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Grow­ing up in the 80’s and 90’s I learned very ear­ly on that being Hait­ian wasn’t exact­ly the thing to be.  When my fam­i­ly moved to a new town, my old­er broth­er and I sim­ply hid it. Nobody asked, so we didn’t tell. Then it all began to unrav­el. My third grad­er teacher assigned a fam­i­ly tree dia­gram which forced me to reveal our her­itage  I recall com­ing home from school that day feel­ing dread as I told my old­er broth­er (by two years) that the jig was up. The tears came quick­ly, from both us, as we under­stood all too well what it would mean to reveal that we were Hait­ian. The teas­ing would be bru­tal, but tol­er­a­ble. Feel­ing ostra­cized was what we feared the most.

But then we grew up, and like most peo­ple, the very thing we were teased about as chil­dren became the thing we cher­ished with the upmost pride. We embraced our her­itage, and slow­ly the larg­er West-Indi­an com­mu­ni­ty began to accept us. Gain­ing this accep­tance, how­ev­er, came at a price. While I had always heard fam­i­ly mem­bers speak with dis­dain about Black Amer­i­cans, it wasn’t until I was a teenag­er when I learned that this us vs. them men­tal­i­ty spanned across West-Indi­an cul­tures. When I’d hear West-Indi­ans attribut­ing cer­tain stereo­types to Black Amer­i­cans,  I found myself nod­ding in agree­ment.  We were dif­fer­ent, I insist­ed. We  were edu­cat­ed. Our chil­dren were bet­ter behaved. We were hard-work­ing. Our food tast­ed bet­ter. African Amer­i­cans gave us all a bad name, and while we would befriend them in pub­lic, in pri­vate, we’d deride them for being stereo­typ­i­cal.

I car­ried this belief with me to col­lege. I was even proud when white peo­ple would praise me for being dif­fer­ent from what they’d imag­ined. My French last name was also a crowd-pleas­er. I ate it all up with a spoon. My false pride, how­ev­er,  came to an abrupt halt towards the end of my fresh­man year when one of my white dorm-mates told me to, “Go back to Africa.” I was stunned. Sure­ly, she couldn’t mean me? I had the per­fect­ly straight hair. I dressed well. I made the Dean’s list. I spoke prop­er­ly. How could she, in a moment of anger, reduce me to being a black face just like any oth­er? I was dif­fer­ent. Wasn’t I? It was a hard les­son, but she woke me up good and prop­er. I’ve nev­er been the same and I’m proud that I did not go into adult­hood car­ry­ing that load of self-hatred with me.

Recent­ly, Huff­in­g­ton Post writer , who is of Cameroon­ian her­itage, penned an open let­ter to African immi­grants, urg­ing them to not fall vic­tim to the same belief sys­tem.  She writes:

White Amer­i­cans will say you are bet­ter than Amer­i­can blacks, but please do not fall for this trap. You will be told you behave bet­ter, work hard­er, and are more edu­cat­ed than Amer­i­can blacks. You will be tempt­ed to agree and will some­times want to shout, “YES, I’M NOT LIKE THEM, WE AFRICANS ARE DIFFERENT!” Just don’t…don’t even think it.

The praise of your acquired char­ac­ter­is­tic and cul­ture becomes a jus­ti­fi­ca­tion for white Amer­i­cans to per­pet­u­ate dis­crim­i­na­to­ry treat­ments towards Amer­i­can blacks. These state­ments of praise have an under­ly­ing mes­sage of, “If Africans can do so well then sure­ly racism has noth­ing to do with any­thing, there­fore, Amer­i­can Blacks are to be blamed for their con­di­tion in Amer­i­ca”. This prob­lem­at­ic line of rea­son­ing sus­tains cul­tur­al racism. I beg of you, refrain from nod­ding in agree­ment when you receive such faulty praise.

Indeed, West Indi­ans, like the African immi­grants described in Seppou’s let­ter, are guilty of the same mis­deeds. In want­i­ng to carve out a place for our­selves in a soci­ety where being black places you on the bot­tom rung, we have per­pet­u­at­ed the belief that we are bet­ter than our African Amer­i­can coun­ter­parts.

Caribbean cul­ture and African cul­ture are dif­fer­ent than African Amer­i­can cul­ture. But when we cel­e­brate our unique­ness, it should nev­er be to shame African Amer­i­can cul­ture.

