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Is Growing Out Kinky Hair Worth the Effort?

• Aug 25, 2011

Jessica brings today’s question of the day;

I went natural back in 2006, and kinda had fun with my hair the first few years of being natural. Earlier this year I became really focused on retaining length and started applying some protective techniques. I quickly learned that in order for me to retain maximum length I need to keep my hair in protective styles for at least two weeks at a time, and that my ends need to be tucked during this time. As you can imagine this limits my styling options tremendously. And, while I know I’ll probably have a lot of fun with my hair once it’s long, I was having fun with it when it was short, too. It’s like, I know that kinky hair can grow long, and that 4b&c-textured naturals (like myself) can have long hair. But the reality is that, for many of us, it’s a far more intensive and challenging process than for looser textures. And it just makes me wonder, is growing out kinky hair worth all the effort? Though I’d love to hear from everyone, I’d particularly love to hear from kinky-haired women who have actually grown their hair out. Was it worth it?

Wow. I’m looking forward to the responses on this one! What say you, ladies?

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LJ
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Sorry if this is going to be a long response: For me it’s worth the effort because I am having fun. For the first time in my life I am confident that I can “style” my own hair, and that it looks neat and presentable. I am also confident that it is healthy and it is growing. that was never the case for me when I was relaxed or natural growing up (we went back and forth). My natural hair was dry, unmanageable, really kinky and unkempt. the barber hated me because my hair broke his machines — that’s how… Read more »
Bitty Boss
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Damn girl! This IS my story too! +++++1

JJ
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10/10 response

Jane
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Wonderful story.

Yay to making things happen for you.

Shelli
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What a great response! I’m not someone with tightly curly hair. But, I think the thing that you said here there is so relevant in regard to the question is that you enjoy what you need to do to retain length. I have come to LOVE protective updos/styles, so it’s not taking the fun out of natural hair. However, if you like to wear your hair loose and protective styling is not enjoyable, then it’s probably not worth it to that person. So, as always, you have to do you=)!

FaithPeach
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Amazing story hun; so many kinky haired naturals need to know this. You’ve inspired me to keep going with my own growth. :o)

Lisa
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It’s worth it if that’s what you really want. Me, not so much. I am on the journey of growing my hair long without having to submit to protective styling because I’m not a fan of it FOR ME. I got 4 good inches of growth in a year (even after cutting my hair 1.5″) without protective styling. I’ll continue on this path. I might not see huge growth like others but over time, I’ll see it. And I’m a 4B gal.

Adrian
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So girlfriend, tell me what your doing??? I just cant stand twisting my hair for hours at a time. I mean I really love it for the first three days and then…I don’t

Indhirap
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Ops! like Lisa said… is worth if that´s what you really want! I’m lucky my genetics let me grow hair fast ( i mean an inch a month or so) but I’m lazy!!! and i get tired styling my hair… My hair is to shoulder blade lenght I’m considering cuting it! O.O

The Notorious ZAG
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same thing here… i cut mine last november because i had grown tired of it long. chopped it all off to about 2–3″ long. now, its back to where it was (shoulder blade) and i’m thinking about cutting it again -__-

ElectricFeel
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I think everyone’s journey will be different.
So there won’t be a right answer, feel me.
I think YOU need to do what’s right for you, I’m thinking
you might feel pressured to have long hair. It should not be that
way.

And if you do decide to go through with the “long hair path” remember to:“Focus on the journey, not the destination. Joy is found not in finishing an activity but in doing it.”

b.
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Longer hair is fun. I have the hair pattern you mention. I’ve never been really obsessed with long hair, but I’m giving it a go just for the heck of it. (And my hair was never very long ’til now.) I’m growing it…at MY pace. Sure, I could retain more and have it grow longer quicker. However, having it grow as long as possible as quickly as possible isn’t my personal goal. Healthy, beautiful hair is my goal…hair I can enjoy at any length. So, is it worth it? Yes, if you do it the way YOU want. The tips… Read more »
Cam
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” The tips from others are great, but the motivation and method must be personal.” +1 couldn’t agree more

MJ
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Hmm..this is a very interesting question. Right now I’m a new natural (just cut off the rest of the relaxed ends a few weeks ago!) and I’ve never had my hair this short. I’m enjoying it while it grows out and probably when it grows longer, I may cut it short again! I think it really all depends on where you are mentally in your journey and what your goals are. If you really want to grow it long, realize that you have to do a whole lot of protective styling. If you just want to enjoy your hair the… Read more »
SomeLIHBooks
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This is a very well placed question. I was just finishing up my twist out for the week and I started to wonder if the grow out I was doing is worth it. I have aspirations of mid back length and if I can handle it, waist length hair, and like the others above, I’m doing it my way and because I can. Would straight hair be easier to manage, yes, but I love my kinks and coils and the fact that I can have every style makes it worthwhile to me.

boho.barbie
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I don’t understand why people think the idea of type 4 ladies with long hair is so far fetched. I have type 4 (i think A,B,&C) hair and with the exception of my BC last Feb., I’ve always had BSL hair (natural or relaxed), and it’s on it’s growing back in no time. It’s not uncommon for me to see and not unrealistic.

Anne
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I stand to be corrected but I don’t think she asked whether it was unrealistic or far fetched.…

AfroKisses
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I wasn’t particularly fond of protective styles when my hair was shorter. But for me personally it’s worth it now. However, I like the way I look in protective styles and I don’t know that it would be worth it to wear them if I didn’t like the way I looked because I also think I look good with short hair. If I’m honest I might look a little better with short(to practically no)hair. But I got tired of always making sure my head looked nice…not my hair…my head…I’m trying to see how long it will grow now and I’m… Read more »
Lela7
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I’m similar to you. My hair never really grew beyond neck length when I was younger for a number of reasons, e.g. used to comb it every day with a fine tooth comb, only used blue magic etc.…. But now, its amazing. I’ve been protective styling for around 2 years (wearing wigs etc) and the growth is amazing! No one in my family can believe that my hair is actually coming onto my back. Unfortunately my hair tends to grow in layers, but all over its the longest I’ve ever had it. My aim as a natural was to retain… Read more »
Jc
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Protective styling hugely appeals to me and my general hair laziness.

