Social media is a tool for a lot of things in 2016 — alle­vi­at­ing bore­dom, shar­ing break­ing news, post­ing sil­ly memes. But now, more women are tak­ing to social media for a dif­fer­ent pur­pose — telling their sto­ries of domes­tic abuse, and often call­ing out their abusers. Many times, they even direct­ly “@” the abuser to reveal them to their fol­low­ers.

There are sev­er­al rea­sons behind shar­ing these sto­ries — some do it to ensure oth­er women are warned about the man, for their own per­son­al form of ther­a­py, to encour­age oth­er women to come for­ward, and to spread aware­ness and call out the law for dis­miss­ing their cas­es.

Recent­ly, Twit­ter user @YeNani_ wrote a thread detail­ing the alleged abuse she faced for a year from her ex-boyfriend in order to let peo­ple know his true col­ors:

*Note, this thread may be trig­ger­ing for some and all con­tent is owned by @YeNani_*

via Twitter
via Twit­ter

She con­tin­ues in her series of tweets fur­ther detail­ing the abuse, specif­i­cal­ly stat­ing mul­ti­ple instances in which her ex-boyfriend struck her, and how he manip­u­lat­ed her into stay­ing in the rela­tion­ship. The entire thread is heart­break­ing, and many users have reached out to her for sup­port and thank her for shar­ing her sto­ry. How­ev­er, she explic­it­ly states that bring­ing the infor­ma­tion to light is the most impor­tant.

This isn’t the first time a woman has used social media to make her abuse and abuser known. A few weeks ago, a woman post­ed pic­tures of her wounds and recov­ery after her boyfriend stabbed her mul­ti­ple times, as well as post­ing his arrest report. Octo­ber is also Domes­tic Vio­lence Aware­ness, and women are telling sto­ries or shar­ing pic­tures to pro­mote fur­ther aware­ness.

On Thurs­day, Octo­ber 13, 2016, around 3:15 pm, police in Jack­sonville, Arkansas received infor­ma­tion about a pos­si­ble domes­tic dis­tur­bance at an apart­ment. Offi­cers say they saw two cars out­side the apart­ment, but could not get any­one to answer the door. Out of con­cern for the safe­ty of the ten­ants, forced entry was made into the apart­ment. Offi­cers found Bri­ani Duhon, 26 and Creig Green Jr., 28 deceased in what appears to be a murder/suicide by gun­shot. Bri­ani and Creig leave behind a 5-year old son. She was study­ing to be a nurse at the Uni­ver­si­ty of Arkansas at Lit­tle Rock. Friends say she was sweet, fun­ny, dri­ven and always striv­ing to achieve her goals. She was also a lov­ing and devot­ed moth­er to her son. Sad­ly, this lit­tle boy has now lost both of his par­ents. Our thoughts are with Briani’s loved ones, son and friends who are griev­ing. Rest peace­ful­ly Bri­ani. 💜 Nation­al Domes­tic Vio­lence Hot­line — 1–800-799‑7233 in over 170 lan­guages. All calls are con­fi­den­tial and anony­mous. 💜 #bri­an­iduhon #rip­bri­ani #creiggreen #domes­ticvi­o­lence #domes­ti­cabuse #mur­der­sui­cide #loveshould­nthurt #instamemo­ri­als #goneb­ut­not­for­got­ten #goneb­ut­n­ev­er­for­got­ten #restin­peace #stop­do­mes­ticvi­o­lence #restin­par­adise

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Often, these sto­ries bring about a big­ger dis­cus­sion of domes­tic abuse, misog­y­ny, and tox­ic mas­culin­i­ty. What’s hor­ri­fy­ing is that a lot of men use these oppor­tu­ni­ties to jus­ti­fy putting their hands on a woman.

To be clear, hit­ting anoth­er per­son that you are in a rela­tion­ship with, man or woman, is nev­er okay. We hope that women con­tin­ue to share their sto­ries and are met with mes­sages of love, accep­tance, and hope.

If you or some­one you know is expe­ri­enc­ing domes­tic vio­lence, call the Nation­al Domes­tic Vio­lence Hot­line at 1–800-799-SAFE (7233).


Elle is the edi­tor and cre­ative direc­tor of the YouTube chan­nel and blog, Quest for the Per­fect Curl at Her chan­nel focus­es on nat­ur­al hair, beau­ty, and fit­ness. She loves prod­ucts that smell like dessert, yoga, and glit­ter. Fol­low her @qftpc.

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