Why I No Longer Style My Natural Hair Wet

This may sound strange to some, but trust me – there’s a method to my madness. I’m a twist out gal and in the past, I would primarily twist my hair while wet. However, I’ve always noticed that my hair would become knotty and tangled after a few days of styling my hair while it was still wet. I thought that maybe this would be something that I’d just have to deal with. After all, every natural has some sort of struggle with their hair, right? Well after years of this, this natural got tired of the struggle!

While I loved the definition that wet twist outs gave me, I was seeing some breakage and way too many knots. I have always had hair that easily knots and tangles, and I finally accepted that the wet twist outs weren’t helping matters. Also, my hair was much easier to style when it was dry and stretched as opposed to wet. When I twisted my hair on blow dried hair, my hair was kind to me. It didn’t knot and I didn’t feel like I was ripping hair out of my head when parting or combing. Have you ever heard your strands snap? It truly makes you cringe.

After my last fight with styling my hair while it was wet, I decided that I had to find a better way. I wore my hair in a bun (that was styled while wet) for two weeks as a protective style and wash day was a nightmare. I spent almost 45 minutes detangling and performing surgery on my hair. I wasn’t going to become a wash n go natural, so that wasn’t an option. I thought back to my childhood and how my mother consistently blow dried my hair after every wash. My sisters could get their hair plaited and twisted while it was wet, but she never did that with me. Not even during the hot summer months. When I asked her why, she said it was because I had the most tangled hair on the planet and blow drying made my hair much easier for her to manage until the next wash. My hair was never heat damaged and it thrived. After that tidbit of information, I was sold. I decided that I was no longer going to style my hair while it was wet and the blow dryer would be on deck after every wash.

Little Portia with blow dried hair. Not sure why I was flairing my nostrils.

Little Portia with blow dried hair. Not sure why I was flairing my nostrils.

I’ve been keeping up with twisting and styling my hair on blow dried hair (I dry it about 80%) for the past 3 and a half months and my hair has thanked me for it. I blow dry on low heat but high power. I don’t have heat damage and honestly I’ve never struggled with heat damage from a blow dryer. I blow dry every 10 days or so. I no longer have to sit under a hooded dryer for hours (my hair does not air dry well) and I don’t get nearly as many knots. I’ve always blow dried my hair and twisted it every once in a while, but I was never consistent (its work!). Now that I’ve been blow drying faithfully, I can see the difference in my hair. I still spray some water on each twist to dampen for curl definition and moisture, but I don’t drench my hair. I follow up with my styler and butters just as I did on wet hair. Wash day is so much easier and I wish I did this a long time ago.

Day 2 twist out on blow dried hair.

Day 2 twist out on blow dried hair.

Day 1 twist out on blow dried hair.

Day 1 twist out on blow dried hair.

I know that there is this “no heat” commandment in the natural hair community that most adhere to, but sometimes you’ve got to do what works for you and your hair. I never thought that after so many years of being natural I’d change my hair regimen up so dramatically. But that’s the beauty of the natural hair journey. Sometimes, things change and that’s okay. Do what’s best for your unique head of hair regardless of the peanut gallery.

Are you a natural whose hair thrives when stretched?

24 thoughts on “Why I No Longer Style My Natural Hair Wet

  1. thanks for sharing this… I literally always blow dry and flat iron…thought i had to do a no heat regiment on my hair… but after reading this… I will just give up the flat iron… I have some thick hair and twist outs just don’t work for me… and wet bantu knots was breaking my hair off smh

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