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L
Thank you for shar­ing this. It is tru­ly a seri­ous issue. As an African-Amer­i­can, I have encoun­tered Car­rbbeans and Africans with that igno­rant men­tal­i­ty, and it makes me nau­seous. I imme­di­ate­ly lose respect for indi­vid­u­als like that. We are all black in the eyes of white peo­ple and they do not know the dif­fer­ence unless you tell them your nation­al­i­ty. We need to stick togeth­er and end this stu­pid­i­ty. I’ve had many expe­ri­ences with this and unfor­tu­nate­ly lost a great and close friend who is Afro-French and have had to put peo­ple in their place, and “sur­prised” peo­ple because I’m… Read more »
Nola Q. Darling
Don’t wor­ry- we blk Amer­i­cans are taught the same things about Africans and West Indi­ans- that they are igno­rant, they think they are bet­ter than blacks, and that they come to the US with an enti­tle­ment com­plex. Con­verse­ly, we’re taught not to date or com­min­gle with peo­ple who aren’t born with Amer­i­can cit­i­zen­ship. We are taught that islanders are sav­ages. Goes both ways. I’m 33, I’ve trav­eled the world, I have pro­fes­sion­al cer­ti­fi­ca­tions and I’m in IT Man­age­ment. After four years of liv­ing in Flori­da (I was raised in the north), I still have yet to make friends with Caribbean… Read more »
Tracienatural

Sor­ry to hear this, sis. I live in South Flori­da now (from NYC). Too bad we don’t know each oth­er. I’m sure we’d be friends, or at least hap­py acquain­tances lol. I hope you get to meet more of the kind, accept­ing, and con­scious Caribbean and African peo­ple. Ase.

I'land Gyal

I feel so sad for you. There’s more to the world than your small, sad exis­tence. Take a trip, read a book, and FORGIVE your­self. It’s going to be okay! :-)

ibutcherii
rainbow

Not all black Lon­don­ers know their back­ground. Immi­grants from the Caribbean don’t know what part of Africa they are from.

lis

Hmm…I see some of your points but as a Jamaican you should know that slav­ery in Jamaica was not­ed for its brutality.….In fact for a long time there was more for­eign born Blacks than native born because soo many died young and it was cheap­er to import Africans than to take care of the ones already there.…and Jamaican slav­ery was only a few decades short­er than Amer­i­can slavery.…A Mixed people?.…Ok.……The few.….but I see some of your points.

lis

Yes but those are the for­eign born Blacks they let into the coun­try. …The edu­cat­ed mid­dle class ones who would thrive in any country.…..less in numbers.…(especially when the way was made eas­i­er by the native born Blacks).…and they and their chil­dren can be con­trast­ed with the Blacks in say France who are African and West Indi­an back­ground but are not doing as well.…and that is not to take away from their suc­cess?

lis

‘We have nothing’.…..oooohhhh?????????

lis

Milly.…it is human nature and it is dis­gust­ing. …isn’t it?

lis

Ignorant.…a lot of West Indi­ans look straight up African’.…is that sup­posed to be an insult?.…sigh.…I’ve had a few run ins with some Africans and tend to keep my dis­tance until I know them better…but I have to say when an African woman is beautiful.…there’s no com­par­i­son. …per­fect skin, fea­tures, bod­ies, even teeth.…When African women are beautiful.……THEY ARE DROP DEAD GORGEOUS.…so come again.

mmmmm
The issue with this is at you’re all liv­ing for the white man’s approval. I’m also Hait­ian, but I’m tired of peo­ple telling me to con­form to a stan­dard of “black­ness” that is not me. It is not my his­to­ry. When will all our history’s be told/known? I did date sev­er­al African men. 2 of them were divi­sive so I’ve expe­ri­enced that but I took it as a huge cul­tur­al prob­lem which it is. I haven’t been to any African coun­tries yet, when I go I’ll have a bet­ter under­stand­ing of it. Just like when I came here to the… Read more »
maralondon
The his­to­ries are all inter con­nect­ed any­ways. I think it’s sil­ly to see us all as sep­a­rate enti­ties. When Euro­peans struck in Africa they were in cahoots with each oth­er over who would get what and where. They didn’t care to keep us togeth­er accord­ing to our kins peo­ple, we were strewn every­where. Many of us had fam­i­lies who remained on the con­ti­nent and fam­i­ly mem­bers were fur­ther removed and tak­en to dif­fer­ent parts of the Amer­i­c­as. Although I live in Eng­land with Caribbean par­ents I con­sid­er those in the dias­po­ra lost cousins. We don’t know who we are relat­ed to.
Todd Pearson