Protective styling can be cute too, you just have to be creative.

http://thenaturalhaven.blogspot.com/2011/07/can-twistbraid-protective-style-be.html

T.
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“Protective styling hugely appeals to me and my general hair laziness.” That’s basically my story too. My only length-related desire was for my hair to be long enough for me to be able to put my twists up in a high bun, because that makes it even *more* low maintenance, which is basically what I’m after. Having achieved that, I don’t have any other length goals. That being said, I do enjoy seeing growth because it makes me feel that after nearly 20 years of being natural, I’ve finally started to take proper care of my hair. But growing longer… Read more »
Byoteenapp
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Lol! We must be triplets. I put a protective style in, slap a wig on and keep it moving. I love the versatility of wigs while protecting my own 4b/c hair and have been able to grow it between my shoulder blades. Like Lela7 it grows out in layers with the front being much shorter than the back, but whatever. After years of BC’ing whenever the mood hit, I’ve recently jumped on the growth bandwagon. My personal challenge is to keep protective styles in until my b-day next June, when I will have my first blowout in, oh,…12 years. Then… Read more »
Monique, Sofull Sista
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I would suggest asking yourself what you enjoy most:
Having long hair, but being restricted to protective styling? OR
Having short to medium-length hair with free-range for styling?

I realized I prefer the latter…I plan on getting a styled cut very soon! I’m 4b, hair is collarbone length…

juicy
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I personally think protrective styles can be beautiful. And i really low maintenance. Out styles just dont look as cute on me, so maintaining my collarbone length hair in protective styles is just easier and its cute. i dont know why ppl think that ‘protective styling’ is a chore or imprisonment. Its a very creative way to express oneself.

Chocolate Mom
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I never did a big chop so my hair is still long after a year of transitioning. I don’t find it was/is that difficult to maintain my long natural hair. I braid, twist, or knot for a few days and then let out…wash…repeat. My hairdresser that I see every 3 months for a deep condition says my ends are healthy!

Tabitha
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When will people give up this idea of one or the other? You can wear your hair loose and still have long hair retaining as much length so can someone permanently hiding their ends can have short hair.…. I cant anymore

I’ll say to the poster if long hair is what you want then go for it.

Lela7
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The point is a lot of people can’t — which is obvious from a lot of the previous posts. If I didn’t protective style a lot — I would retain very little length and my hair wouldn’t get long. A lot of people with 4b hair are like me!

Monisola
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when I did not protect my hair it did not grow at ALL. NO MATTER what I did. I used all natural products, moisturized, sealed, co washed, deep conditioner, etc, etc, maintained a protien and moisture balance etc. But without protection, my hair will not budge.

Jc
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Have to agree with Monisola and Lela. I have fine 4abcxyz. My hair only ever retains length with long term protective styling.

I think people with looser curls, thick hair and less kinks can manage to have free hair and still grow it long, not generally the case if you have very tight curls, fine hair and many kinks.

binks
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Agreed! If I leave my hair out to much it gets tangle real quick and causes me to get a gang of fairy knots so far me protective style is worth it for my 4a-z hair because I would like to see how long my hair would grow without breaking off due to tangles and knots. Besides, I can get lazy with my hair especially during school and the winter months so protective styling isn’t a big deal for me. But if you are the type of person who loves to style your hair and have options than maybe the… Read more »
anastasia
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+ 1:) I can’t let these 4a-z strands loose y’all for more than one day,I believe they are infatuated with each other, always engaged in some type of contact! I’m also way too active to go without protective styles if I want any growth. But, after much time in braids, twists, and tuck-under up do’s, I will be rockin a wig periodically through the fall and winter to protect my fine strands. Sadly, some of my nauralista friends are giving me hell for shopping for a wig, but one knows what is best for one’s tresses. My tresses are saying:… Read more »
cocobakerchica
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anastasia, rock that wig this winter! I happily wear full and half wigs when it gets cold(in the spring too…the summer is half wig heaven!), because it works for me! I live in the Northeast, and when late fall/winter arrives, it can be rough. Wigs not only protect your style, they keep your head warm!! You can wear hats without worrying about rubbing your hairline, and you can experiment with different textures/colors/lengths without damage or a haircut. Just like you said, I know what’s best for me, and if a wig is best for the colder temps, so be it!
Byoteenapp
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Rock that wig, girl! I have afro wigs and ponytails of different textures that I style in myriad ways. Noone except close friends, my man and my mamma knows they’re not mine! I use a full wig as a traditional ‘fro and like it’s a half one by doing a flat twist close to my hairline, releasing it in the a.m. and pinning it back over the wig hair. In the interest of protection, I prefer to put individual twists or braids in front & style like crazy. The ponytails are worn towards the back of my head, as side… Read more »
Anon
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I do agree that kinky hair often encounter certain challenges when it comes to retaining length, but I also think that some women with kinky hair, who may not otherwise take adequate care of their hair, view protective styling as a panacea for all hair-related ills. A lot of women think that just because you bun/ twist your hair all the time, you don’t need to trim it, etc. “Tucking your ends” cannot remedy/ account for wear and tear that your hair endures from combing, handling, etc. I actually think protective styling is quite useful. In fact, I credit braided… Read more »
Anon
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pardon the copious amount of typos…

cocobakerchica
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well said! I’ve been natural for 15+ yrs. and I also kept my hair in braids as I transitioned(no BC)to natural, and the comb and I are friendly but not that close. I only comb to detangle, and only after spraying some leave in and/or aloe vera juice on my hair. Having healthy hair not only depends on the products used on it, it also relies on what goes into the body. Eating well and staying hydrated also goes a long way into having healthy strong hair. I’m also a huge fan of scalp massage. Not only does it feel… Read more »
Porsha G.
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This is exactly what happens to me
+1

Naomi B
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I have 4b/4 c hair. My hair does not do well when it is loose most of the time. It gets tangled, and breaks alot. It does better when it is in a protective style. At the end of the day, it’s an individal choice. You have to find out what works for your hair, because not everyone’s hair is the same.

