This may sound strange to some, but trust me — there’s a method to my mad­ness. I’m a twist out gal and in the past, I would pri­mar­i­ly twist my hair while wet. How­ev­er, I’ve always noticed that my hair would become knot­ty and tan­gled after a few days of styling my hair while it was still wet. I thought that may­be this would be some­thing that I’d just have to deal with. After all, every nat­u­ral has some sort of strug­gle with their hair, right? Well after years of this, this nat­u­ral got tired of the strug­gle!

While I loved the def­i­n­i­tion that wet twist outs gave me, I was see­ing some break­age and way too many knots. I have always had hair that eas­i­ly knots and tan­gles, and I final­ly accept­ed that the wet twist outs weren’t help­ing mat­ters. Also, my hair was much eas­ier to style when it was dry and stretched as opposed to wet. When I twist­ed my hair on blow dried hair, my hair was kind to me. It didn’t knot and I didn’t feel like I was rip­ping hair out of my head when part­ing or comb­ing. Have you ever heard your strands snap? It tru­ly makes you cringe.

After my last fight with styling my hair while it was wet, I decid­ed that I had to find a bet­ter way. I wore my hair in a bun (that was styled while wet) for two weeks as a pro­tec­tive style and wash day was a night­mare. I spent almost 45 min­utes detan­gling and per­form­ing surgery on my hair. I wasn’t going to become a wash n go nat­u­ral, so that wasn’t an option. I thought back to my child­hood and how my moth­er con­sis­tent­ly blow dried my hair after every wash. My sis­ters could get their hair plait­ed and twist­ed while it was wet, but she nev­er did that with me. Not even dur­ing the hot sum­mer months. When I asked her why, she said it was because I had the most tan­gled hair on the plan­et and blow dry­ing made my hair much eas­ier for her to man­age until the next wash. My hair was nev­er heat dam­aged and it thrived. After that tid­bit of infor­ma­tion, I was sold. I decid­ed that I was no longer going to style my hair while it was wet and the blow dry­er would be on deck after every wash.

Little Portia with blow dried hair. Not sure why I was flairing my nostrils.
Lit­tle Por­tia with blow dried hair. Not sure why I was flair­ing my nos­trils.

I’ve been keep­ing up with twist­ing and styling my hair on blow dried hair (I dry it about 80%) for the past 3 and a half months and my hair has thanked me for it. I blow dry on low heat but high pow­er. I don’t have heat dam­age and hon­est­ly I’ve nev­er strug­gled with heat dam­age from a blow dry­er. I blow dry every 10 days or so. I no longer have to sit under a hood­ed dry­er for hours (my hair does not air dry well) and I don’t get near­ly as many knots. I’ve always blow dried my hair and twist­ed it every once in a while, but I was nev­er con­sis­tent (its work!). Now that I’ve been blow dry­ing faith­ful­ly, I can see the dif­fer­ence in my hair. I still spray some water on each twist to damp­en for curl def­i­n­i­tion and mois­ture, but I don’t drench my hair. I fol­low up with my styler and but­ters just as I did on wet hair. Wash day is so much eas­ier and I wish I did this a long time ago.

Day 2 twist out on blow dried hair.
Day 2 twist out on blow dried hair.
Day 1 twist out on blow dried hair.
Day 1 twist out on blow dried hair.

I know that there is this “no heat” com­mand­ment in the nat­u­ral hair com­mu­ni­ty that most adhere to, but some­times you’ve got to do what works for you and your hair. I nev­er thought that after so many years of being nat­u­ral I’d change my hair reg­i­men up so dra­mat­i­cal­ly. But that’s the beau­ty of the nat­u­ral hair jour­ney. Some­times, things change and that’s okay. Do what’s best for your unique head of hair regard­less of the peanut gallery.

Are you a nat­u­ral whose hair thrives when stretched?

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25 Comments on "Why I No Longer Style My Natural Hair Wet"

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i also blow-dry once every week dur­ing wash day, i deal with my hair exact­ly like you do. it has reduced break­age. the best part was the sin­gle strand knots i have few to zero sin­gle strand knots on my hair. i use the ten­sion method. i also blow dry 80% and put in sin­gle braids and let the rest air dry. i also blow dry on low heat. blow-dry­ing has def­i­nite­ly saved my hair. and my hair is mid­dle boob length. nat­u­rals run away from blow dry­ing but if you get a lot of break­age, tan­gle and sin­gle strand… Read more »
Jamaica LeAnn

thanks for shar­ing this… I lit­er­al­ly always blow dry and flat iron…thought i had to do a no heat reg­i­ment on my hair… but after read­ing this… I will just give up the flat iron… I have some thick hair and twist outs just don’t work for me… and wet ban­tu knots was break­ing my hair off smh