That’s because Amer­i­can blacks have their OWN Institutions…and have had them for the past century…most Amer­i­can Blacks attend HBCUs. But what’s inter­est­ing is why can’t for­eign born blacks achieve this in their native coun­tries where they are the major­i­ty and run the gov­ern­ment and resources. Would love to see an arti­cle on that.

Ganadora Loteria

We do and we have achieved these things. Also, ‘Amer­i­can impe­ri­al­ism’ has alot to do with the destruc­tion of many black/brown nations and our gov­ern­ments. Your argu­ment lacks con­text.

Todd Pearson

Yes all immi­grants ben­e­fit off the free labor of black Americans…Maybe one day Amer­i­can blacks can get their repa­ra­tions for giv­ing immi­grants the Amer­i­can Dream.

Pepie
I am Guyanese and i share some your the sen­ti­ments regard­ing dif­fer­ences. Hav­ing lived in the US for almost 10 years I can relate to every­thing said on this thread thus far. I believe too, until recent, that a sig­nif­i­cant dif­fer­ence between West Indi­ans and African Amer­i­cans was slav­ery end­ing ear­ly in the West Indies. When slav­ery end­ed in August of 1838, Guyana freed slaves bought the first plan­ta­tion in Novem­ber of that same year and named it Vic­to­ria. In Feb­ru­ary of 1938 the sec­ond plan­ta­tion was bought and named Bux­ton; my father’s fam­i­ly are from this vil­lage. For more… Read more »
lis
So why so many of you in the us?…bought plan­ta­tions? From? If you own the country..‘no one? love or respect Black Americans’..who is no one?..whites?…because they love and respect you all..right?…please.…even when they are in your countries..they do not.…believe it or not Black Amer­i­cans love and respect them­selves, inspite of what shit­ty rap hip hop cul­ture says because i know thats what you all look at.….. lis­ten .…slav­ery end­ed in the US in 1863./5…on paper.…Black Amer­i­cans had to nav­i­gate Jim crow, state ter­ror­ism, mur­der, rape, out­num­bered, kept out of every industry/union, kept out of every scheme to pro­vide peo­ple with upward… Read more »
Pepie

Lis, I think you mis­un­der­stood what I wrote. I hon­est­ly ask you to read my com­ment over again. I have tremen­dous amount of respect for African Amer­i­cans. My com­ment was to show how dif­fer­ent groups evolved out of slav­ery and colo­nial­ism. In my clos­ing sen­tence I praised your strug­gles and indi­cat­ed the world, includ­ing West Indi­ans, ben­e­fit direct­ly and indi­rect­ly from your fight. I am sad­den by your response.

Camara

Bitch, we hate you too tf. You’re not shit. You think NY and oth­er places in the US aren’t damn dirty ass slums? Our islands have nat­ur­al beau­ty that this ugly coun­try lacks, coon. West Indi­ans are far more diverse than you think idiot, prob­a­bly even more diverse that Amer­i­can black. No one wants to be you guys. Y’all seri­ous­ly bring shame to oth­er blacks around the world and y’all do not have any good man­ners at all you self hat­ing, igno­rant bitch.

Cosita

LMAO! You sound just as sil­ly as her. You basicly said to black Amer­i­cans “You bitch­es and coons don’t have good man­ners like we do.” Seri­ous­ly?? LOL! I think you are both an embarass­ment to black peo­ple. If you haven’t seen nat­ur­al beau­ty in the US then you must not get out much.

tracienatural

Just a small reminder: every African liv­ing out­side of Africa is liv­ing on cap­tured land, i.e. land stolen from its natives. So, Amer­i­ca, Cana­da, the Caribbean, Cen­tral and South America–all cap­tured land. Let’s not brag and say “my cap­tured land is more beau­ti­ful than your cap­tured land.” How do we sound? Ridicu­lous, espe­cial­ly since most Africans in the dias­po­ra don’t own the so-called beau­ti­ful land in the first place! Come on now, black peo­ple, let’s love each oth­er! Ase

Pepie

Very Informed post because it repli­cate the same issue here in Amer­i­ca to a coun­try pre­dom­i­nate­ly black.