JJ
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Having never been past shoulder length I’d love to have waist length (or even longer) hair! Now that I know how to care for my hair it is actually a possibility so I am definitely giving it my best shot. It is worth it just to prove to myself (and consequently to people around me) that it is possible, and for the versatility of long hair. Since my hair shrinks up on a major level it won’t always be obvious that my hair is long so I’m not really bothered by whether others see it, I am doing this for… Read more »
Michelle Hubbard
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I am starting to grow my type 4 hair out longer. For me, the key is just remembering to keep the ends moisterized, detangled, sealed and trimmed. I don’t thinks it is EVER a good idea to comb through type 4 hair alot whether you keep it in protectice styles or prefer loose styles(wash-n-go, puff, twist-out,etc).

Monisola
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I had the same exact problem, my hair needs to be protected literally 90% of the time to retain the maximum length. And my texture disagrees with small twists and box braids, they get too tangled and the ends knot. Limited protective styling options combined with the need for constant protection was very difficult for me to handle. Also all the work and time it takes!! But I discovered kinky twists and yarn twists! WOW! I make them bra strap length which offers lots of styling options!! AND I can keep my twists in for 5 weeks at a time.… Read more »
Ogo
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What is Nigerian hair? We don’t have the same hair and I am Nigerian.

Anon
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it’s something lil’ wayne invented.

Ogo
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Ha!

Niki
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For me, it’s not worth the effort. My hair was a bit past shoulder length but you know what? Just thinking about how much braiding and weaving and protective styling (the time and cost )I’d have to do over the coming years to get it to bra strap length made me cut it off. I’ve read so many places that ‘all hair grows at the same rate’. If that were true, there wouldn’t be so many blogs catering to black hair and getting it to grow. To put it simply, and as Jessica mentioned in her question, looser textures tend… Read more »
ty
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Well, our hair grows like weeds too. Just retaining the length is usually the problem. I’m lazy, so I“ve never had much trouble. I do my hair once a week and just stuff it in a bonnet @ night and fluff n the am. I don’t get a foot of growth a year or anything, but I’d say a good 5–6 inches.

Jane
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The ignorance in that comment was appalling. I just couldn’t bother responding, but you did a good job of it. Why is she confusing growth with the ability to retain? Who ever said these concoctions were mandatory? People do it because they enjoy it.

NeNatural
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I think all the pulling and tugging from the braids/weaves and such did your hair in.… I made it a point not to let anybody pull or over heat my hair because it can be damaging if your not skilled and plus I like to wash and pony tail or bun. I’ve been natural for over a year and I did my first blow dry and twist out.….love it, and glad I waited.

If you don’t like having a head full of hair to play around with a grow, then going natural is not for you.

mimi
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Ok so I just want to say that eventhough my hair is not that long at the moment, I still think it’s worth it to grow it out. If that’s what you want, like others said. It doesn’t have to be a lot of effort. One example that I will give: HairCrush on Youtube. She has inspired me. Her hair is SO long and most people forget that her hair is 4b, 4c. She wears her hair out alot in twistouts. So make ur own rules. It’s YOUR hair.

E
Guest

Naw I believe she is more 3c/4a because there is alot of curl definition in her hair. But her hair is gorgeous so thick and healthy.

Jane
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Or you want her to be 3c/4a.….

Her hair is whatever she says it is.

Ysatis
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Haircrush is NOT a 4b/4c. She has not shrinkage. As a 4/b/c my extremely coily, kinky, 90 % shrinkage hair is worlds apart from Haircrush’s a bit kinky hair, no shrinkage hair.

coco
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OR maybe sometimes people want people on YT to be the long haired, against the odds type 4b/c when in fact they are a 3c or 4a who has just mistyped their hair. A lot of YTers do not come from hair boards and do not set any stock in hair typing. Most have only a rudimentary grasp of the system but when viewers demand that they type identify, they say whatever they think they may be without really understanding or caring for the system. To me Cipriana of Urbanbushbabes is a long haired 4b/c but Haircrush most definitely isn’t.… Read more »
Cee Cee
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Hairtyping is soooo confusing. I have been natural for like 8 years and I still after so much reading and discussing have no clue what my hair type is. All i know is once I said I was a 3c/4a and people got on me BAD. Saying “oh I hate when people who clearly have a loose hair texture try and say their hair is kinkier…” it was all unfortunate. I love hair crush’s hair though whatever the texture!

Zoopath
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+1 I love Haircrush too and she has given advice that’s helpful to me as a 4b/c but after I saw the video of her air drying her hair with practically no shrinkage I was convinced that she was not a 4b/c.

Ruth
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It is worth it, so you can “whip your hair back and forth” in the faces of the people who called you nigger baby hair when you had a twa!!! …oh, did I just say that???… Okay, so maybe that’s not a good reason but if you find that you actually WANT longer hair, for whatever reason, then you should put in the effort. If long hair doesnt mean much to you, then you shouldnt worry too much about protecting your ends to maintain length. Just don’t stop protecting your hair and cause major breakage. The sole purpose of protective… Read more »
Elora
Guest

is have long hair that you grew worth it!?!

T.
Guest

That is indeed the question. Not everyone thinks long hair is worth the effort/time.

dalilou
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I also think that your face shape and personal style should come into play as well as the work involved. Most people with straighter hair textures get their hair cut in a style when they become adults regardless of what lengths their hair can get to. But if you like long hair and look good with it, then I say go for it.

