Hey. So I know I did a little ‘Michelle Phan‘ there, aka disappearing completely from my online platform. The reason is that I was just burnt out and exhausted. And a lot of that had to do with the direction BGLH was going in content wise.

I’ve been doing BGLH since April 2008. In March 2015 I decided to include more culture coverage into the platform. And at first things were fine. But over time I came to feel that “culture coverage” was becoming “a meticulous catalogue of racial aggressions against black women including but not limited to erasure by beauty brands, cultural appropriation and racist marketing.” I felt that I was just waiting for the next big scandal to drop, so I could then write about it. And it was eroding my soul.

And it wasn’t just eroding me, it was eroding my reader base. The scandalous stories are the ones that get the clicks, but many longtime fans were telling me that they could no longer log onto BGLH for fear of what they’d find. My platform — that for years had been a safe and comfortable beauty space — was becoming just another trigger in a culture that methodically preys on black women’s self-esteem.

I didn’t plan on taking a break from BGLH. In my 9 years of doing this I haven’t missed more than a couple weeks at a time, and even then that was with advanced notice. But I hit a breaking point and I just couldn’t take it.

Shortly after I stopped writing in April, the whole ‘Shea Moisture having white girls talk about hair hate’ thing broke out. And I was honestly so relieved that I wasn’t blogging regularly, because I wouldn’t have to write about it.

When I initially envisioned BGLH it was supposed to be a site that celebrated the beauty and dopeness of natural hair. This gradually segued into a site that celebrated all things ‘black girl beautiful.’ Somewhere along the way it became a discussion of all things ‘black girl traumatized.’

So I’m done. I’m closing that chapter and moving forward.

After discussing with my writing team (the lovely Portia, Elle and Chinwe), I’ve decided that July 1 will be our ‘reset and refresh’ date (if I’m thirsty, and I kinda am, I might sneak in some posts before that.) I’ll go back to updating regularly, although the posting rate will drop a bit. I’m going to start out with just 4 articles a week as I get back into the swing. And we’ll continue our journey from there.

Thanks for being patient with me. Thanks to those of you who emailed me or called to make sure I was okay. I’m excited to be back.

Much love,

Black Girl With Long Hair

Leila Noelliste, founder of Black Girl with Long Hair (April 2008). Social media, pop culture and black beauty enthusiast. bell hooks' hair twin...

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51 Comments on "Yes, BGLH Is Coming Back… But I’m Done Writing About Racial Aggressions Against Black Women"

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Yes, thank you!! I admit I was one of those readers who stopped coming as frequently because I was scared to read something that would ruin my day. Escapism has it’s own value; I’m glad BGLH is going back to being a place which focuses on the positive.


I support this entirely for all the reasons stated in the article.

LaShon Renee

Welcome back! I for one remember the old BGLH, and I loved it. I know things have to progress and change but covering inspirational stories is more productive as we have too much bad news.


Excellent! Glad to hear it and welcome you all back, strong, long, and refreshed! It’s important to take a break and keep and reflect on the real purpose of what BGLH is really all about.


I for one absolutely understand where you’re coming from and I wholeheartedly agree. I am proud of you for not only making the necessary decision to take a step back, take a break and pin point your feelings as well as prioritize what you want this site to get back to being but also for bravely sharing it with us. Bless you all


you shouldn’t stop at all about the bashing black women receive I for one love your articles, and a closed mouth will only hinder the nation don’t stop writing the truth, it happens, exhaustion and thinking your not getting anywhere with the subject, you don’t realize that your speaking to black women who embrace your words. that in turn turns into more people listening to what we see from the words of wisdom you gave us. I do urge you to write about other things but don’t stop that.