Guest

Very true indeed. African Amer­i­can lack of fam­i­ly struc­ture plays a big part in this mat­ter.

Anya W

Wrong. Amer­i­can racism and white suprema­cy is as much the rea­son for prob­lems in the black com­mu­ni­ty as Euro­pean impe­ri­al­ism is the rea­son that Caribbean and African coun­tries lag behind the rest of the world in every mea­sure.

Guest

“African Amer­i­can lack of fam­i­ly struc­ture *plays a big part* in this mat­ter.”

**–mean­ing it plays a part, but it’s not the only part, and it’s not the whole part, just plays a big part with­in the whole.

Hope the addi­tion­al descrip­tions helped.

Todd Pearson

And what comes in to play with for­eign-born blacks not being able to achieve this in their native coun­tries when blacks are the major­i­ty, run the gov­ern­ment and con­trol the resources. If they could achieve this in their native coun­tries they wouldn’t have to migrate to Amer­i­ca, Eng­land, Cana­da or France.

maralondon
Although you have major­i­ty blacks in the Caribbean it is the Amer­i­cans and oth­er Euro­peans pulling the pup­pet strings. You will find that the polit­i­cal and even the edu­ca­tion sys­tems are based on mod­els intro­duced to the peo­ple by for­mer Colonis­ers Many of the Islands have tourism as it’s eco­nom­i­cal force. This indus­try is heav­i­ly invest­ed by Asians(mainly Indi­ans) and Euro­peans alike. I have yet to learn of any African Caribbean with a chain of big hotels or own­ing those inclu­sive hol­i­day com­plex­es which for­eign peo­ple like to go to. There isn’t that much that we con­trol in the Caribbean… Read more »
Pepie

My friend, you can’t just make such a state­ment with­out cit­ing your source like the per­son you’re respond­ing to did. State­ment is bias with­out proof.

Leese
I grew up in a West Indi­an house­hold and odd­ly I nev­er heard the us vs them until I was much old­er and peo­ple com­plained to me ( most­ly AA). I did­nt get it arent we all African amer­i­cans or just sim­ply black ?( which I pre­fer to be called its more inclu­sive to me) .The major­i­ty of my fam­i­ly resides in the islands and grow­ing up i spent ever sum­mer with them. They use to call me “Yan­kee” I dint know it was an insult until my 20s. Espe­cial­ly when the same cousins often want­ed what I had, my… Read more »
LW

The Huff­in­g­ton­post writer hit it on the nail…its the divide and con­quer method best believe racists don’t divide West Indi­ans to AA and AA from Africans as long as your skin has any melanin I don’t care if its a light cream to the dark­est blue black if you from Aru­ba to Argenti­na to Egypt you are a nin­ja to them.

If only we could real­ize and accept that and all join togeth­er we would be so pow­er­ful.

bbygirl

I’m very con­fused, can some­one tell me why it’s ‘shame­ful’ to be Hait­ian? My cousin is Hait­ian and she doesn’t like to tell peo­ple, either. I think its some­thing one should be proud of.

LD

I can speak for myself as a Hait­ian but around where I grew up, it wasn’t cool. And the “uncool-ness” came from African Amer­i­cans sham­ing us. Also, dur­ing that time there was a lot of the Hait­ian refugee talk going on and we were “boat peo­ple.” Not all African Amer­i­cans are this way of course but I’ve noticed, a lot of African Amer­i­cans talked crap about any black per­son from any oth­er coun­try because it was “weird” to them.

Kaygee.Allah
Hairl­tians catch ridicule because Amer­i­can whites start­ed the cam­paign of neg­a­tiv­i­ty against them after the slave revolts that result­ed in the French being exiled from the island. Although Amer­i­ca prof­it­ed great­ly, by obtain­ing the Louisiana Pur­chase, the Haitians are still black, and the French are still white. This seeped into Black Amer­i­can cul­ture because it was fet­ed that if we knew we were the same peo­ple, we would revolt, as well. So, the equa­tion of African spir­i­tu­alisms (voodoo) with dev­il wor­ship began. The same cam­paign that led us to believe that we’re dif­fer­ent was spread through­out, and all who came… Read more »
Ta Juana TJ Burley-Robinson
Ta Juana TJ Burley-Robinson