Shanta
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It’s worth it to me. I wouldn’t describe having all this hair as challenging because I won’t let it be. Maybe if I were the kind of person who wanted to wear multiple styles throughout the week I’d feel different. I wear two-strand twists most of the week then a twist out until wash day.

Cee Cee
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I honestly think the question is more about finehair rather than kinky hair. Because regardless of how kinky your hair is (or how kinky it is not) fine hair is always going to be more difficult to grow and needs more babying. I am always torn over if it is worth the effort. I have 3b/3c hair and it is very fine and i am at BSL and it takes so much to get longer than this. I just want to enjoy it and not keep it in protective styles so much. I guess when I get to my goal… Read more »
Niki
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I have to agree Cee Cee, my hair is fine as well and even as it grew and could easily be styled differently, the fuzziness drove me nuts. I had visions of it being longer and STILL being a fuzz ball around my hairline. Good luck with the growth!

rw
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i say enjoy it, short as well, protective styles shouldnt equate hiding it til its ‘better’ or longer, rock out with ur fro out, thats like wait til u have money to travel, dont put stuff off things are ‘ideal’, life is tooo short

Monzi
Guest

I thought the same thing…
I have a small fro and still working with what I got but I want to see how long it can grow. However I know I’ll have to work extra hard compared to my 3A,B,C and 4A girls

ANON
Guest

I agree. I see those other hair types journeys and their retention are completely different to my own. I also have fine hair which adds difficulty to retention.

Chantel
Guest

When I first bc’d I had absolutely no length goal in mind. I just wanted to see was my hair was capable of with the proper care. The past few years have brought more length into my life than I anticipated but I’m still loving every second of it. Even the weird in between stage was worth it b/c it gave me patience and greatly increased my creativity. Either way it goes if I wanna dye it, cut it or loc it the next day I’m totally happy with my hair.

Nicole
Guest

It’s definitely worth it, but for me it’s about balance. I could have worn my hair in twists most of the year and have really long hair and I would love it…or I could play around, experiment and keep my hair healthy, knowing that my length retention goal will take a bit longer, enjoy the ride, and still love it. There are periods where protective styles are my go to, but I don’t want my goal of long hair to prevent me from enjoying my hair.

cygnet
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More often than not, I find caring for my hair to be therapeutic, particularly the cleansing and styling. The only time I don’t enjoy it, other than when it’s only 4 inches long, is when I try to manage it in the wrong frame of mind or under a time constraint. And the more hair I’m able to keep on my head, the better I like it. My hair is growing into new length territory, in spite of the challenge it is to retain any length at all, and I’m excited. I still have to keep reminding myself that my… Read more »
mangomadness
Guest

More often than not, I find caring for my hair to be therapeutic, particularly the cleansing and styling.”

I agree! I think my hair has helped me get through some tough emotional times. Weird, huh?

Nubiahbella
Guest

Not weird! lol!

My hair has helped me too.

Cee Cee
Guest

Me too!! Doing my hair calms me down and relaxes me. The styling part. Sitting on the floor with my leave-ins, olive oil mix…yes a nice space to be in!

anastasia
Guest

Yes!! + 1 on the therapeutic- my time for gentle and loving self-care 🙂

mangomadness
Guest
I have tightly coiled and highly textured, collarbone length hair. Styling, caring (and growing out) my is very enjoyable and well worth my time. My natural hair retains length–with or without protective styling (my “relaxed” hair didn’t retain length but I was not into “healthy” haircare at the time). I know I do not need to wear protective styles 24/7 in order to retain length. If I felt limited to protective styles in order to do so, I wouldn’t be as happy with my hair as I am. All I need to do is keep my scalp clean and my… Read more »
Oh Bother
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My hair just grows regardless. My strands are really thick though so length retention is not an issue for me. I can see how protective styling would a be very helpful to fine haired naturals though. I just can’t say that my ropes have to be babied in the same fashion. I remember always hearing in salons “Oh your hair is so THICK.” They would say it like I had been cursed. Little did they know that my thickness is a blessing not a curse. At least it has been while I have been natural.
Zyaran
Guest

I think it’s definitely worth it, the ups and downs that you go throught with yr hair to get it healthy and long. Just be patient with it and eat properly and excerise it will grow.
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Kendra
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I’m 4A/4B/4C and I really think the protective styling thing is a case by case issue. In general protective styling can help all hair types and it has helped me, but I can’t say that it affected my length retention at all. I prefer wearing protective styles these days because my hair is looong now and I’m LAZY with it because it takes so gosh darn long to style, but when i first went natural all i did was wear it out even up to the time I reached APL. What helped me retain length during that period was just… Read more »
Lady P
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I’ve been natural since 1999 after the lovely results of my last creamy crack hair experience. Only in Sept of 2010 did I start paying attention to W’s to my haircare. i.e. What I use on it & what actually works, How I handle and manage it & why I do what I do to my hair. It has been a great learning experience. All things of God are Good or better yet GREAT! My hair, our hair is GREAT & should be celebrated by caring for it in such a way that all are “naturally” amazed! Pslms 139:14 NIV… Read more »
taurusdragonfly
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For me, it’s not worth it. I had that realization this year and it has been very freeing. The monotony of protective styles, daily time investment of hair care (finger detangling, retwisting, moisturizing, etc.), and my personal style preferences crush the benefits of a long ponytail or proving (to anyone) that it is possible. In order for me to retain length at an appreciable rate, I basically can never color, flat-iron, wash-n-go, fall sleep or have sex without covering my hair, skip a deep conditioning session, Dominican blow-out…Yeah, it’s not that serious. My hair is fine, super delicate, and shrinks… Read more »
Annie L.
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In order for me to retain length at an appreciable rate, I basically can never color, flat-iron, wash-n-go, fall sleep or have sex without covering my hair, skip a deep conditioning session, Dominican blow-out…”

:)))))

LBell
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This right here…I’m wearing the BAA right now and yeah, it’s not the best style for length retention on my fine, super-delicate, super-shrinky hair, but I don’t care because I’m feeling like wearing big sexy hair right now AND I hate store-bought hair with a passion. Hair GROWS. That’s what it does. Length retention is a totally different matter. (How come some black women still don’t get that?) Some hair retains length without any effort, and some requires lots of effort. That’s just how it BE. It all depends on how badly you want long hair and how much time… Read more »
Zyaran
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Check out this youtuber “DanyelleElizbeth” called Messy High Bun Tutorial… This is gorgeous can you image the shrinkage or nonshrinkage of her hair.

httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5HumvJRoNvw

Annaleisha
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Is there a way to request to view a vid that is private.

