. But I do have a few raw ingre­di­ents that I’ve used over the years that don’ t need the pow­er of chem­istry, and here they are:

Unre­fined Coconut Oil


So I kind of want to put excla­ma­tion points after that title, but I don’t want to be obvi­ous with my bias. When my hair was short­er, I hon­est­ly wasn’t lov­ing coconut oil that much, but lat­er I did a chal­lenge, and found the best brands and ways for it to work for me. Nuti­va Coconut Oil seems creami­er than oth­er brands to me, and my hair just likes it bet­ter. I use it in a myr­i­ad of ways — to refresh a wash and go (fluff­ing it over my hair), oil rinse, on my ends, etc- it’s just very ver­sa­tile to me, and I can also use it to cook!

Rose­mary Essen­tial Oil


I used to find the smell of rose­mary so cloy­ing, but now I find it sooth­ing. It’s def­i­nite­ly too strong to use rose­mary oil alone, but mixed with a car­ri­er oil, it has claims of reduc­ing break­age and strength­en­ing ends. I’m in. I add maybe six drops or so to 8oz of good car­ri­er oil, like jojo­ba or vit­a­min E. I espe­cial­ly love to use this mix to fin­ish off a wash and go or oil rinse in the show­er.



Am I allowed to say water in this arti­cle? It may be so obvi­ous, but I still have some peo­ple ask­ing me how shea but­ter or oth­er oils mois­tur­ize, and it makes me sad. Oils do not pro­vide mois­ture! They seal it, with the excep­tion of a few (and even then I wouldn’t sub them for stronger mois­tur­iz­ers) that have slight mois­tur­iz­ing prop­er­ties. Water is essen­tial to mois­ture, which is why you’ll nev­er hear me pitch­ing any prod­uct that doesn’t have water or some­thing sim­i­lar as a mul­ti-day mois­tur­iz­er or leave-in. Spritz­ing my hair with water makes it feel great, and it real­ly doesn’t ruin frizz con­trol or def­i­n­i­tion. You can use fil­tered water (which I per­son­al­ly think is bet­ter due to all of the pol­lu­tion in nat­ur­al rain) or tap water to refresh your wash and go if you don’t feel like buy­ing fan­cy spray leave-ins. Water is just as good, maybe bet­ter.

Olive Oil and Hon­ey


If you need a quick, nat­ur­al deep con­di­tion­er, olive oil and hon­ey is the best com­bo, in my opin­ion. The hon­ey pro­vides mois­tur­iz­ing prop­er­ties while olive oil is great for scalp health and is even said to pro­mote hair growth. Mix 1/4 cup of olive oil and 1/2 a cup of hon­ey to wet hair, and let it sit for at least 30 min­utes. I some­times like to sleep with this mix­ture in my hair, but it can get messy since my hair is longer now. The pic­ture above is from me after using the treat­ment in 2009! And it’s still awe­some.

So what are you all using (besides cas­tor oil, okay, just kid­ding)?


Elle is the edi­tor and cre­ative direc­tor of the YouTube chan­nel and blog, Quest for the Per­fect Curl at www.questfortheperfectcurl.com. Her chan­nel focus­es on nat­ur­al hair, beau­ty, and fit­ness. She loves prod­ucts that smell like dessert, yoga, and glit­ter. Fol­low her @qftpc.

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Sor­ry for the late com­ment.. Take an emp­ty spray bot­tle like in the pic­ture.. Put some con­di­tion­ner put like ”5 drops” to fill the end of the bot­tle.. than put water in it.. Shake it.. Spray it on your hair.. Until you’re able to comb your hair eas­i­ly.. Than put the coconut, shea, olive or any oil.. I’d sug­gest coconut. I’m a man and my cousin told me to do this. And my hair is grow­ing way more than it was before.. Hope that helped you.


My hair doesn’t seem to like any oil. I’ve tried coconut oil, olive oil, jojo­ba oil, avo­ca­do oil, Shea but­ter you name it. Any­time i put in oil in it, it just becomes super hard and dry. The only thing it seems to like is leave in con­di­tion­er but i feel like it’s not enough. Any sug­ges­tions?

Jay | Relaxed Thairapy

I love avo­ca­do oil but also use extra vir­gin coconut (pre-poo); cas­tor (oil rins­ing and in deep con­di­tion­ers); olive oil (in deep con­di­tion­ers); and wheat germ oil (oil rins­ing).

I’ve seen some ven­dors mar­ket oil based prod­ucts as mois­tur­iz­ing prod­ucts. That claim doesn’t help ladies who are try­ing to learn the about healthy hair care.


I real­ly like olive , coconut, avo­ca­do, almond and.…castor oil! Lol. I used to do hon­ey pre­poo treat­ments when i had a TWA. I should go back to it some­day.

I only got shea but­ter to work in my hair one time and i cant remem­ber how i used it. ;(


I would love to try avo­ca­do oil. I hair such great things about it. As far as shea but­ter, if you don’t like to use it raw, maybe you can try whip­ping the shea but­ter, mix­ing it with your favorite oils then apply­ing it to clean damp hair. Then make a few twist or plaits and take down once ful­ly dried? I always get very soft moist hair when I do this.


You sbould def­i­nite­ly check it out. It applies so smooth and feels good.

Thanks for the tip. Ill try it out that way.


Yes I’m always read­ing about how smooth it makes your hair feel! Should I get a spe­cif­ic brand or does any brand made with good qual­i­ty work? I hope you fig­ure out how to make shea but­ter work for your hair. When all else fails shea but­ter is afford­able, last for­ev­er and an awe­some sealant, for me at least.


A good qual­i­ty one would help. I have used a good and bad you can def­i­nite­ly tell a difference..i use the Now! Brand. I hope so too because i put it on my skin lol i want to exper­i­ment it in my hair.


Shea but­ter only works for me if my hair is dry…If I put shea in my wet hair it just sits on top of my hair it doesn’t penetrate.….but dry hair it just sinks in and soft­ens and enlon­gates.