It’s the dread­ed lies of sys­tem­at­ic mas­sagany. Haitians are con­sid­ered in alliance with the dev­il because they fought off slav­ery and oppres­sion of the French. Good Chris­tians say the sold their souls to the dev­il with their voodoo. When Napoleon left he took their lum­ber (sacred trees) and black­balled them from out­side com­merce. The Domini­can Repub­lic right on the oth­er side of the island is revered for their mix­ing with their Span­ish cap­tors. We should be prais­ing Haitians for their strength and brav­ery instead of per­pet­u­at­ing the stereo­types and I’ll will.

rainbow

They were the first black peo­ple to free them­selves from slav­ery. White suprema­cy taught oth­er black peo­ple to hate black peo­ple who are against white suprema­cy. Non Hait­ian peo­ple dis­crim­i­nate against Haitians.

lis

Right.….Haitians have a proud his­to­ry.

Sigma_Since 93

If West Indi­ans under­stood from molasses to rum to slaves, they would know we all came over on the same boat. The only dif­fer­ence was the exit

I'land Gyal

I’ve been preach­ing this for YEARS…

leuqarila17

You made some very valid points. I’ve always felt like we black peo­ple in Amer­i­ca we’re one of the first cul­tures to be “Amer­i­can­ized”. We still have bits and pieces of African cul­ture, albeit unbe­knownst to us. We are like magi­cians in the sense that we have a way of turn­ing what was/is con­sid­ered unde­sir­able to the new “it” thing. We are bril­liant!

kb

It’s real­ly weird, how oth­er blacks come here to the US, only bc African-Amer­i­cans have made it palat­able, and still look down us. Strange indeed

Ganadora Loteria

‘Amer­i­can­ism’ (which black/African Amer­i­cans also active­ly par­tic­i­pate in) is shoved down our non-US black throats. I wish black/African Amer­i­cans under­stood how much Amer­i­ca has exploit­ed pre­dom­i­nant­ly black/brown coun­tries around the world.

WebGarv

This is a mas­sive point. I lament that per­haps because of the con­tin­ued “adver­si­ty” between Black Amer­i­cans and whites, Black Amer­i­cans are dis­tract­ed and can’t cap­i­tal­ize on their huge pow­er. (I am from the Caribbean.)

Anya W
Your state­ment is very back­wards, as it assumes that black Amer­i­cans are the cre­ators of race prob­lems in Amer­i­ca, and that if we would just be qui­et, black Amer­i­cans would be suc­cess­ful. No. That is not our her­itage and it is not who we are. We have always been a polit­i­cal­ly active group — the most polit­i­cal­ly active minor­i­ty group in Amer­i­ca — and being polit­i­cal­ly active is pre­cise­ly what has brought us as far as we’ve come; it’s also what allows black immi­grants to this coun­try to come here and be accept­ed into Amer­i­ca. We con­tin­ue to high­light race… Read more »
Jimx16
We all came from one man and one woman, that’s Adam and Eve. We are in the 21st cen­tu­ry and we should know bet­ter and do bet­ter. I am West Indi­an from Trinidad with a mixed her­itage of African, East Indi­an and French decent. I will nev­er deny none. Lets cel­e­brate our cul­tur­al dif­fer­ences. I we are all one peo­ple that God but here on this earth. So long as Satan rules this earth there will be divi­sion, but when Christ comes back to rule this earth all of this divi­sion will be done away with. I am beau­ti­ful. that’s… Read more »
vwlover

At the end of the day black is black. No racist per­son is going to look at me and say, “Since you are Ghana­ian you are okay. It’s the oth­er black peo­ple I don’t like.” So yes it is sil­ly to be divi­sive and ALL groups have been guilty of this (Africans, Black Amer­i­cans, Careibeans, etc).

Sugabelly

I don’t think we should have to be forced to iden­ti­fy our­selves based on the way racists and oppres­sors think about us.

What a racist thinks about me is real­ly none of my busi­ness and I shouldn’t have to con­form my sense of self to their own thoughts or ideas about me.