Bea
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WHO IS THAT? The model in the header, I mean.

Durelene aka Dee
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great topic, its worth growing if you have the time and patience to take care of it and you do not need PS to retain length. I have been nature 2 years as of 8/23 and this is comparison [img]http://bglhonline.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/08/comic(2).jpg[/img] [img]http://bglhonline.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/08/comic(5).jpg[/img] my hair is the longest and healthies in 2 years than it has ever been in my entire life! sad i know. Now i cant say it was a piece of cake/piece of pie but I am enjoying it so it doesnt feel like hard work. I must say, the longer the hair the harder to style, especially because… Read more »
Shelli
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Gorgeous hair!!

octavia
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lovely

amanda
Guest

it absolutely is. regardless of if your hair is loose or kinky, we have all been told as black women for centuries that our hair is not beautiful and cannot grow. if it is your desire to prove yourself and others wrong of that take on the challenge.

protective styling can seem limiting but that’s where the beauty of creativity comes in. no other woman can do what we can as black women. that’s why we’ve been put down for so long. the longer our hair gets the more we prove that. so yes. it is so worth it. 🙂

napfrocurlzgirl
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I’ve been natural for 41 years, but decided to start growing out my hair last year. In cold months, I wear it in twists but don’t tuck my ends. I also “might” get my ends trimmed once a year…still hate scissors in my hair. I’ve gone through two cycles of constant twists and have gained two feet in length. It’s not a lot of work if you keep it simple so it’s worth it to me. I’m not a product or style junky, so I just dc, wash, cond and twist my hair once a week, and I love it!… Read more »
alex
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I was just thinking about this the other day. I got my first relaxer at 5 (I was literally born with an afro — and I came out breach, imagine how gross that looked! lol ) and my hair was waist length for years, up until I hit high school. As you can imagine, I, like many others, never knew or remembered my real hair texture. When I hit college I just couldn’t afford to keep my hair up and started inadvertently “stretching”. February 2009 was my last relaxer and I decided to go natural, I’m a 4b/4c hair texture.… Read more »
Archelans
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I believe it is worth it if that is what a person wants. Over three years, I grew my hair out to where it was all hitting the length of my collar bone. I enjoyed it, yet realized I was damaging my hair. I used to get Dominican blow outs. So, I was able to wear my hair in various styles with the thanks to the blow outs afro, twist-outs or straight and layered. I grew frustrated with realizing I was damaging my hair However, I realized my ends were becoming damaged by the heat. I went to the hair… Read more »
Miatta McCrummsay
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As a 4b/4c (my head has 2 textures of hair)I feel it is more of a struggle for me to grow my hair to long lengths. I’ve actually never had growth past my shoulders while I was relaxed. Now that I’ve been natural for 18 months I’ve got to watch my hair grow, but I would like it to grow longer esp. in the back of my head.I actually like protective styling for the reasons you mentioned. Also because I’m a college student. Why too active and busy to pic, comb, brush, plat( at night)my hair everyday. So the protective… Read more »
Tricia
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Not for me cause I’m fustrated right now!!! I buy the expensive stuff and the cheaper stuff and its been more than 4 yrs and I’m tired of this. Right now I just took out braids and I’m putting them back in next two weeks because wow I’m fustrated with this hair of mine!!!

Momobyon
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I believe its completely worth it. Unlike a lot of natural women today, I’ve always known my hair and the amazing things it could do. I had a relaxer for only five years 13–18 and I lost a lot of my natural hair how-to. I thought it was too much hassle to try and deal with my hair so I tried dreads for two years. I’ve been natural since 08 and this year makes three years. 😀 I got tired of the dreads and cut off all my hair. I had about an inch on my head. In just four… Read more »
anonymous
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Yes girlfriend…it is worth it..I had the same texture you have 4b. I tried to get my hair to grow but I was unsuccessful. It was not growing because I was getting my hair relaxed and wearing weave at the same time which totally destroyed my hair and my hair growth. So I bit the bullet and said “no more relaxers,” for a while. Boy was it challenging but I managed to keep relaxers, heat, and weave out of my hair for two years. Guess what…my hair is about 12 inches long in the back and about 10 inches long… Read more »
Bribri
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[img]http://bglhonline.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/09/Picture2032.jpg[/img]I am natural myself for 3 to 4 years now. people are surprised how long my hair has grown…so am I! especially with 4c hair and 4bhair at certain sections. It is possible. hoping for waist length in the next 6 months 🙂

TJ
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How did you get your hair so long??? I’m probably going to hit my 3 year marker soon. (I don’t know my exact natural bday) and my hair is about half or less than half your length.

