Hey. So I know I did a little ‘Michelle Phan‘ there, aka disappearing completely from my online platform. The reason is that I was just burnt out and exhausted. And a lot of that had to do with the direction BGLH was going in content wise.

I’ve been doing BGLH since April 2008. In March 2015 I decided to include more culture coverage into the platform. And at first things were fine. But over time I came to feel that “culture coverage” was becoming “a meticulous catalogue of racial aggressions against black women including but not limited to erasure by beauty brands, cultural appropriation and racist marketing.” I felt that I was just waiting for the next big scandal to drop, so I could then write about it. And it was eroding my soul.

And it wasn’t just eroding me, it was eroding my reader base. The scandalous stories are the ones that get the clicks, but many longtime fans were telling me that they could no longer log onto BGLH for fear of what they’d find. My platform — that for years had been a safe and comfortable beauty space — was becoming just another trigger in a culture that methodically preys on black women’s self-esteem.

I didn’t plan on taking a break from BGLH. In my 9 years of doing this I haven’t missed more than a couple weeks at a time, and even then that was with advanced notice. But I hit a breaking point and I just couldn’t take it.

Shortly after I stopped writing in April, the whole ‘Shea Moisture having white girls talk about hair hate’ thing broke out. And I was honestly so relieved that I wasn’t blogging regularly, because I wouldn’t have to write about it.

When I initially envisioned BGLH it was supposed to be a site that celebrated the beauty and dopeness of natural hair. This gradually segued into a site that celebrated all things ‘black girl beautiful.’ Somewhere along the way it became a discussion of all things ‘black girl traumatized.’

So I’m done. I’m closing that chapter and moving forward.

After discussing with my writing team (the lovely Portia, Elle and Chinwe), I’ve decided that July 1 will be our ‘reset and refresh’ date (if I’m thirsty, and I kinda am, I might sneak in some posts before that.) I’ll go back to updating regularly, although the posting rate will drop a bit. I’m going to start out with just 4 articles a week as I get back into the swing. And we’ll continue our journey from there.

Thanks for being patient with me. Thanks to those of you who emailed me or called to make sure I was okay. I’m excited to be back.

Much love,

Black Girl With Long Hair

Leila Noelliste, founder of Black Girl with Long Hair (April 2008). Social media, pop culture and black beauty enthusiast. bell hooks' hair twin...

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51 Comments on "Yes, BGLH Is Coming Back… But I’m Done Writing About Racial Aggressions Against Black Women"

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Oh my gosh, you listened. I hadn’t been here in months and ended up here by clicking a cloaked URL shortener link. I posted about the black woman hating topics on this site a while back and quite a few ppl agreed with me. There are few safe spaces for black women online and coming here for hair advice only to be bombarded with stories of how much ppl hate us was depressing and soul crushing. I don’t need to hear, see and read every negative story about what Becky and Biff think of us. Screw them. I avoid black… Read more »

Welcome back! I’m so glad to hear you’re going back to your roots. I have to admit, I used to check the website daily, but stopped once it became scandal after scandal. This new start will be good for all of us.

I am so happy to hear that! I haven’t logged to your blog in over a year, as I couldn’t take reading articles with so much negativity in them. I understand why you went down that route; denouncing injustices and raising awareness about the various forms racism against us takes is important. But having a place that celebrates us, when it is still too rare, is just as important, if not more. Your blog is what inspired me to go natural, back in 2008, and I was always looking forward to visiting it because of the positivity surrounding a part… Read more »
La Bandita
I understand and its because everyone is already tearing Black women down, so you don’t need to join. But catch Black women doing great things. The Olympics is an example where we saw Black Americans, Afro Latinas, Afro Caribe, Africans and European Black women winning and owning their blackness from across the globe. No one picked up on that. That afro Brazilian woman after her win was like said, “I am Black woman an proud”. That was very, very unifying for us non American blacks. And catch black women being great, falling in love etc – no one else is… Read more »
Joy McCracken
I understand your point of view and thank you for being so candid and honest. I enjoy your blog and my family loves your shea butter products! I liked the information that was provided even if it was hurtful to read it was informative. But, I understand because it’s simply hard to deal will all the time, and hurtful. However, I love your blog and will continue to await the natural hair care beauty tips. Thank you for creating a space for us to be ‘one’ and united and together. If I can offer some advice, sometimes it may just… Read more »
Crystal Antoinette

YES!!! Thank you for following your conscience and choosing to focus on all that is right and beautiful about black women. Overjoyed.