R.Cola
I agree with your sec­ond state­ment, but I have to dis­agree with your first point. Non Amer­i­can blacks do NOT share the same cul­tur­al iden­ti­ty as black Amer­i­cans. Sim­i­lar­i­ties? Absolute­ly. But we are dif­fer­ent, and IMO “dif­fer­ent” is good. Grow­ing up as a Jamer­i­can, I often didn’t fit into either side of the spec­trum. I wasn’t black enough for the black kids, and I’m not white…I ate “for­eign food”, I spoke dif­fer­ent­ly than most AAs, I had dif­fer­ent per­spec­tives of diver­si­ty, among count­less oth­er things.  I appre­ci­ate dif­fer­ences in all peo­ple, and I love Shar­ing cul­ture, but I don’t want… Read more »
vwlover

Yes, I agree there are dif­fer­ences. My expe­ri­ence as a Ghana­ian-Amer­i­can ( I refer myself as Ghana­ian) is dif­fer­ent than that of an African-Amer­i­can, Jamaican, Hait­ian, etc. My point is to a racist per­son there is no dif­fer­ence. You will nev­er hear a racist per­son say, “I don’t like black peo­ple but I sure do love Bahami­ans.” That’s what I meant by at the end of the day we are all black. I hope I made sense.

OXxo
Your com­ment shows you know noth­ing about Euro­pean colonies and slav­ery in oth­er parts of the world.  West Indi­ans, His­pan­ics and even Africans have last names which are the name of some white mas­ter. So a black per­son hav­ing a French, Dutch, Por­tuguese, Irish or British sound­ing name whose fam­i­ly isn’t AA and they have had that last name for known his­to­ry has either slav­ery or some form of exploita­tion in their fam­i­ly his­to­ry.* The dif­fer­ence with a Black per­son with fam­i­ly from else­where is they can claim anoth­er coun­try and cul­ture when they set­tle in Amer­i­ca, yet some of them… Read more »
V.
Not entire­ly sure what you are try­ing to get at here, but you kind of proved my point. Being black means some­thing dif­fer­ent in amer­i­ca than it does in places with pre­dom­i­nant­ly black pop­u­la­tions. Like Iman said in an inter­view “Where I’m from every­one is black. It is redun­dant to state that. I iden­ti­fy as Soma­li”. So yeah, of course a black amer­i­can is going to cling on to being black because they don’t have a coun­try to claim. I nev­er said pick a ran­dom coun­try in Africa and start iden­ti­fy­ing with their cul­ture. Black amer­i­cans have their own rich,… Read more »
DLB

Black Amer­i­cans do have a coun­try to claim, which is Amer­i­ca; just like Blacks who come from oth­er coun­tries in the Caribbean, coun­tries in Africa, Latin Amer­i­ca, etc. can claim that coun­try. Blacks from Soma­li, Ethiopia, Pana­ma, Colom­bia, Trinidad, etc. can claim their coun­try, but when you go to a non­black coun­try, you are going to be called Black. I’ve lived abroad to see this.

CocoaGoddess

Igno­rant lit­tle girl. It’s good to be straight up African, means you know your her­itage ?. You seem like an angry “white” black girl.

A. S. Baruti

I was hop­ing, at the end of every word, some­one would call this thing out.

DLB

There are many “so called straight up Africans” that don’t know their own her­itage. There is good/bad/ignorance on all sides, includ­ing your reply/comment. Just as there is much wis­dom & knowl­edge from both sides because America’s great­est Black schol­ars teach­ing about Blacks & our his­to­ry through­out the dias­po­ra are Black Amer­i­cans & some Blacks from the Caribbean. Black Amer­i­cans built this coun­try through slav­ery, inven­tions (that were stolen), many of our suc­cess­ful com­mu­ni­ties were destroyed by jeal­ous whites, etc. Read the web­site Black­Then.

reina lockhart

This com­ment is so pathet­ic it’s not even worth the read. Why spread the same igno­rance that was giv­en to you? That’s so back­wards. If any­thing, you sound jeal­ous.

blu jamaican

Can we stop gen­er­al­iz­ing? Stereo­typ­ing can be fun com­ing from come­di­ans, but when we start to get angry and put down a whole group of peo­ple based on (let’s face it), lim­it­ed expe­ri­ence with them, just proves how unin­formed you are. Case and point, Don­ald Trump’s ban on Mus­lims.
The Us vs Them men­tal­i­ty needs to end. 

Treat peo­ple like indi­vid­u­als and not a group, stop the hate.