Candy
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I never even thought about growing my hair to any particular length in the 9 years I’ve been kinky. At first, I just rocked the fro (because I’m short and it made me look taller, lol). Then when I got pregnant, that mess had to GO! Hot flashes, anyone? Super short hair is my first love, I found out, lol. But in the last year, I challenged myself to go two years without cutting (cheated six months ago) and have been pleasantly surprised at how much I can do with it, even though it’s only hitting the top of my… Read more »
EMANON
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WHO IS THE GIRL IN THE PICTURE?.… WHAT IS HERE HAIR TYPE
BTW IM THIK IM TYPE 4 SOMETHIN AND IM MID BACK LENGTH ITS A HEADACHE… BUT IM ADJUSTING… I JUST WANT TO KNOW WHAT PRODUCTS TO USE FOR MY TYPE SO I WEAR WIGS AND KEEP MY HAIR BRAIDED LIKE WOOPIE IN THE COLOR PURPLE LOL

Upfulsistren
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Can some of the grade 4(ABC)Sistahs suggest some hair products they use? I had locs for 10 years, I did the BC this summer and now I am in the process of growing my hair out. I would love some care and styling suggestions/products for my gorgeous thick kinky textured hair. Thanks!

KINKY HAIR GIRL
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sure, qhemet is excellent, amla and olive heavy cream, karens body beautiful deep conditioner, coconut oil, castor oil. i dont use anything thats too light or watery bc it will take soo much of that product to moisturize my hair. i also suggest leaving in any conditioner, just making sure your scalp is clean, this can work wonders in the moisture department. i also use karens body beautiful utter and creamilicious for when my hair is blown out. you want to start doing all this caring stuff early so your hair wont require trips and has minimal breakage twistouts are… Read more »
Tonia
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I personally like to use oils like oluve, coconut, castor, shea butter, etc. A very good leave in (Kimmaytube leave-in conditioner) whicthe recipe can be found many places on YouTube.com. The conditioner is great for braid-outs/twist-outs & really transforms super kinky hair into soft, shiney, healthy hair IMO. Check out what youtubers say about it & see if it works for you. Good luck!

Jaz
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@ Upfulsistren
Check out naptural85 youtube vids and blog. They are awesome! She has a mixture of type 4 hair as well. She makes her own homemade products and buys an all natural mud shampoo. I have not tried them yet because my hair is in sew-in, but once I take it out I will! Her hair is beautiful!

Upfulsistren
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Thanks!

KC
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Hi. I have been growing out my 3c hair for about 3 years with my fullest efforts. My hair has had its struggles though. It has “dropped” over the years, it has been cut “accidently” by hairdressers who do not have a clue and I have been through so many products looking for moisture that I think my texture has even changed. My curls have gotten a bit looser which has been a good thing and that comes over time with length. I guess what I am trying to share is, I think the answer to the question is, it… Read more »
Letrice
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I was just thinking about this this weekend. I used to want a 17 inch afro. I wanted it to be long enough so that even with shrinkage, I still had a significant amount of length. I can’t even say that I care so much right now. My hair has seem to hit a standstill in its growth. I’m sure a lot of that has to do with moisture, drinking water, stress, and eating the right things. I even considered doing another big chop to just start over. What I’ve realized is that I’m STILL learning to love my hair… Read more »
chicconsumer7
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No. I have been natural most of my life. I have had short hair, long hair, and on average between 8–12 inches of hair on my head at any given time. That is the easiest length for me to maintain, no matter what. Even with a curl (in the 1st grade, MJ was my inspiration), a relaxer (about 4 years of my life), or natural, my hair can be that length (just below my shoulders) with out too much hassle. I am okay with that. I was a high level athlete, I now teach sports and am an attorney. I… Read more »
MoZaic
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I’m down for the challenge I wish for my hair to grow to BSL with no stretching lol I know thats gonna be hard but I wanna at least try it.!

ambi
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It is a struggle and it’s worth it IF you like or just want long hair, I have long hair I have 12 t o14 inches and for me while I look decent with short hair I look even better with long (again this is what works for my face and my personality) however being natural for 6 years it really is a lot of work, the tighter the curl it seems to get tangled more easily and I have porous hair so retaining moisture is a struggle for me too, my hair grows when up but is actually really… Read more »
Candi
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Before I permed my hair in high school, I had relatively long 4b kinky hair. I did wear protective styles a great deal, but I did enjoy a great deal of twist, cornrows, and afros puffs. I think it really depends on you.

Arrie
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I went natural may 07.my hair has just grown like weeds. 4a hair has good days and bad when its pass shoulder
lenght. I feel the longer it is the more time it takes to do any and everything. Over all I love my hair.if your hair
Isn’t healthy you will more than likely hates having long natural hair. Knots, tangles, breakage,etc is higher.
I have stress over my hair upset because the time spent and frustration, but when I learned my hair life was
Easier. This will become an investment. protective styles help maintain lenght. Grow it and learn it’s worth it

Natural Newbie
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I’m a 4c and have been transitioning for 2 years by keeping my hair in cornrows (with extensions). It is the only protective styling I know. Does a database (or website) of protective styling exist? I can’t seem to find much online. Thank you so very much.

tropicalnatural
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Look at youtube. There are tons and I do mean tons of videos on protective styles, some with extensions, others w/o, there are many many styles for transitioners too.

Ramatoulai
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I have locs, but when I did not, I grew my hair out from the perm, w/o cutting it. I just clipped a half inch off every 6 mos., until eventually, the perm was gone. It took 3 years. So my hair was always long, until I colored it. Then, it broke off so badly, I had to cut it down to a short afro to even it out. I really did not like wearing my hair short. Short hair does not suit me. I’m thinning on top though, because of male-pattern baldness which both my parents had (it’s a… Read more »
lilblkcdw
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I wore my hair natural when I was in my early twenties. Then I went into the corporate world and started relaxing my hair. Now that I am sixty I decided to go back to my natural hair. After 2 years my hair is to my chin. Not the shorter afro from my youth. I am just getting to know my hair again. During the summer I would wash, condition and go I let my hair dry on the go. Now that it is getting cold I don’t know how to handle it. If I blow dry my hair it… Read more »
Bianca
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Try the bantu knot outs…they’re cute easy and professional.

Tonia
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Growing out my kinky, 4Z hair is definitely worth the effort. The more I learn about my hair, the more I LOVE IT! I had Sister Locs (16–18in) for 7 yrs & recently took them down so no BC from my locs. It took 19 days & I was left with 6–7in once trimmed. Its 3 months later & my hair is pretty healthy & groring nicely. I’m pretty confident that my hair will get back or even surpass the 16–18in I had with the locs but until then, I’m really trying to enjoy the journey & not rush things.
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desparetlywannaluvmyhair
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desparetlywannaluvmyhair
Hi, I see all those ladies with beautifull hair saying they have 4d,e even z type of hair and I would LOOOVE to have the same hair they have. Even my mom admits that my hair is the kinkiest she ever saw. I am natural and I have been for almost 4 years, my hair is growing but I DO NOT KNOW what to do with it. Whatever I do with my hair gives me a “messy look”, I would like to look clean and professional but my baby hair around the edges of my hair are unruly. I desparately… Read more »
Adrienne Michelle
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Hi!

Yes! All you need is more exploration. I know it sounds crazy. But you will find out what works for your hair, and then you will be able to manage it and style it the way IT can be/wants to be styled. Try not to be discouraged. Be encouraged. But hey, on the flipside.. if you like your hair better short… who’s to say that that isn’t cute too?

Tonia
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Hi desparetlywannaluvmyhair! Do some research on the Brazilian Blowout on African American hair on Youtube…not other brands, just the Brazilian Blowout name & brand. It’s not a perm or anything like one but it definitely makes super kinky hair more manageable. I got one in September and I love it. It’s basically a deep, deep conditioning adding keratin to each strand of your hair. Even those with perms/relaxers can get it. It makes your hair stronger and adds a lot of shine to ordinarily dry looking hair.It’s a little pricey but your don’t need the treatment often. I plan to… Read more »
Tikvah
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Be careful with keratin treatments. A Brazilian Blowout can nicely straighten your hair, but some naturals struggle to get their natural curl pattern back afterwards (I have heard of some bad experiences). Keratin can actually permanently alter one’s natural curl pattern.

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Adrienne
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Jessica, I have been asking the same question for a long time now. Going natural IS easier for those who have curl patters that are loose. For me — a 4b, 4c, I just chose to relax my hair once or twice a year (as opposed to once every six weeks) because I love the state of my thick relaxed hair. Also, I realized that for me, the discussion about whether I should go natural wasn’t necessarily about “going natural” as it were, but was more about being bored with my hair. But relaxed hair can do exactly what natural… Read more »
tina
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That’s not true it has nothing to do with hair type you are giving bad advice

Tikvah
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I do have a type 4 curl pattern, but I think curly naturals of all hair types have difficulties learning how to work with their natural curls. It is true that type 4 hair can be very demanding, but the same applies to other hair types — I do not believe it is possible to judge that one hair type is harder to take care of than another hair type. If you do not know how to take care of your hair, it really does not matter whether you are a 3A or 4Z. I have a friend with very… Read more »
Stephanie
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YOUR HAIR IS SO GORGEOUS!!!!!

Dawn
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i think so. my hair is about 12–13 inches, and growing your hair long, in my experience, is a learning curve all unto itself. it was really easy for me to maintain and grow my hair when it was shorter than my shoulders, but now that it’s past my armpits, it requires new techniques, more intensive operations and just a gameplan altogether. i could get away with doing anything to it when it was short. not so now, not if i wanna keep my length and add some more. so that’s the thing, is just being prepared to challenge yourself.… Read more »
Niani
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Yes, it is absolutely worth it. I don’t measure my very kinky hair with what other type of hairs can do. I am proud of the potentials and embrace the limitations. And most importantly, I refuse to bow down to what the western ideal of beauty is trying to impose on my hair. I work in a coporate world and have been natural for the past nine years. I had very long permed hair. So long that most people always thought it was a weave; and at time, I got teased because of it. One day, I went to the… Read more »
Pat
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For me it’s not worth the effort, l like my hair short to medium length worn out. I don’t want hair all over my head dominating my face. I like to wash and re-wet my hair on a daily basis and style with air drying then I lift it and I’m done. I certainly never liked playing with and doing hair in a time consuming manner. I’m 50 yrs old so I just want healthy and neat hair.

Monica
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Many people with natural long don’t have super kinky hair. I want to hear from some one like me. Hair so kinky that combing it takes out hair and less that 10 mins later its right back tangled. Most people who are pro natural keep short kinky hair or have some Type of curl pattern. But not everyone’s hair is like that.

tina
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Thegoodbadugly
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Yes, it’s worth it. Once you find the right routine.…I’ve been natural for a long time and about two months ago realized my hair (kinky, type 4) was damaged and dry after lots of things — micro twists, puffs, attempting to wear twist-outs, etc. And probably the most significant factor was not using conditioner for a very long time! So trim/cut and then trim/cut — lots of frustration! After more than 2 months of experiments (various spritz recipes, oil rinse, baggy method), i finally discovered that my 2-strand twists will stay soft and weighted by applying and squeezing in, not… Read more »
more
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Im wondering the same thing! To be honest im transitioning currently having a difficult time retaining length.

My hair has never gone past shoulder to be honest if my natural hair does not grow out im going right back to relaxers!