Cosita

So true. Every coun­try, race, cul­ture has its a$$holes. Don’t act like there are no idiots in your vil­lage. Unless you want them to rep­re­sent how the world sees you shouldn’t do that to oth­er peo­ple.

Sharon Doe

I agree. I am in South­east Flori­da and there is still a divi­sive­ness among the col­ored cul­tures here.

Nola Q. Darling

I live in south east­ern Flori­da and I don’t even speak to Caribbean women. They are rude and the men only want to run scams.

joan pike

They are prob­a­bly not look­ing to be friends with you either. A sad sit­u­a­tion.

tracienatural

Sis, ease up with these stereo­types. You don’t know enough peo­ple to make these gen­er­al­iza­tions. Real talk: most Caribbean peo­ple are very insu­lar, i.e. tend to stay to them­selves. So, it would be shock­ing that you knew enough Caribbean peo­ple to have “scams” run on you all the time. Maybe you need to go to dif­fer­ent places, meet new peo­ple. You might find your niche. Bless­ings.

Angela Booker

I am a African Amer­i­can woman mar­ried to an African man there­fore a lot of Africans think they are safe telling me how “dif­fer­ent” I am from oth­er African Amer­i­cans. I find it to be very insult­ing. Hear me and hear me clear at the end of the day we are all black in their eyes. My hus­band to had the false sense supe­ri­or­i­ty and he learned the hard way and opened his eyes.

BB87

I’ve been in many sit­u­a­tions where an old­er West Indi­an woman has tak­en a lik­ing to me and asked me where I was from, mean­ing what Car­ribean coun­try am I from. I hate when they say I’m “well-behaved” when they find out I’m not West Indi­an. You can keep your back­hand­ed com­pli­ment. I am not flat­tered.
I also had a Hait­ian girl who had to attend court-ordered anger man­age­ment that they were bet­ter behaved.

L

You are very igno­rant. Look­ing African is a neg­a­tive thing? You must also hate being black. I’m sure the white peo­ple still look down on you. It’s ok to call a cul­ture coconuts but you would be offend­ed to be called the N word. Go get an edu­ca­tion. Not just book smarts…life smarts.

yoda

I see my com­ment has been m0der­at­ed

yoda

Seems you didn’t change your way of think­ing until you got that negro wake up call.

A. S. Baruti

That is one hel­lu­va call.

Esha Fowlin

this arti­cle is every­thing and exact­ly what i have been say­ing to all blacks I encounter for­ev­er!!! lol like don’t you see this is a divi­sive strat­e­gy or are you so hap­py to be fake accept­ed that you would scorn your own? Kudos to this arti­cle.…

Shye
As an Amer­i­can black woman I nev­er like West Indi­ans and I still dont. I was born and raised in New York. And unfor­tu­nate­ly I had to be sur­round­ed by a bunch of coconuts. They come from slums in the Caribbean and they have enough to look down on black Amer­i­cans! I think they’re just jeal­ous because of our com­plex­ion and or mix­ture a lot of West Indi­ans look straight up African in most parts of the Caribbean. I don’t under­stand how they think they’re bet­ter than us win the slums if they come from are rid­dled with vio­lence take… Read more »
Sugabelly

LMAO, dear God. She real­ly said “they are jeal­ous of our com­plex­ion and mix­ture”.

Amer­i­ca, please increase the Depart­ment of Education’s bud­get already.

Sugabelly

LMAO. You are incred­i­bly igno­rant if you think peo­ple can “look African”. There is no “African look”. Every sin­gle type of black per­son from light skinned, dark skinned, thin fea­tured to thick fea­tured is rep­re­sent­ed on the con­ti­nent. Only an idiot would think that the “African look” is dark skinned, big , bul­bous nose, thick, overblown lips, and super 4c hair.
Please nobody is jeal­ous of you. Why would any­body be jeal­ous of some­one who clear­ly does not know basic infor­ma­tion about oth­er parts of the world?

Cassie

Its not just com­ing from black West Indi­ans but black Amer­i­cans also. They do the same exact thing. There have been numer­ous times when I have over­heard black Amer­i­cans say­ing neg­a­tive stereo­typ­i­cal things about West Indi­ans. They assumed I was American.And many told me I did­nt look like I could be from the coun­try. Real­ly? What are West Indi­ans sup­posed to look like?

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