LuciaBhujune
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My hair is just how @Monica has described !! It’s so soft to touch because I look after and condition it regularly and every now and then treat it with henna. But combing it ?!? O. My. DAYS,! It’s a mission. And just when I think iv finished, it curls in on itself and feels tangled all over again. Vexing but I still make it work. Today a colleague said I reminded her of janelle monae with the way I had worn my hair. I think it’s totally worth growing out kinky hair. I stopped relaxing my hair around 2011… Read more »
Nykki smith
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I havent had a relaxer in 8 months. I have really super duper kinky nappy dry brillo pad hair, none of that cute soft curly textured stuff. So, its super hard for me but Im taking it day by day. about I have about 12 inches of hair, have is natural and half of it is still relaxed, most of all of the relax part has grown out. So I has been experimenting with different curl patterns using different types and sizes of rollers/straws/ flexi rods sets. The thicker it gets the harder it seems to style it. I try… Read more »
Enjoyingmynaturaljourney
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Enjoyingmynaturaljourney
I have 4b hair. I stopped relaxing my hair Feb 2012. I big chopped Oct 2012. My hair is very thick. Even when I relaxed I had days I wanted to cry when I had to comb it because of its thickness. Since going natural I’ve learned what my hair likes. Moisture moisture moisture! Water is your friend. Along with a good conditioner and the right oils. I’ve seen my “naps” turn into curls. It’s still thick and I have my days where I’m out of patience with it and ill rake a comb through it ( i know that’s… Read more »
Enjoyingmynaturaljourney
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Enjoyingmynaturaljourney

Oh and as a side note: the shrinkage factor is ridiculous. Here’s a more recent pic
[img]http://blackgirllonghair.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/02/image-17.jpg[/img]
You’d never know that it almost touches my shoulders when I pull it.

lilkunta
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yesi have 4d hair. is there a blog on out type hair?

Eva
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I completely understand this post. I am living this post. My hair is very antisocial and will only grow under conditions where we are not interacting at all, which makes for very limited styling options. Right now I am experiencing growth with box braids. Twists cause tangles for me so I can’t have them in very long. I guess what is keeping me going is the idea that I can do it and the need to answer the question of, “Can my hair grow long?” However, it can be very frustrating and there are times that I did want to… Read more »
Pseudonym
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I’m echoing what someone else said (so that you’d hear it). It’s totally worth it if you (1) strive to find a simple routine, (2) don’t obsess over length and don’t set length goals, (3) trim your hair sparingly (I do once every 6 months), and (4) let your hair be what it is instead of spending so much time trying to force it to be what you want it to be. If you hair is kinky, you’ll save time if you give yourself an awesome kinky style. If you have wavy/curly hair, you’ll save time doing an awesome wavy… Read more »
Rachel
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Your middle paragraph is exactly my routine right now. And my style is just one braid at night, that gets unbraided in the morning and picked out with my fingers, and gets braided back up at night. If I don’t go out, the braid doesn’t come out.

Nice and easy, lol.

Mukisa
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This is a toughie, Jessica. I am at that point myself. I am a 4c natural, with a LOT of thick hair. I can’t even really style my own hair, It’s just that much and that thick. I went natural in March and already my hair has grown enough that it can be styled. My mom graciously two strand twists my hair every two weeks and that works for me, given my busy schedule. I just wonder about all the 4b/c women with longer hair as well.

St. Mary
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For me it’s not worth it. No matter how long my hair gets, it always looks shoulder length lol. Its belly button length straight but it’ll never stay that way, so I don’t really care anymore about growing it out. It was more fun in a lion fro anyways.

tina
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What effort?? Once you embrace and not fight it theres not much to it.

candy
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AMEN! Look at my routine(8 months natural): shampoo once a week, cowash every other day, boom, that’s it! Lol! My hair is growing really well and it looks amazing 🙂

Danyelle
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candy your routine will become increasingly unrealistic as your hair grows trust me.…unless you have hours of time every other day to spare

Renee
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I could never do this now. When it was short I washed every day and before I knew it it had grown. I am struggling now to wash or cowash weekly.

SantanaNyla
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You betcha it’s worth it. Of course you’ll have to bend over to style it due to length and save up for hair products.

Arrie
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My hair is long and its been six years. The hair just grows before U know it. I can’t say its harder to manage it just takes longer because the hair is longer. It does look short when curly only because it is healthy. 4a curls over here!!!

shankelis
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yes it is worth it. A mean its your hair, but unfortunately some hair cant grow past its original length,like mine.

CherishBomb
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I was stuck at APL until I began protective styling regularly. I’m at MBL now and continuing to protective style. I still wear my hair down every now and again, but it’s mostly tucked away for two weeks at a time. Based on my experience, it’s certainly worth it. As far as styling, I used to think I would be limited, but all that was really limited was my imagination. I do all kinds of styles now. I hated protective styling at first, but I grew to like it with expansion of my style repertoire.

Alberta Naa Atwesa Nunoo
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Alberta Naa Atwesa Nunoo

APL ..MBL??

aaliyah
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Dreadlocks are really worth the effort!

Candice
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Every woman goes through their journey. Its all about self image, determination, and mentality. For many women, the natural journey is a spiritual experience. Its not an instant gratification for women with kinky textures. Personally, I started my natural journey because, “I don’t rock fake Gucci, Louis,or Prada, so why am I consistently wearing Brazilian wavy 24”?” It was more about seeing my natural beauty, and not being pretty for a black woman. There is something about being the only black woman in a room and being the only one who has ever had a weave. It is worth it.… Read more »
WANTINGsupershortORlonghair
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WANTINGsupershortORlonghair
I think growing out kinky hair is worth the effort just as much as growing out relaxed/texlaxed/locs/whatever else… The point in growing out my hair is to maintain health first, and length or whatever style desire second. I’ve been natural prior to now, and grew my hair waist length, then got anxious and cut it really short… and the cycle for me continues, but the hard work and effort does not. I agree, shorter hair and even relaxed hair takes less time (for me anyways) than my kinky hair (4a/4b), but the effort is the same. I have not stopped… Read more »
MizzusBrown
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My hair grows faster without relaxers. They say it’s a 3B, which is a very loose curl. However, I envy the 4B’s because their hair has more shape to it. Mostly, I just heat style and flat iron my natural hair. It was worth it because I save money by not going to the salon as much. How much are perms these days anyway? About $100?

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